Help In a "relationship" type thing

[MikeT54]

There is a girl that I like/liked but I know she doesn't like me, BUT I can't seem to get my mind off her and when I start to get my mind off her I see her at random places so I start thinking about her again. Also she is obsessed with this one guy. They keep breaking up then going out a few months later, now I know the guy and before I knew that they were going out I was fine with him, now I hate the site of him, or it just makes me angry. What do you all think I should do?

 

[SweetErika]

Simply put, move on and find someone who likes you back. This girl doesn't, so there's no hope with her. There's no point in being angry at her on/off boyfriend; he hasn't done anything to you, so your anger is misplaced. You're probably actually angry at her for not reciprocating your feelings, but it's easier to turn jealousy into anger than affection into anger.

Are you actively trying to date other people?

Do you have at least one good outlet for your anger/frustration?

 

[NippleMuncher]

Everything that SweetE said, X2.

 

[Mac98]

I understand exactly what you're going through. The best possible advice I can give you is to move on, as impossible as that may sound. If you work on yourself long and hard enough, you'll get through her and you'll find someone else. You know what, this may even happen to you again, though when it does, at least you'll know how to cope with it.

Unrequited love's a bitch. She'll either make you or break you. Don't let it get the best of you. Find someone else who's worth swooning over and, to be honest, if it can help, let this girl know how you feel toward her but make sure you've accepted that it'll never work between the two of you. If you go with the idea that she'll reciprocate those feelings, then you'll just hurt yourself.

My two cents.

 

[ScottyS]

What you're going through is like witnessing something tragic. It makes you sad and takes you to a dark place within yourself. You should never dwell there and try to return as seldom as possible, because you are not your normal self in this state. This can make you inaccessible to those around you. You don't want to punish the next potential partner who comes along.

My advice: take some time for yourself. Perhaps there are things you have been wanting to do, interests you have put off. If you are a spiritual/religious person, now would be a good time to reconnect to prayer/meditation/whatever spiritual practices neutralize your ego and take you to a higher plane. Art and literature can be very medicinal. Anything that expresses human tragedy and emotion with the beauty of the human mind can be uplifting.

More mundane advice: go to a bar or club with your friends on a Friday or Saturday night. Take a good look around; beautiful women are EVERYWHERE. Charming women; smart women; sweet women; are EVERYWHERE.

Best wishes, Mike!

 

[Experiencedguy]

Just as a PS to everyone else's good comments:

Don't try to approach her, make a pass at her. When you find yourself in a group with her, of course, talk to her, but keep the talk as neutral as possible -- No sex, religion, politics, or relationships.

If you do persue her, this will turn out to be devasting and humiliating to you.