help with erection problems!

[Quoll]

Yep, was going to suggest the blindfold and restraints coupled with a massage, again not necessarily focusing on sex.

Sweet Erika, OMG well you have ruined it for me, you mean to say that when she screams no, no, no more, she means it.

Think about it pepsiman, a good night in bed is actually about 90-95 % not intercourse, sure if I could endlessly loop like they do in pornos it might be a different story.

With the exception of a quickie, if my wife had to make the choice between intercourse only or everything else, intercourse would be gone. 5% vs 95%

Of course she also said she prays she never has to make that choice

 

[pepsiman_607]

I really apprecaite all the replys i am getting...We just layed around last night and watched a movie... and we were just cuddling around and i got a pretty decent erection....she started jerkin it and i played with her a little bit and then i stopped it so it could go ne further....but then later on in the night she gave me head...i dont even know if i stayed hard or not i was too into the moment...

 

[fergus4]

I really apprecaite all the replys i am getting...We just layed around last night and watched a movie... and we were just cuddling around and i got a pretty decent erection....she started jerkin it and i played with her a little bit and then i stopped it so it could go ne further....but then later on in the night she gave me head...i dont even know if i stayed hard or not i was too into the moment...

GREAT NEWS Pepsiman!!!!!

Yes, the intercourse, the erection,....all secondary to pleasing your partner and allowing your partner to please you!

Now that you mind is already less focused on that one detail, you and your lover will have good times indeed.

fergus

 

[Quoll]

We have a winner.

I really apprecaite all the replys i am getting...We just layed around last night and watched a movie... and we were just cuddling around and i got a pretty decent erection....she started jerkin it and i played with her a little bit and then i stopped it so it could go ne further....but then later on in the night she gave me head...i dont even know if i stayed hard or not i was too into the moment...

Someone once said, or at least should have."Good sex is mostly in the mind"

Fantastic news pepsiman, not only are things returning to normal, you have also gained an insight into one of the many ways to increase the pleasure for both of you.
Imagine four days of foreplay, and the tension and release that this brings.(Oh wait, you said you are eighteen, you probably cant imagine two days without sex, let alone four try two hours of slow fondling and playing.)
Just don`t get carried away with your success, keep on doing your exercises, you will both benefit from it in so many ways.
Getting into the moment is the way to go, concentrate on what you are feeling, not what might or might not haappen.
Now go young man, fuck and be happy.
Please drop back in to let us know how things are going.
And bring your G/fF too.

 

[pepsiman_607]

we'll see how everything goes this weekend...ill keep u guys posted if u want..

 

[pepsiman_607]

It's been awhile since the last update and things are still jsut going south. Even by myself during masturbation I cant get a good firm erection. I just cant get it hard like it use to be with no problem, wut could be a physical problem? Can it just come up out of no where or what? I'm defintly going to see a doctor but i just wanna know wut to expect? Anyone been here?

 

[curiousjen]

I've been there, not in an actual sense (since I am a woman) but I have a partner who suffered from erection problems. It can be a really damaging thing, and I don't think telling you that this is the real world is entirely helpful. For some people it can be really stressful, my boyfriend actually got depressed because of it, and it used to eat him up. All I can say is that I would be prepared to bet a significant amount of money that this is 100% mental and 0% physical. You aren't that sexually experienced, you lost an erection, it was a huge knock to your confidence- you felt like you'd failed, and then you became so anxious over it every time you had sex you can't stop thinking about it. Its just fear.

Some things that helped us

1)Have sex. If you lose your erection don't pull out or have a paddy fit, just stay inside of her and take your time and see if you can get it back. See if she can massage you with her muscles, the vagina really is a very powerful weapon to fight this thing, she just has to know how to use it. Don't avoid having sex, because we did and ended up getting so scared of it we didn't have sex for nearly six months

2) Try to get caught up in the moment. Talk dirty, role play fantasies. get your mind active on the action and try to fight it from going to that bad place which is full of your doubts and your fears.

3) Listen to what other people here have said. Sweeterika gave you some very good advice about what women want. Most women i know love sex, but like others have said sex is a very broad term and fooling around and just taking time to explore each other can be just as fun as hardcore screwing.

4) Don't panic. This is (I am pretty sure from judging your panicked posts) a psychological block you have got yourself into and you will have to get over it yourself. Your parnter can help you but its your battle. My partner is much better now, although years later it still bothers him sometimes. I see that flicker in his eyes and i know he is battling to keep his headspace good. By nipping it in the bud now (you are only young) you will hopfully never get that bad. What I am trying to say is that you can totally get over this if you are strong and patient and most importantly DON'T PANIC.

Good luck and keep us updated

Jen

p.s. even though i think its mental, i would still recommend a trip to the doctor just to make sure everythings ok. it might be a bit embarrasing but its worth it just to be reassured all is well.