Help!! I need advice!!

[mytasteislikecandy]

Here's the situation....

I have a guy friend who is really really nice and sweet and funny and fun. He's a bit immature, but only when we're around his roomates, who are all younger than him. He's also not that cute...a great body, but his face is lacking. I love PRETTY boys and he isn't what I normally date. We used to have lots of sex, and I was like the second girl he ever messed with. So to say the least, he knows what I like and how I like it. The sex is always good. We lost touch for a while, and just became reacquainted (?) a few weeks ago. I didn't want to have sex with him again, because the last time he began getting way too attached. But it'd been 7 months and I knew that he would give me a few, hell, a LOT of great orgasms. So I broke down and did it. We've had sex like 5 times in the last week.

Now...I still know that I don't want a man, and I don't think I could date him, for 2 reasons. He's still too immature, and yes, to be superficial, he's not as hot as I'd like him to be. He's definitely getting caught up again...same old shit he did before has started again, So...should I

A.) Keep fucking him as a booty call and just never mention the getting together aspect?

B.) Break off the fucking and tell him we should just be friends?

C.) Break off everything and never talk to him again?

D.) Date him, make him my boyfriend, and just deal with the fact that he isn't my DREAM man?

E.) Other suggestions?

I'm dying here...I don't know what to do, and hopefully my fellow literoticans can help me out.

Thanks bunches...



MTILC

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

stop fucking him and remain friends

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

If he's up for the booty-call idea, go for it. Otherwise, just end it clean. He doesn't sound like someone you would be happy with, and pretending certainly wouldn't make him happy in the end.

 

[MissTaken]

Have you said any of this to him?

Try telling him, we can fuck and be friends, but that is all it ever will be. Then give him some choice in the matter as well.

 

[Temptress_1960]

Have you said any of this to him?

Try telling him, we can fuck and be friends, but that is all it ever will be. Then give him some choice in the matter as well.

What she said.

 

[Guest]

Break off the fucking and tell him you should just be friends

 

[mytasteislikecandy]

Have you said any of this to him?

Try telling him, we can fuck and be friends, but that is all it ever will be. Then give him some choice in the matter as well.

I've brought it up somewhat, but he always changes the subject. He won't admit that he likes me like that, but he's been showing up at my job, calling me at ALL hours, always wants me over his house, sent me flowers one day this week....just the actions are speaking louder than the words. I really don't want to hurt him, cuz he is so so so nice, but .....

*sigh*

 

[MercyMia]

So...should I

A.) Keep fucking him as a booty call and just never mention the getting together aspect?

This is a short term pleasure long term pain option because in the end, both of you will feel emotionally cheated.

B.) Break off the fucking and tell him we should just be friends?
You *could* try this, but I think you'll end up frustrated. He'll want more from you sexually and emotionally.

C.) Break off everything and never talk to him again?
Hmmm, this solution is too sudden. Maybe break off with him sexually and let things die down slowly. Just make sure you can resist the sex. Otherwise, you'll get into one of those cyclical relationships and you'll learn to live with self-delusions.

D.) Date him, make him my boyfriend, and just deal with the fact that he isn't my DREAM man?
Are you capable of doing this? 10 years from now, do you think you'll be internally holding yourself back thinking, hey now, you never turned me on 100% to begin with. Or do you see yourself possibly falling in love with him and staying in love with him long term? What if you were in a committed relationship with him 10 years from now and your dreamboat came along? Would it be worth it to you now to hold out for that possibility? Or should you stay with this guy and enjoy great sex?

E.) Other suggestions?
It sounds like a tough dilemma. Great sex is hard to cum by
But how about...you date him for now. Let him know you enjoy the sex but are not ready for a deeper commitment. Make a personal list (meaning not to be shared with him) of things you value in a relationship (honest? openness? reliability?) and rate what you share with him. If that all offsets his not so pretty face, then maybe, just maybe, he *is* the one after all.
Good luck.

 

[MercyMia]

I've brought it up somewhat, but he always changes the subject. He won't admit that he likes me like that, but he's been showing up at my job, calling me at ALL hours, always wants me over his house, sent me flowers one day this week....just the actions are speaking louder than the words. I really don't want to hurt him, cuz he is so so so nice, but .....

*sigh*

Oh, I just read this post above. Sometimes we misinterpret people's actions, too. He might just be in lust with you and has a different way of showing it. Just another 2 cents into the piggybank.

 

[mytasteislikecandy]

MIA,

That was lovely

Thank you very much...