Help me with a 'discussion'

[TheEarl]

See, my fiancee doesn't believe she's beautiful. She doesn't believe that I believe she's one of the most gorgeous things to have ever walked this earth and frequently opines that she doesn't know why I think she's pretty/sexy/cute/sultry/insert complimentary descriptive term here.

And tonight, she said something silly. Something about, "I'd never make a good avatar" after looking over my shoulder at some of the ladies of Lit.

So, I took her up on her challenge and now (with her (grudging) permission), I'm posting the finished avatar up on Lit. There was no photoshopping, besides cropping, and the picture wastaken on my camera phone, all of about 5 minutes ago.

Help me out? Make her believe?

The Earl

 

[impressive]

Does she do girls? And do you share?

 

[Belegon]

See, my fiancee doesn't believe she's beautiful. She doesn't believe that I believe she's one of the most gorgeous things to have ever walked this earth and frequently opines that she doesn't know why I think she's pretty/sexy/cute/sultry/insert complimentary descriptive term here.

And tonight, she said something silly. Something about, "I'd never make a good avatar" after looking over my shoulder at some of the ladies of Lit.

So, I took her up on her challenge and now (with her (grudging) permission), I'm posting the finished avatar up on Lit. There was no photoshopping, besides cropping, and the picture was taken on my camera phone, all of about 5 minutes ago.

Help me out? Make her believe?

The Earl

okay, before I address the yummy photo...

to the fiancee:

The fact that you've agreed to marry him shows what you think of him. Now, why would you doubt him in this when you believe him in so much else? The fact that he is biased is actually an argument in favor of his position. Because the only way he would get that bias is if you really were the things he says you are.

If someone you think so much of feels this way about you, why would you doubt him? If he told you a restaurant was great, or a movie, or a book... you would give his opinion more weight because it comes from him, not less...

if all this is true, you need to step away and objectively realize that his opinion has more validity because of how he feels about you... not less.


now, all of this being as it is. Seeing is believing. And every negative argument that you could make about your looks has just been absolutely fucking destroyed and obliterated by what he posted.

You don't have to believe you're beautiful. You just are. It exists whether you believe it or not. Thank him for his compliments... gain the confidence, my dear. It may take time, but is worthwhile. Because he will thrive as you begin to believe him. And it will become a circle. Your opinion validates his and the love in his eyes makes you feel better, which makes you even MORE beautiful, which makes him even more complimentary and empowered...

...and pretty soon you feel as lovely as he has just proved you are.

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

Does she do girls? And do you share?

Dream on, Imp. But no doubt she's way outta TheEarl's class. Better cool it, guy. You face the same problem I did with my only fiancee'. If she ever realizes the truth, you might find yourself roadkill on the romance highway.

Rumple Foreskin

 

[Guest]

shes gorgeous

now tell her to get to 100 posts so i can stare at her av all the time please.

 

[tickledkitty]

Lovely

 

[MagicaPractica]

For your fiance...

Darling, from one woman to another who knows exactly how you feel, believe your fiance. We do ourselves no good by putting ourselves down. Listen to the compliments you recieve and try to internalize them. Why should you internalize any put downs you may have heard or created for yourself and yet push away the good things people tell you? YOU are the person he loves.

From what little I can see in the photo, you have a lovely soft, rounded feminine form. Celebrate it.

 

[TxRad]

What fem said........

Rumple... good advice old son....

 

[Brute_Force]

Please tell her that I said she is beautiful. You're a lucky man!

 

[Lisa Denton]

Ima sorry Earl. I mean ....... you want me to say she is nice looking.

But ................... she is much too beautiful for a earl, she deserves at least a king.

Perhaps you can change your name to King Earl, just a suggestion.

See ya, Lisa.

 

[TheEarl]

Thank you all; nice to have my opinion validated by an expert audience. And, no, Imp, you can't have even a tiny little piece of her. Sorry, but she's mine, all mine!

I'm going to send her this link in a moment, but first, another illustration that she could have an avatar of herself.

The Earl

 

[Chantilyvamp]

Listen to your man sweets...gorgeous. Dont let the image you have of yourself win it is never true. The image some of us women have of ourselves is not what others see which has been pointed out to me many times.

