Help me I need advice

[Guest]

I need some help out there and since I can't afford a sex therapist you are my only hope.

I have been with the same man for 3 years and sex was great at first but now I am lucky if I get it once every 6 months.

I am not interested in an affair and I know he is not cheating on me but it would be nice not to have to beg for it all the time.

I know I have a very high sex drive and he doesn't but is there anyone out there who could tell me what I could do.

I have tried to be sexy loving and patient but that only lasts so long. Seems like the only sexual interludes I have is with my vibrator.

PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!

 

[Thumper]

Sorry to hear of your dilemna. First off stop pursuing him...It may turn his head. If it doesn't you will probably have to either get out of the relationship or accept things the way they are and get rechargeable batteries...sorry, don't mean to sound flip but I always try to add a little humor when I can. It could be just a huge difference in sex drive...does he talk about it with you?

 

[Jade]

My apologies if you already are, but I agree with Thumper... 1st things first... you and him should be discussing this.

If you already are.. then it is time for plan B

~Jade

 

[Bruiser]

lonely, maybe your just plain ugly?

 

[Neoapril]

Originally posted by Bruiser:
lonely, maybe your just plain ugly?

What is wrong with you?

I am just shocked that someone would say something that hateful and cruel! Every time I think I have seen a new low in human behavior, I am proven wrong! Didn't anybody ever teach you that if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all?

 

[MADDOG]

Bruiser, you shouldn't have said that man!

 

[Nicole]

Where is DCL when you need him??

Fucking Bruiser

There it had to be said...right???

 

[Xander]

Quite right Nicole. It has to be said.

Fuckin' http://geocities.com/r337m0nk3y/dvv/boid.gif Bruiser.

Lonely. I have to back Thumber & Jade on this one. You two needs to talk.

 

[Firesprite]

Shit Bruiser. As the only other Kiwi I have seen on Literotica, you are a miserable Son Of A Bitch.

Go away and get a life.

Firesprite

 

[Guest]

I am soooo sorry. My transgression must be due to a lack of sheep. I have been up for days now with no where to stick it. But my new Baa Baa Black Sheep blow-up doll is on order.

 

[Magic Merlin]

Quote by Bruiser: "My transgression must be due to a lack of sheep."

Bruiser, you must be tired.....sheep?....Er.you could always try Wyoming..

 

[Wifey]

I have actually been looking for the answer to the question for about 7 years now!! I have never been on a BB before, but am always willing to try different routes in order to find an answer to the same problem. AND it has nothing to do with being attractive!!!

Unfortunately, I have not been as faithful as you - I have given in to the temptation due to wanting to feel wanted again. I guess 10 years of marriage can do that to you! I also tried the talking route, but it didn't work. Now I'm trying the "don't ask for it" route. I thought I tried it once before, but we'll see. Let me know if anything works for you.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

"I think a relationship is like a shark, it has to constantly move forward, or it dies. I think what we have here is a dead shark."

Woody Allen hit it on the nose for me. Change and growth is so important for a relationship. Just taking a stab here, but maybe you're at a standstill, in a rut, stayed too long at the party? Three years is a long time. Are you planning to marry? If not, maybe you should move on. It doesn't mean you still don't care, but a dead shark is a dead shark, and still doesn't smell as bad as a kiwi sheep fucker who stinks of wool pussy, sweat and the drippy odor of need.

 

[Lajo]

I have to agree with Jade and Thumper....yuo should talk to him about it. But I also know it is a lot easier said than done. I am in the same boat as you (lucky if it is 2-4 times a year).
Good luck...and if you find a good solution, let me know! But in the meantime...misery loves company!

 

[Guest]

Thanks to everyone for your comment except for one but I won't mention any names. I have tried to talk to him but he doesn't think there is a problem. He says that is all I think of.(sex that is.)

As for being ugly well I won't even spend my time answering that one. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it comes from inside not outside.

I have also tried the not asking for it and wait for him to ask me, but never seems to work.

Anyways what I'm going to ask from all who read this is "What is a way you turn your mate on?" Maybe what im doing is not imaginative enough.

Thanks again everyone.

 

[Thumper]

Methinks that dog won't hunt. In other words, you can't turn on that which does not want to be turned on...or if the horse ain't thirsty,making the water more enticing is useless. You seem to think it is your fault when in reality it has nothing to do with you. Does he make you feel like you are the one with the problem? Some people do that as a form of control. It is not your fault. He may just have a very low sex drive...I suppose it is easy to think that all men want sex all the time so therefore if he doesn't want me I must be doing something wrong. This is not fair to you or him for that matter...If you have talked and it hasn't solved anything then there isn't much else to do....I know what I would have done ( and have done) but I will not suggest you do that...Take care and Good Luck

 

[Guest]

It seems odd to me that Bruiser could be the "judge" of beauty!!

Didn't your momma ever teach you that "if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all"? Hell, I heard the Dr. told your momma to throw you away and keep the after birth!

 

[Guest]

Hey Lonely, e-mail me sometime if you'd like to talk. It sounds like we have a lot in common right now. Before my marriage (and that the beginning of it) my sex life was wonderful. But lately I'm lucky to get it once every couple or so months. Hell, I'm currently "saving up" some money to buy this killer vibe.

Anyway, on a serious note, I know what you're going through. There's no communication between me and my husband no matter what I try. It seems the more I try to talk to him the more he pulls away. And if I ignore our problem he's loving towards me. ~sigh~ Hang in there. I'm here if you need a friend.

Tiggs1977@aol(or yahoo).com

 

[Druid]

I wish I had an answer for you lonely. All I can say is I hope whatever you decide turns out for the best.

As for you Bruiser, you're an ASS.The sheep probably don't want you either.

 

[Fastback]

If not a medical problem then I'd have to say he's probably using it somewhere else.

 

[*Eve*]

Lonely, you've been given some pretty good advice so far, have you thought of slipping a viagra pill in his vodka?

Just teasing hon, but seriously maybe one night when you two are laying in bed initiate something and see what happens. If that doesn't work you really need to tell him how you feel because it will only get better if he knows how you feel. If he really loves you he will do what he can for you.

Ok everyone, I'm not defending Bruiser but that is just typical him. You can ignore it or take it with a grain of salt like most of use has learned to.

 

[Lethal_beauty_27]

I have a friend who has a similar problem and she has tried talking, not talking, toys, videos, romance, but still no increase in the sex drive with her partner...Well I just thought you would like to know that you are not alone...I wish you all the best Keep your head up (or should i say try to keep his head up ) ha ha sorry neeeded a laugh here I think

 

[Guest]

Know where I could find some viagra ??? HA HA

 

[Guest]

Honey hang in there, Maybe he is just like me and has a low sex drive. I bet when you two do have sex its wild and erotic. As you stated that you use sexual things to do things to yourself. Does he know about it, why dont you join him in that or ask him what his fantasies are..... I hope things work out, hang in there....

 

[Guest]

Lady Tina. He does know I use My toys I have never kept that a secret from him. He has even watched me.

The last time we attempted to have sex we got out the toys but he just couldn't get an erection. Of course that upset me because I thought maybe it was me that can't turn him on. He did say though that enjoyed getting me off that way. But that was 6 months ago.

So I am wondering now if maybe he has a problem getting erections. He does have an addiction to gravol and I wonder if that has something to do with it?????