help me live again.

[ms.read]

I just found out my mom has six months to a year to live. She has cancer in the spine and it mastasized (don't know the spelling on that one) she's going for another xray, blood work and will get the final results on monday.

she's going to have chemo.

She doesn't want to go into the hospital. I promised her that I would take care of her, (I'm a CNA) but she doesn't want to put that kind of burden on us kids.

I'm in the middle of finding a new job. I can't stop crying. Please pray for both of us. I don't know what to do.

 

[Chantilyvamp]

*hugs tight* Just breath sweetie, thats all you can do right now. And crying is an outlet you need atm so let them out.

 

[Guest]

Oh, hon. I'm so sorry.

Call Hospice as soon as you can, let them help guide you through this. They have counselors for your entire family, they are caring and skilled.

 

[neonlyte]

Desperately sad news. All I can offer is courage for your Mum, you and the rest of the family

 

[glynndah]

Sarahh's right about hospice. I'll keep you and yours in my thoughts.

 

[_Lynn_]

Call Hospice as soon as you can, let them help guide you through this. They have counselors for your entire family, they are caring and skilled.

I second this from personal experience.
We used Hospice for both of my parents to help us through their cancers.


**hugs**

 

[English Lady]

Oh, love. *hugs* you and your mum and your family have my prayers.

 

[cloudy]

I'm so sorry.

My father died one day after they'd told us he had about six weeks left. I almost think that was kinder, to him and to us, than waiting those last six weeks, knowing he was going.

My heart goes out to you both.

 

[rgraham666]

Sending strength your way. *HUGS*

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

My deepest compassion and sympathy to you and your dear mother. I'm profoundly sorry to hear of this, but she is fortunate to have you as her daughter. Peace be upon you.

 

[Vermilion]

My very best wishes for you and your mum, I am so sorry that you have had such bad news. I really really hope that things turn out in the most positive way that they can, whatever that is in this situation. Know that all your friends on Lit will be thinking of you both.
x
V

 

[TE999]

Hospice care is both comforting and compassionate for both the receiver and loved ones. It made my father's and my aunt's final days much easier.

My deepest sympathies. Sending strength and peaceful thoughts to you.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

I have never been in a similar situation, so all that I can offer is a hug, and my sympathies.

 

[impressive]

I echo the hospice recommendation. Let them handle the details of care so you can enjoy her company for as long as possible.

The key is to LIVE those last weeks, not spend them on dying.

 

[Tricialen]

Aww...I am so sorry...of course I'll say a prayer for the both of you....My family has been touched by cancer so I do know how you feel....but don't give up...faith can go a very long way in making daily life better....and a positive attutude really makes all of the things you're going through...it makes it better....and just remember this...none of us know when our time to go will come...so live every minute like it's your last....live it well....

 

[redpaint]

you have my prayers. let the tears fall it is what you need to do at this time. ***Hugs***

I agree about Hospice.

If you feel you need a shoulder to cry on feel free to pm. I am a good listener.

 

[ms.read]

This is a problem, mom is refusing hospice at this time. I live two hours away. I don't drive but I could take a bus there. But I can't leave my family here. My fiance and his fourteen year old son. They both know. Financially we just can't take it. I need to get a job.


*breathing deep long breaths.*

All of you are keeping me sane.

 

[cantdog]

My deepest sympathies and good wishes, ms. We're pulling for you.

 

[Guest]

This is a problem, mom is refusing hospice at this time. I live two hours away. I don't drive but I could take a bus there. But I can't leave my family here. My fiance and his fourteen year old son. They both know. Financially we just can't take it. I need to get a job.


*breathing deep long breaths.*

All of you are keeping me sane.

You cannot change her mind, it isn't your decision. She may decide to change her mind once she accepts what is happening.

But for now, you still need to call Hospice. They are in place to ease the needs of the dying but also to protect the needs of the families.

http://www.hospicenet.org/

 

[Tarakin]

My deepest sympathy for you, her and all your family

 

[Belegon]

I have nothing to add but >>>HUSG<<<

 

[SeaCat]

Ms. Read,

I am so sorry to hear about this.

P.M. me if you care to or if you have questions. It may take me a bit to get answers and they may not be what you want to hear but I have a free ear.

As for the time and distance, believe me when I say I understand.

Cat

 

[cujo13]

I'm very sorry. This is tough stuff. My parents were the same when they got sick. I believe there's a certain inner strength that we get when these things happen and it helps us and our loved ones My thoughts and prayers are with you. Take care.

 

[jomar]

I am so very sorry.

 

[tickledkitty]