Help Me!

[collegeguy0015]

Hey I am a college studentwho was in a year and a half relationship. I broke up with my girlfriend but we kept fooling around and I found I gained more power in the relationship. We started doing a few role playing things like she was just "some slut" and things like this. We also made a bet which she lost without really even trying to win in which the loser had to be a sexual servent to the winner for one full day. This is all what I want but she is a conservative girl. She was a virgin when I met her and began dating her, this was her freshman year of college. She has never done anything like this and as for myself aside from reading a bunch of stories and playing with handcuffs once or twice I am green as well. I was hoping for some sugestions in this so that she enjoys this as much as I do and this can become a much more often thing. Thanks for all the help!

Collegeguy0015

 

[Apathy]

Stick it in her ass...

 

[collegeguy0015]

Gee thanks for the great advice. Now on to anything that could be helpful........

 

[Bent]

Best Bet...

Ask her what *she* wants, likes, enjoys, etc. She may not like what you are doing at all, and doesn't know how to tell you.

 

[Apathy]

Hey moron that is helpful...you both might just like it...

 

[Hecate]

From the few words in your introductory post I assume the following:

- your ex-gf, now play-mate, does like the sexual aspects of your relation, otherwise after splitting up the relation as such she wouldn't really be fooling around (I read that as having sex?) with you anymore.

- she has a submissive streak, at least as far as her sexual tendencies go, as you said, she enjoyed the "slut" role plays and you say you feel like gaining more power in your relation, additionally she didn't try to win that bet, thus basically declaring she doesn't mind being your "sex toy" for the negotiated time.

- for many submissively inclined women it is a turn-on already to know they are being "reduced" to just a sex toy, without much consideration for their own will and desire (Attention: this is figuratively speaking and you better keep in mind that this is a role accepted for the time being and with a mostly clear picture in the back of their heads to get afterall waht they want, and that no harm and real abuse will be taking place). Thus it will be core of her fantasy to really feel you are "using" her for your pleasure. That she has pleasure too may be a side effect but shouldn'T be too much emphasized while you are "in role".


Based on those assumptions my thoughts:

- if you like getting a blow job and she is not totally disgusted by the idea (which I am sure you will already know by now) that is always a good starter. Without much foreplay just tell her to unzip you, get out your tool and suck you off (preferably while in a kneeling position in front of you). I know a lot of women who will get all hot and bothered by that scenario.

- if she is comfprtable with you and trusts you completely try some light bondage - tie her arms behind her back, blindfold her, tie her to the bed (you may always loose light and easy to slip out binding so she could get out if she wanted to), just that impression of helplessness and surrender is a turnon for many submissively inclined people. The do with her what you like (and possibly what she likes) just as you would during regular lovemaking, stroke her body, nibble her nipples... whatever. Drive her to the edge of orgasm to just let her hang there, to cool down and then do it again.

- for a more general "scene", maybe while you gather more strength after you had a bit of fun already, have her be nude or skimpily dressed around the appartment while you are dressed fully in your regular cloths, tell her to serve you a drink or instead of using the remote tell her to switch TV-channels for you. All that "commanding air" should keep her on her toes so to speak. Tell her to fingerfeed you snacks or munchies etc. - that can be very erotic.

There are so many things I could suggest, but I think you catch my drift by the above examples... fact is: she has to feel you are doing exactly what you want, which doesn't neceserrily mean that can't be just the same things she wants, and as you have a history I guess yo uknow very well what turns her on. One last tip: make her wait for her first orgasm! Be selfish and let her work to one before she gets one (or more) ... that is another good way to ensure she feels "sexual servant", without being in any form mean or abusive to a degree that could be held against you. Your deal is for a full day, so don't rush it, start slow and let her wait - anticipate - what you might have in store for her!



Note: just because she was a virgin and she seems conservative doesn't mean she isn't submissive and doesn't have kinky fantasies she would like to explore. Actually I have found that many women who were brought up very conservative enjoyed the liberation of submission, as in their heads they could enjoy sex but had the excuse of "being forced" (not sure if I brought that point across very well but I have the feel it might be the case with your lady friend)

Hope that inspired you - and that you both can enjoy the set scene!

 

[SexyChele]

*Did it suddenly get warmer in here??*

I have to second and third everything Hecate said - oh YES! There simply is nothinig more to add to that!

 

[collegeguy0015]

Thanks for the Advice everyone the day is Sat. I will let you know how it goes

 

[Lust Engine]

Hey moron that is helpful...you both might just like it...

Don't get me wrong... I agree with you, but tact is obviously not one of your strong suits here is it? You can still suggest anal play without having to call the original poster a "moron". Get the message across but no need to be so mean about it! It was a genuine request for advice.

 

[collegeguy0015]

It would be good advice except that one of her rules about this whole "bet" was that anal would not be tried (otherwise I too would have liked to try that).

 

[Hecate]

Now - how did it go?

 

[collegeguy0015]

Again thanks for the help the night went great it turrned less domination like and more just both of us having fun and great sex! There was also a nice video tape made and it was fun all around. Than ks again and goodbye.