Help with dom
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www.literotica.comraniny said:
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raniny said:
There are pages upon pages of exactly that question/request in the "BDSM" section of this forum.
Check the library at the top of the forum for threads you'd like to read.
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SweetErika
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There are links to easy bondage techniques in THIS recent thread . I posted my favorite tutorial site there. Make sure you pay attention to the info on safety - it's critical.
There are lots of ideas about. I'd suggest starting with figuring out how you feel and what you'd like to explore. Dominance is something that comes from within, not something that happens due to external forces, like our partners asking for it. Here are two really fantastic pieces that will put you on the right foot:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1364213/tm.htm
http://msrika.com/tvd.htm
When you've tapped into your dominance, the ideas will most likely start flowing. Either way, though, it's a good idea to fill out a BDSM Checklist together so you know what his interests and limits are. Personally, I can't work without that framework; I'm still too new and afraid of crossing boundaries and harming someone. The checklist will also serve to give you ideas, so it's a good thing all around.
If you're interested in anything like impact play (hitting, spanking, whipping, etc.), wax, clothespins, etc., be sure to read up on safety first to avoid inadvertently harming your hubby. There are ideas for all of these things and more, plus things like homemade toys, in the BDSM Talk forum and Library sticky. Most people can have a great time without spending much, if anything, because there are so many "pervertibles" around the house!
As I'm sure you're noticing, this is some work! However, it's all stuff that's likely to serve you well regardless of where this first scene takes you, so it won't be wasted time/effort on your part.
For me, nurturing dominance provides some great side benefits that help counteract some of my issues with self-esteem, power and intimacy due to my past. It doesn't "fix" me by any stretch, but it's a nice complement to the other things I do to feel better. I hope you find this journey to have value in your life, as well.
There are lots of ideas about. I'd suggest starting with figuring out how you feel and what you'd like to explore. Dominance is something that comes from within, not something that happens due to external forces, like our partners asking for it. Here are two really fantastic pieces that will put you on the right foot:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1364213/tm.htm
http://msrika.com/tvd.htm
When you've tapped into your dominance, the ideas will most likely start flowing. Either way, though, it's a good idea to fill out a BDSM Checklist together so you know what his interests and limits are. Personally, I can't work without that framework; I'm still too new and afraid of crossing boundaries and harming someone. The checklist will also serve to give you ideas, so it's a good thing all around.
If you're interested in anything like impact play (hitting, spanking, whipping, etc.), wax, clothespins, etc., be sure to read up on safety first to avoid inadvertently harming your hubby. There are ideas for all of these things and more, plus things like homemade toys, in the BDSM Talk forum and Library sticky. Most people can have a great time without spending much, if anything, because there are so many "pervertibles" around the house!
As I'm sure you're noticing, this is some work! However, it's all stuff that's likely to serve you well regardless of where this first scene takes you, so it won't be wasted time/effort on your part.
For me, nurturing dominance provides some great side benefits that help counteract some of my issues with self-esteem, power and intimacy due to my past. It doesn't "fix" me by any stretch, but it's a nice complement to the other things I do to feel better. I hope you find this journey to have value in your life, as well.
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Use something like tights/pantyhose or scarves with simple knots that can be untied quickly. Be aware that pulling on knots can tighten them and damages delicate blood vessels and tendons in the wrist. Have scissors or something handy to facilitate a quick release if necessary for your guy.
Talk about his fantasies in depth, how he wants to feel etc. Some men like to serve, others to be dominated and made to serve, still others to be used and degraded. Decide what limits you are happy with yourself too. Checklists are a great way of doing this and you can google them quite easily.
I would advise starting light with scarves, a blindfold and teasing him with ice/feathers/ginger/a vibe. Choose a safeword so that he can say 'no' and mean 'yes' if he wants to; something unmistakeable like 'red.'
You can get your guy to give you idea by instructing him to write down his fantasies and discuss what he wants with you (what he gets remains at your discretion) beforehand. I agree with others in that you'll get more relevant information in the BDSM (bondage, domination, submission, sadism & masochism) forum here.
Talk about his fantasies in depth, how he wants to feel etc. Some men like to serve, others to be dominated and made to serve, still others to be used and degraded. Decide what limits you are happy with yourself too. Checklists are a great way of doing this and you can google them quite easily.
I would advise starting light with scarves, a blindfold and teasing him with ice/feathers/ginger/a vibe. Choose a safeword so that he can say 'no' and mean 'yes' if he wants to; something unmistakeable like 'red.'
You can get your guy to give you idea by instructing him to write down his fantasies and discuss what he wants with you (what he gets remains at your discretion) beforehand. I agree with others in that you'll get more relevant information in the BDSM (bondage, domination, submission, sadism & masochism) forum here.
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I would get him extremely horny and then make him tell you what turns him on. After he tells you what turns him on continue torchering him even more until he confesses to everything that turns him on, not just what he first told you. He is bound to hold some back but it will excite him to have to tell you everything. It's all about breaking his will. I wish I were him.