 

[3113]

Well, I'm gonna critique Avatar 1 there:

First, remove the white blouse, let's see more of that luscious cleavage and a sexy shoulder, and the black of that bra against that English cream skin. Next, lift the chin just a little to get more of that gentle neck, and why not a few tendrils of what looks to be silky brown hair?

We really can't fairly espouse on her attributes with you being so coy with the camera

 

[rgraham666]

Oh, yum.

 

[3113]

Oh, yum.

I think Impressive and Femininity have first dibs

 

[TheEarl]

I think Impressive and Femininity have first dibs

Bugger that. Looking, but no touching. She's mine, mine, mine, I tells ya, mine, all mine!

MWAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAA!

<ahem>

The Earl

 

[Just-Legal]

Blast it Earl, now I have mental images that will not go away...

... and they're really hot

To Earl's dear Lady: You are amazingly, wonderfully beautiful, and hellaciously sexy.

Deal with it *g*

 

[Lisa Denton]

I think Impressive and Femininity have first dibs

While they are kickin Earl's butt I am gonna run off with her.

 

[impressive]

Bugger that. Looking, but no touching. She's mine, mine, mine, I tells ya, mine, all mine!

MWAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAA!

<ahem>

The Earl

Ah, but I've no doubt whatsoever that Fem & I could get her off without touching her.

 

[3113]

Ah, but I've no doubt whatsoever that Fem & I could get her off without touching her.

I'd rather see you kick Earl's butt while Lisa takes off with her and posts some *real* provocative photos

 

[MagicaPractica]

Hmmm, perhaps if you simply hosted a lit-together, they could all make a believer out of her.

 

[somberReality]

See, my fiancee doesn't believe she's beautiful. She doesn't believe that I believe she's one of the most gorgeous things to have ever walked this earth and frequently opines that she doesn't know why I think she's pretty/sexy/cute/sultry/insert complimentary descriptive term here.

And tonight, she said something silly. Something about, "I'd never make a good avatar" after looking over my shoulder at some of the ladies of Lit.

So, I took her up on her challenge and now (with her (grudging) permission), I'm posting the finished avatar up on Lit. There was no photoshopping, besides cropping, and the picture wastaken on my camera phone, all of about 5 minutes ago.

Help me out? Make her believe?

The Earl

I can understand where she is coming from. Again, it's cause of society's bullshit. If we aren't sticks, with perfect....well.....EVERYTHING, we think badly of our bodies (not all think this way, just some, myself included). She looks fine to me. Women are meant to be soft and curvy.

Fuck cosmo. They can kiss my curvy white ass.

Sorry, got off topic there......lol.

Just keep giving her positive feedback.

 

[somberReality]

okay, before I address the yummy photo...

to the fiancee:

The fact that you've agreed to marry him shows what you think of him. Now, why would you doubt him in this when you believe him in so much else? The fact that he is biased is actually an argument in favor of his position. Because the only way he would get that bias is if you really were the things he says you are.

If someone you think so much of feels this way about you, why would you doubt him? If he told you a restaurant was great, or a movie, or a book... you would give his opinion more weight because it comes from him, not less...

if all this is true, you need to step away and objectively realize that his opinion has more validity because of how he feels about you... not less.


now, all of this being as it is. Seeing is believing. And every negative argument that you could make about your looks has just been absolutely fucking destroyed and obliterated by what he posted.

You don't have to believe you're beautiful. You just are. It exists whether you believe it or not. Thank him for his compliments... gain the confidence, my dear. It may take time, but is worthwhile. Because he will thrive as you begin to believe him. And it will become a circle. Your opinion validates his and the love in his eyes makes you feel better, which makes you even MORE beautiful, which makes him even more complimentary and empowered...

...and pretty soon you feel as lovely as he has just proved you are.

*puts this guy on her "to do" list*

 

[Stella_Omega]

The avs are scrumptious.

But I have another proof of your attractiveness; I've seen photos of The Earl. His Lordship is a hunk, pure and simple! And if he says you are gorgeous, you can trust him to know what he's talking about.

 

[Just-Legal]

The avs are scrumptious.

But I have another proof of your attractiveness; I've seen photos of The Earl. His Lordship is a hunk, pure and simple! And if he says you are gorgeous, you can trust him to know what he's talking about.

A-freakin-men.