Help! Valentine's Day

[NoJo]

Ok. I love my wife. I really, really do. But the pressure. I can't stand it. I have to get romantic, and *show* her how much I love her, in only a few days!

Please give me some ideas, or help me choose from the list. What are you romantics going to do for your partners?

 

[NoJo]

Somebody who shall remain nameless just PM-ed me telling me what they were doing for their partner. I couldn't reply bevcause their PM box is full.

So I'll just say it here: If the person who Pm-ed me ever decides to remarry, I'm first in line for them!

 

[MathGirl]

If the person who Pm-ed me ever decides to remarry, I'm first in line for them!

Dear SubJ,
I think that was Og.
MG

 

[Guest]

Joe, I voted 'none' as I do not know your wife so I wouldn't presume to give you advice here. I will presume you'll get some fun answers though. Me? I was always very content with a man saying he loved me (of course if and as if he meant it).

Perdita

p.s. I just tried sending Gauche a PM but his box is full. Hmmm...

 

[Octavian]

None of the above, Joe.

If you really want to show her how much you love her, take her to Highbury to watch the Arsenal.

Octavian, ever the romantic.

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Most of the alternatives above are stereotypic and boring, Joe.

My advice would be that you choose something that SHE likes, and then build on that.
For example, if she likes flowers, take her to a flower shop, and tell her that you two are going to spend a certain amount of money on whatever she wants in there.

My Hubby's not gonna be able to come over here until March, but he told me that when he does, he's gonna take me shopping for a queen size bedspread, that we can snuggle up under together.

To me, that's romantic in many levels. We're going to do something together as a couple. We're gonna do something hat I find fun - shopping - and we're going to invest in something for our future together.

It's not so much what you do for her, but the fact that you have taken the time to think about what she'd like, that she'll find endearing.

 

[Guest]

It's not so much what you do for her, but the fact that you have taken the time to think about what she'd like, that she'll find endearing.

Joe, The Svenskaya is spot on. I underscored the crucial bit of her quote. There is nothing - repeat: nothing - so valued in my life as a truly thoughtful person, and if that person is a man with whom I am 'involved', he's got me pretty good.

best to you, Perdita

 

[oggbashan]

Dear SubJ,
I think that was Og.
MG

Nope. Wasn't me.

What I'll do is make sure we have the whole evening free to TALK to each other. I might include a meal, flowers, whatever - but what she really wants is time to sit and talk without interruptions or distractions. Or walk and talk. Or eat and talk.

Og.

 

[Liar]

Most of the alternatives above are stereotypic and boring, Joe.

My advice would be that you choose something that SHE likes, and then build on that.

...

It's not so much what you do for her, but the fact that you have taken the time to think about what she'd like, that she'll find endearing.

Listen to this lady. If I hadn't read the "What do you do for a living"-thread, I'd had guessed she did romance counsling for a living. Invest twice as much time and effort into whatever it is as you invest money. It's about showing love, not about showing off.

This proves my theory once again: Svenska flickor vet saker.

#Liar

 

[oggbashan]

Re: None of the above, Joe.

If you really want to show her how much you love her, take her to Highbury to watch the Arsenal.

Octavian, ever the romantic.

My youngest daughter met her husband there.

They even had the Arsenal badge on their wedding cake.

Where we they on Sunday? No prizes.

Og

 

[Guest]

OK, now one of you 'blokes' must explain The Arsenal to me (doesn't sound appealing via the word).

Perdita

 

[Liar]

OK, now one of you 'blokes' must explain The Arsenal to me (doesn't sound appealing via the word).

Perdita

Football.

Oh, ok. Soccer.

 

[oggbashan]

Soccer? Just Soccer?

Watching Arsenal play is like watching the SuperBowl every week.

You can get addicted.

Even if some of the players are French, German and other nationalities and the manager is a very suave Frenchman - Arsenal is loved by the English (those who don't support Manchester United).

Og

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Hey Joe,

Is that Ezra Pound behind you?

---dr.M.

 

[oggbashan]

Arsenal - Was Woolwich Arsenal when the team was formed in the 19th century from workers at the government's main armament factory.

Dropped the "Woolwich" when the moved to North London, but still have a cannon on their badge.

At present Arsenal are top of the Premier (highest) division, ahead of Manchester United and Chelsea (which is now owned by a Russian).

Og

 

[Octavian]

Originally posted by Oggbashan

What I'll do is make sure we have the whole evening free to TALK to each other. I might include a meal, flowers, whatever - but what she really wants is time to sit and talk without interruptions or distractions. Or walk and talk. Or eat and talk.

With my method you could still talk at half time.
And a meat pie and a pint of Guinness can be very romantic. What's more an Arsenal programme doesn't wither like flowers do.

It worked for me. Well it would have done apart from the fact that my wife can't abide football, or Guinness, or meat pies!

Octavian

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Listen to this lady. If I hadn't read the "What do you do for a living"-thread, I'd had guessed she did romance counsling for a living. Invest twice as much time and effort into whatever it is as you invest money. It's about showing love, not about showing off.

This proves my theory once again: Svenska flickor vet saker.

#Liar

*takes a bow*

 

[Guest]

Thanks, Ogg and Liar. Nope, the Arsenal wouldn't do it for me.

Perdita

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p.s. Mab., there's a slight resemblance but I don't think that's Pound. Would've been cool though.

 

[NoJo]

Dear SubJ,
I think that was Og.
MG

Og told me he would not take me for his wife if I was the last woman on earth. Which kind of makes all my detailed plans a little pointless.

 

[NoJo]

Hey Joe,

Is that Ezra Pound behind you?

---dr.M.

It's the artist Maurits Escher.

 

[MathGirl]

Og told me he would not take me for his wife if I was the last woman on earth. Which kind of makes all my detailed plans a little pointless.

Dear SJ,
You handle rejection well. Me, I would have been devastated.
MG
Ps. Is Escher the guy who did those drawing of hands?

 

[NoJo]

Yeah, that's the guy. Geeks really like his stuff (and I also like his stuff).

 

[minsue]

I'd love to help, Joe, but so far the only Valentines day plan my hubby & I have is dinner at his mother's house. I'm pretty sure that will count as my present to him.

- Mindy, spending Valentines day with the in-laws

 

[shereads]

Kidnap her and take her to an abandoned warehouse. Tie her up. Have insane sex. Then give her the chocolate shoe and cab fare home.

Wait, no; that's for strangers. For your wife, just the chocolate shoe.

 

[destinie21]

Kidnap her and take her to an abandoned warehouse. Tie her up. Have insane sex. Then give her the chocolate shoe and cab fare home.

Wait, no; that's for strangers. For your wife, just the chocolate shoe.

Insane sex? Please explain