Help recalling some quote from a bdsm website?

[Bramblethorn]

Literally every second of your life is stored somewhere in your brain. The memory is not gone, it's there, you just cannot access it.

To me this seems a bit like saying "nobody actually dies, they just go to sleep permanently". A memory that can never be accessed isn't much of a memory.

The fact is a brain is like a perfect masterpiece, we still don't know how it works, and don't know at this point how to utilize it's capabilities. I believe everything it does, it does for a reason, even if we cannot bring what it's doing to consciousness.

When you say "reason" there, do you mean "has a cause", or "serves a purpose"? "Reason" can mean either, but they're quite different things.

 

[Allyourbase]

I'm sorry, but, am I the only one who thinks it's rather weird that you walk in here, first saying this:

But I was surfing around one day looking for some Kink video on the net... /snip/

And then this?

If a girl really does cry during rough treatment, would that indicate that bdsm play is probably not right for her? I don't see how literally breaking down could indicate anything sound or healthy.

I mean, you're on a BDSM-board. You're here because you forgot to bookmark a kinky porn site. And you sidenote that you think crying during bdsm is unhealthy? Uhm. We could try and explain (and have). But: you sure you're in the right place here?

I mean. What if I say: yeah, but I'm a masochist. Oh, wait.

To me it seems like anyone brought to tears either doesn't know or recognize their own limits any better than their dominant figure. (...) I'd think someone who truly "enjoys pain" and enjoys being hurt, would not ever cry or breakdown in the face of abysmal treatment.

Masochists are supposed to love pain, and therefore not cry. (Does not compute?! ) What about girls who cry when they come during nice sweet vanilla sex? Would it be best if they stopped having orgasms? Should the person who fucks her feel bad now? What about girls who cry when watching Free Willy? I agree, I think it's best she goes to a shrink to get a grip first. And then watch a tearjerker. Without crying.

People who are fragile in their emotions cry in inappropriate situations.

Because pain is... not an appropriate situation. Obviously. confused

At least a few people are admitting it has to do with their emotional fragility. Good for you guys, err... gals.

Dude. Are you on a mission?

*takes a deep breath*

O.k., sorry for that. You're probably a really nice guy who doesn't get the concept of crying during sex or play. I'm off to bed now. Carry on.

 

[echoplex]

Got a citation for that? Because I've seen research that suggests that we jettison memories to make room for newer ones. Hypotheses are not facts.
Actually, we know quite a lot about how it works, and-- more importantly-- we are capable of learning even more.

We know that the brain has an anatomy, and that anatomy can vary pretty widely between individuals, just like every other bodypart can. We know that some brains, in fact are terribly faulty and don't do what they should, which in human terms would include rational thinking, emotions good and bad, communication, and empathy. We do NOT know that the brain does everything "for a reason. " Reasons are a product of human sentience, which is overlaid onto the physical structure of the brain.

it's best to refrain from saying "I believe" in the same breath which with you invoke "science." It's not a religion. There is NO SUCH THING as a "Modern science" that "tells us" anything with so much finality. Science is a process,not a product. Science is the method we use to explore our universe with the intent of understanding it better than we did.
Although plenty of scientists do fall in love with some pet theory of theirs and defend it long after it's become indefensible-- science on the whole is a pretty decent tool for learning.

Must you condescend my post, every single time? You know well that I understand what science is and that a theory is just a theory, your just taking the opportunity to shit on me.

What can I say? I trust the opinions of people who are more intelligent (by measurable leaps and bounds) than myself. I don't have any reason to disbelieve a theory of understanding the human brain, but yes I am more likely to want to agree with them than to accept a generic answer like "that's just how it is", or "everyone is special and unique", because that is not good enough for me.

I didn't mean to say I will accept the above mentioned as fact, or preach it as if it were, but there ARE people who CAN remember every single day of their lives, so I take that as a leg to stand on. Some people will always be eh... phooey about scientific theories and beliefs so long as they cannot be proven as fact. I know ignorance is bliss to some, that's fine. For me, it's incredibly frustrating.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Yeah... I just now went back through the thread and it seems that condescension is about as good as you're going to get.

 

[l1sha]

I can't speak for anyone else, but most of the time crying is pleasurable for me, like when listening to a favorite song that touches me deeply, a good ending to a movie, a moving speech, my favorite sports player or team winning a championship. Crying because I am moved is much more common for me than crying because I'm suffering too much pain. Thankfully, so far in my life I haven't suffered that much physical pain. I don't like pain. Pain doesn't turn me on. I cry when Master spanks me, not because it's too much pain. It's somehow a moving experience. I can't explain it. I also occasionally cry during sex when I feel a moment of connection with him in my heart. None of these things are because I don't know my pain limits. These are all happy tears. And no one who knows me considers me too emotionally sensitive. Some would say I'm cool and aloof and not sensitive enough. My ex-husband cried watching romantic comedies. I don't.