So, I spoke to my mom. Told her that I called the band and put it ina way that I was not accusing her of lying, but that it must have been a miscommunication. She began ranting how she told me not to call the band. I explained to her that I just had a question for the guy, but she just would not let it go, bringing up things that were totally irrelevant to the conversation at hand.
Originally I wanted karaoke, and she kept asking me when I was going to have it. I assured her it would be towards the end of the night, and she said fine. Now I told her that I called the band to ask about the karaoke and the music, and decided not to have the karaoke. She went on for about 5 minutes how she would not have let me have it, and what the hell was I thinking?
I asked her why she was yeling at me over this, and she said because she was fed up with everything. I told her that I was too and have kept my mouth shut accepting everything. This got her even angrier, because she does not agree with the type of person I am marrying. She really likes him as a person, but we are not from the same religious background.
She would rather continue fighting me on this, but still pay for the wedding? I don't want her paying for it anymore if she cares more about this than our relationship. I feel that she really is not thinking about the long term effects her fighting is going to have on us. I feel that I am not going to have a relationship with her after this. I so badly just want to walk away from it all, and tell her that I just can't take the fighting anymore and get married without this huge mess of a party. It is just not worth it. Yet, I feel guilty that she already put down so much money that to walk away would be just mean.
If she is going to yell at me over everything now then she really should not be holding me hostage. She wants to pay, yet she wants it completely on her terms, and if not then she is going to make me miserable about it. I am in tears practically every day and this is just wrecking me. I feel lost and don't know what to do.
Originally I wanted karaoke, and she kept asking me when I was going to have it. I assured her it would be towards the end of the night, and she said fine. Now I told her that I called the band to ask about the karaoke and the music, and decided not to have the karaoke. She went on for about 5 minutes how she would not have let me have it, and what the hell was I thinking?
I asked her why she was yeling at me over this, and she said because she was fed up with everything. I told her that I was too and have kept my mouth shut accepting everything. This got her even angrier, because she does not agree with the type of person I am marrying. She really likes him as a person, but we are not from the same religious background.
She would rather continue fighting me on this, but still pay for the wedding? I don't want her paying for it anymore if she cares more about this than our relationship. I feel that she really is not thinking about the long term effects her fighting is going to have on us. I feel that I am not going to have a relationship with her after this. I so badly just want to walk away from it all, and tell her that I just can't take the fighting anymore and get married without this huge mess of a party. It is just not worth it. Yet, I feel guilty that she already put down so much money that to walk away would be just mean.
If she is going to yell at me over everything now then she really should not be holding me hostage. She wants to pay, yet she wants it completely on her terms, and if not then she is going to make me miserable about it. I am in tears practically every day and this is just wrecking me. I feel lost and don't know what to do.
