Help settle a bet about anal sex

[tigersnowhawk]

Hope I have this thread in the right place for this.
My wife and I have made a bet and we need you ladies to help settle that bet. You see, she does not like the idea of trying anal sex. She says that most women dont enjoy it and I say that they do. So as of last might we made a bet, if it turns out that woman enjoy anal sex than don't, she has to give it a try. If most of you dont, she is off the hook, so any feedback concerning this matter would be greatly apprecated.

 

[VoyeurChic]

Hope I have this thread in the right place for this.
My wife and I have made a bet and we need you ladies to help settle that bet. You see, she does not like the idea of trying anal sex. She says that most women dont enjoy it and I say that they do. So as of last might we made a bet, if it turns out that woman enjoy anal sex than don't, she has to give it a try. If most of you dont, she is off the hook, so any feedback concerning this matter would be greatly apprecated.

Ide say its definately more a matter of into it or not into it, much more then enjoy or not enjoy it. Trust me, if shes not into trying it, dont force her or set up some stupid bet where she has to do it if she looses. It can be an extreamly unplesent expierence if its not somthing shes committed to trying.

Just let it go, sounds like she knows its somthing you want to try, when shes ready I'm sure she will let you know.

I'm sure it's not the answer you wanted to hear ... sorry.

 

[sunandshadow]

I like one of those micro-mini bullet vibes anally, but I would have to be stretched a lot before I could comfortably take an actual dick there. Have you tried massaging her butt and rimming her? If she likes that she would probably like anal, and if she doesn't she won't.

 

[PantyLisa18]

Here is the problem. 95% of the women here could say "Hey, it feels great", but if she is in the 5% it won't be enjoyable. Or if 95% say "It hurts like hell, that's an exit hole only", and 5% say it is great, again if she is in the 5% it won't matter.

What I am saying is enjoyment of anal sex, like any sexual act, is very much an individual decision.

If she does not want to try it, then honor her desires. If she is curious about it, the then you can pursue it carefully. Start with a finger or small toy, see if that feels good. If it does, try more fingers or a bigger toy and/or your cock.

Personally I think if done right it can be an enjoyable sexual experience. On the other hand, I can't for the life of me figure out how the porn chicks take 30 minutes of incredibly hard banging from incredibly large penises and call that enjoyment. I suppose if someone paid me $100,000 I might fake a smile and a moan too-lol. But seriously, don't expect it to meet porn standards, you will be sadly dissapointed.

Done right, for the record, means taking it slow and using lots of lube. For me personally I don't care for anal penetration on it's own. If it is part of some form of double penetration it can be a huge turn on for me. But in college I was with one woman who literally could orgasm simply through anal penetration. Anatomically the anus and vagina share a wall and some of the pleasure cells are actually closer to the anal opening, so I suppose some women may be able to cum this way. Not me, and it is probably rare.

 

[playwithlezli]

Have to agree with the other posters on this one, a bet isn't the way to get inside her other hole. I consistently said no to one male lover who was very pushy (no pun intended) but yes to others who were more laid back about it. Also, they would try things I wanted to try whereas pushy lover wouldn't. Moral of the story, you have to give in order to receive, but do it without expectation.

Best of luck.

 

[rthnck]

I have been down this road with my SO and I agree that using a bet to "persuade" your wife to try it is not the best way to go about it. Feel free to buy a dildo that roughly your size and see if you can enjoy it yourself and you'll probably find that there is a lot more to the enjoyment of anal sex than just having your wife allow you to try. The previous posters have made good points about massage, rimming and relaxation. The bet is probably a non-starter for two reasons. First with enough responses to the question the results probably average out to 50/50 and second, a sexual bet on a sexual forum probably attracts more sexually open-minded females than not so the bet here is skewed in your favor. Bad form.

So here is my take on this question:

1. Cancel the bet
2. Your wife has to at least be game enough to consider the act without the pressure of losing a bet. Because she even entertains the idea, you're probably good to go here.
3. Check out the "sticky: Blank Manual" at the top of the "How To" forum. It has links to anal sex threads. Read them. Read them with your wife. https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=243894
4. Talk
5. Make love to your wife's bottom. Slow and steady wins the race here.
6. Pick up some lube (silicone is currently high on lots of people's lists but you'll see from the threads that the preferences are all over the map)
7. If your wife gets used to fingers and tongue AND enjoys it you're making the progress you want
8. Move on to a small dildo. Still good? Lube up.
9. Relax, relax, relax. Take it very, very, very slow. Let your wife lead the effort
10. If you got this far. Yeah. But now is the last big key. If she likes it then you get to do it again some time. If it's not for her, drop it and find other satisfying avenues.

Good luck.

 

[aussie_ella]

Just my two cents' worth!

Hi,

Yes, as a woman who can't get enough anal, the previous posters are completely on the money! It's all about if she's into it as a thought. If the fantasy of anal turns her on, you should be ok to try all the things listed above.
I've had really great anal sex, but also really bad. The only difference was in the entry. If it's too quick, not lubed enough, or too rough, it REALLY hurts and can put off the whole thing. So, take your time. And let her tell you when she's ready, or if she just plain doesn't like it.

It will feel completely different for her than any other sexual contact, so make sure you give her time to work out if she does indeed like it. It took me a few minutes to actually decide if the intense feeling of anal was even enjoyable. So, good luck and enjoy! And be really really good to her if she lets you cum up her ass - it feels incredible, but its very messy later!!!

XX

 

[shykitten78]

I was always curious about anal, so after a lot of foreplay i instigated it on my partner..who also hadnt tried it but never asked for it. If your wife becomes wet quite easy then it can be good, as i used this as lube i was on top and took control of how it went. Takes a while to get used to something going in so take it slow.

I have to say I love anal and with new partners it hasnt been a bad experience as they have made me well prepared and taken their time.

I have a friend who tried it and her partner didnt help her prepare properly and gave it to her like it was her pussy and hurt her and I know she has been well put off.

If shes not too sure lick her there when you are licking her pussy and possibly try inserting your small finger first, if you wife hates this then its gonna be a no go

 

[PreggoHottie]

I just recently tried any type of anal play for the first time...and it does feel REALLY good, but requires my partner to have a ton of patience.

Cancel the bet, dude. I have a feeling the pressure to "perform" is only gonna make it harder on her.

 

[tigersnowhawk]

thanks

I would like to thank you all for your replys. I know we made the bet butt I would NEVER ask her to do something she did not like or had thought of. I know it was bet but I could not bring myself to do something she did not want to try. She is a special woman, and I am damn lucky to have her at me side. Again thanks to all and have a good day!

 

[Eilan]

I think that the results of your little "survey" won't really mean much, as people who post on a message board of an erotic story site are probably more likely to be more open-minded about most things sex than the average Joe/Jane.

 

[Etoile]

This thread is in the wrong place.

I'm going to leave it, I just wanted to make sure people knew. The GLBT board is NOT the place for anal sex topics in general. Anal sex is NOT an exclusively gay act!