Help please

[blackbisket]

My gf cant wear heels and fills she cant buy/wear sexy dresses or thing togo out to nice places. Thus when any event pops up that calls for these things, she really gets down on her self and it not healthy for either of us. I just dont know what to go but was hoping some of you here might have ideas?

Thanks for any advise

 

[fire_breeze]

My gf cant wear heels and fills she cant buy/wear sexy dresses or thing togo out to nice places. Thus when any event pops up that calls for these things, she really gets down on her self and it not healthy for either of us. I just dont know what to go but was hoping some of you here might have ideas?

Thanks for any advise

Just because your girlfriend cannot wear heels, doesn't mean that there aren't any sexy flats she can't wear. All she needs (or you) to do is find a couple of pairs, dress up et voila. Go. A simple skirt, fitted top and cardigan with nice shoes is appropriate almost everywhere. Heels are not mandatory.

Even if she has to wear specialised shoes, many orthopedics are designed to be stylish and sleek.

Suggestion? Take her shopping - pick out and then buy her a nice outfit with nice shoes and then take her out to a dinner and a show.

It also goes without saying that you should say that you love her, not her ability to wear 6 inch heels.

 

[NightL]

I have just had a quick look at your other posts and have a better understanding of this post and request.

Life is not about the ability to wear heels and look sexy. Feeling sexy is a state of mind. You obviously love your girlfriend, so keep reminding her of that and how special she is to you.

How to feel sexy? A smile and a good sense of humour is a good place to start. People will see that, they will appreciate and warm to that gift. That does not need to come wrapped up in heels and sexy clothing.

I do not know to what extent you require assistance in your general life, but asking for help, from those who are close to you and who provide assistance, in acquiring something special for your girlfriend should be a request they would love to participate in. It may be easier than you expect. This request is just about bringing joy and happiness to both you and your girlfriend.

Loving relationships are the supreme gift in life. Remind your girlfriend how you feel about her and I guarantee she will start to feel a little more sexy immediately.

 

[Cookie123]

I have just had a quick look at your other posts and have a better understanding of this post and request.

Life is not about the ability to wear heels and look sexy. Feeling sexy is a state of mind. You obviously love your girlfriend, so keep reminding her of that and how special she is to you.

How to feel sexy? A smile and a good sense of humour is a good place to start. People will see that, they will appreciate and warm to that gift. That does not need to come wrapped up in heels and sexy clothing.

I do not know to what extent you require assistance in your general life, but asking for help, from those who are close to you and who provide assistance, in acquiring something special for your girlfriend should be a request they would love to participate in. It may be easier than you expect. This request is just about bringing joy and happiness to both you and your girlfriend.

Loving relationships are the supreme gift in life. Remind your girlfriend how you feel about her and I guarantee she will start to feel a little more sexy immediately.

I love this !!

 

[blackbisket]

Im just Frustrated and dont know what to do about this issue, ive done everything listed ands more in the year and a half weve been together. The dressing up issue it just plain getting old and im lost, I dont know if its just one more thing she has to accept about herself or what?

Yes I do care a lot for her and thats why I posted about this.

 

[FeistyScorpio]

I can't - and don't - wear heels either. When I do wear them, I wear the shorter kitten heels. I think they're much sexier than the ridiculous looking platform shoes with 6" heels that are so popular. I can count on one hand how many times in the past dozen years that I've worn heels. I'm basically a tomboy and either wear tennis shoes, flip flops, or sandals (flat heels lol).

Do I think I'm not sexy? No fucking way! I know I'm sexy. Sexy isn't a body shape or size or a pretty face. Sexy is an attitude - self-confidence. Sadly, women usually have to have a little maturity to understand this. I think that's why the older women fetish is so common. I was in my 30s before I figured out what is really sexy.

The sad truth is that there's little you can do to convince her she's sexy. Regardless of what you say, when she looks in the mirror, she's going to see what she sees; her self-perception will trump anything you say or do - every single time. This is something she has to figure out for herself.

That doesn't mean you should give up. Tell her how sexy she is - and what it is about her that is sexy to you. Make sure you're sincere; most women's bullshit meter can sense insincerity from a mile away. Don't just tell her; show her. If you see another man looking at her, point it out to her. Tell her how proud you are to be with a woman who catches other men's eyes, and how much they envy you for being with her. It will eventually sink in, but it'll probably be a slow process. In the meantime, the previous poster has a good point. Go shopping with her. Find a gorgeous pair of flats (or 10 lol), and pick out some sexy dresses to go with it. Shop for sexy lingerie to go with it. Stockings, garters, and sexy bra and panty sets will go a long way in raising her self-confidence.

 

[1dude]

Ask your friends / relatives to compliment your girl friends apperance. Introduce her as "my beautiful/sexy girl friend" . Tell her every chance you get. I agree with the other responses and would add taking her to a really nice lingurie store for a fitting and new underwear. Those gals, I have found, are really good at telling women how sexy they are!

 

[blackbisket]

The sad truth is that there's little you can do to convince her she's sexy. Regardless of what you say, when she looks in the mirror, she's going to see what she sees; her self-perception will trump anything you say or do - every single time. This is something she has to figure out for herself.

Yea, your right. I can only do so much when it comes to this I guess, Im just hate hearing about it but in time it shall get better I hope.

 

[Noor]

Perfume is sexier than heels

 

[blackbisket]

Perfume is sexier than heels

I agree

 

[blulilacgrl]

I have to agree with the other posters on this one. I too am frustrated by the way in which women (at least a large majority of women) confuse plunging necklines and thigh high slits with sexy. Can they be sexy? Sure. But so can a prim square neckline and knee length skirt. Because sexiness doesn't lie in fabric. It is in the attitude of the wearer. It is when a woman looks in the mirror and says "Damn I look good!" and owns her body and herself.

And unfortunately as FeistyScorpio said, you can't do that for her. You can only help by telling her you love her, that you think she is sexy.

But here is one piece of advice. I think there are some stores that offer wardrobe stylists or maybe you can find someone either online or in your area to help her find a style that works for her. Or have her look online for some fashion trends that utilize flats and very low/broad heels. Maybe she can find a look that gives her some confidence.

Good luck!