help needed please

[notted]

Hi...

I know this is rather a sensitive subject to be asking advise on, but it does tend to depress me. Im a virgin and seem to spend all my time listening to other people talk about their lastest conquest etc.. I was just wondering id theres anything I can so... Im not that confident with women and more likely to become their friend than a partner...

If you can't help with the above, does anyone know any good masturbation techniques for guys? Im bored with all the old stuff...

cheers for the help.

 

[Cutie Lillie]

Oh... !!!

FIRST.. let me say.. that all the talk about 'conquests' could give you a distorted idea of what could be the best moment of your life.

As a women.. when I gave my viginity away it was one of the most loving, sweet and precious moments of my life. I would never have let it be a 'conquest'. In fact, that very idea turns me off completely.

I think its a 'fun' thing around here...but in real life. Well....maybe I just fit my persona... I prefer the heart, soul and mind to be involved with a LOT of personal mutual respect. I love the feel of that.. a 'real' relationship melted into a warm, loving, passionate expression of love.. *sigh*

So I encourage you to find a girl you can love first... and do go out there looking for a conquest. You can't beat the moment of making love 'with' someone who loves you...

They could sop you up with a mop afterwards while you 'beam'...


But that's "me"... and I wouldn't change for the world.


I'll leave the second question to the 'guys' at hand.. *giggle* literally

 

[LukkyKnight]

What's the problem?

Friends are what keep us sane.

The reason is often sounds like so many people aren't virgins is that virgins relatively rarely go around pointing it out, but it's not a flaw or a shortcoming. In due time you usually find that there's a spark of chemistry with somebody and things progress to getting physical... no rush.

As for the hunt for technique for your own gratification, there are LOTS of stories here, I'd suggest you start reading. I'll bet something comes to mind...

 

[Weird Harold]

Im a virgin and seem to spend all my time listening to other people talk about their lastest conquest etc.. I was just wondering if theres anything I can so...

"Those who talk the most, do the least."

That's not always true, but I've found it true more often than not. Just remember that those who are getting laid most often will probably not be talking about it. (Bragging can get you a comfy bed on the sofa or in the street faster than anything else.) Take everything you hear with a big grain of salt and just be yourself. Virginity is NOT a disease that needs to be cured.

 

[zantac666]

get to know the girl first even if it takes a month the wait is worth it. the first time i take a girl out i say i'm not expecting sex i takes that uneasieness out of the way and we have a good time. at the end of the date i get a kiss and a big hug. when i call to see if she wants to go out again she will say yes. so get to know them first.

 

[MysCynthia]

get to know the girl first even if it takes a month the wait is worth it. the first time i take a girl out i say i'm not expecting sex i takes that uneasieness out of the way and we have a good time. at the end of the date i get a kiss and a big hug. when i call to see if she wants to go out again she will say yes. so get to know them first.

Reading your post made me feel SO VERY MUCH like a mom....
A month???? LOL Well ok, but here is some "mom" advice....

Please, please, please use double contraception and
be close enough with the person you are having sex with to discuss EXACTLY what will happen if she should become pregnant.

If abortion is not an option, how do you each feel about adoption or will she keep the baby? Who will pay what costs? Who will raise the child? Etc, etc, etc......

A child is a lifetime committment. Accidents happen. So please know a person before you have sex with them. Or at least be ready for the possible consequences.

Being a virgin is not a horrible thing. Wait for the right person to come along. Your first time will be in your memory forever.
Have sex with someone you're willing to remember forever.

 

[zantac666]

myscynthia

Your right and i do wear a condom when i have sex i have enough problems to deal with then children i love children. Or getting a std. There are several other virgins so they say on lit.Nothing wrong with being a virgin.

 

[shygirl]

I find that someone who is willing to be my friend first a much better person to have sex with than one who is only out for one thing. Take your time and get to know them - they might be as shy about it as you are. I realize I am taking the mother approach here but I find the shy type much for attractive!!

 

[zantac666]

shygirl

For me sex is not that important i like it but it is a lot better when you know that person better then when the day comes you can surprise her with candles or a nice shower or a nice dinner before hand ther is a lot of things i do before jumping in bed or were ever.