Help for my disabled brother's sexual frustration

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[LindsayRae]

In the general Board you said he was a quadriplegic, and as someone there pointed out/asked does he even have any feeling in his penis? I knew a female quad in my lifetime, and was friends with a male paraplegic (who could not get hard)... So, how do you purpose he could even receive sexual relief?

 

[Very_Bad_Man]

I am the caregiver for my 26 year old brother and recently he and i were talking and he complained how sexually frustrated that he is. I want to do something to help him deal with his frustration but i don't know what to do. p.s. we have talked to all of his doctors but they were no help at all.

In the general Board you said he was a quadriplegic, and as someone there pointed out/asked does he even have any feeling in his penis? I knew a female quad in my lifetime, and was friends with a male paraplegic (who could not get hard)... So, how do you purpose he could even receive sexual relief?

I'm not a doctor but if you have no feelings in your genitals just how do you get sexually frustrated?

I think we need more info

 

[NiggerSayWhat]

Just suck on yo brudders limp dick for him bitch

 

[sdineen]

df

even quad's can feel an emotional and physical need.
Its like the stab of an amputated limb

 

[Boundlife]

I am the caregiver for my 26 year old quadriplegic brother and recently he and i were talking and he complained how sexually frustrated that he is. I want to do something to help him deal with his frustration but i don't know what to do. p.s. we have talked to all of his doctors but they were no help at all.

I don't have any practical advice, but I'm dealing with the same thing. I have a brain tumour, and I need a powerchair. Ever since I've needed a walker it's been harder to just talk to people. Finding a relationship...
Masturbating is impossible for me. Doctors are useless for help with this. On the net I just find "Disabled people have sexual feelings too, there is nothing wrong with this, its natural"
To try and deal I wrote a story that I posted here. It made things better and worse
same as posting on the forums (but typing is alot of work with one finger)
I wish I had some thing for you, then I'd have something for me

ps having someone who cares for you and (nonsexual but affectionate) physical contact helps a bit
I hope you find something.

 

[switchbitch]

I am the caregiver for my 26 year old quadriplegic brother and recently he and i were talking and he complained how sexually frustrated that he is. I want to do something to help him deal with his frustration but i don't know what to do. p.s. we have talked to all of his doctors but they were no help at all.

hi, you don't have to have the feeling in your Cock to be sexually frustrated the most sexual part of your body is your brain and it is what delivers that feeling of frustration not just aching balls. I have a friend who became a quadriplegic through an accident and he suffered the same nightmare. He was however able to feel with his face. And he could get hard (although he never knew when he was because he couldn't feel it). So the problems were twofold his mental sexual frustration and a physical one that while he couldn't feel it was still there. The physical one was easy to relieve I simply wrapped his Cock and balls in a warm wet washer, after emptying his catheter and bag, and gradually wanking him while he watched in a mirror. I sat on his face and he he used his nose tongue and lips to make me come several times, his breath rate increased just as it would if he was approaching orgasm and with time he said he felt like he had had an orgasm. I don't understand the mechanics of it terribly well but I do know it gave him some satisfaction and although he didn't ejaculate he did have continuous pre-come. And he said he felt like he had come. I used to go and see him about once a month for what he called his pity fuck, it always made me laugh because what his face did to me was definitely not a pity. With time we were able to get him to achieve ejaculation although he said it didn't feel any different. I don't see him that way any more because he has a full-time live-in girlfriend who is a very happy girl!.I don't know if any of this will help you or your brother because everyone's reactions are different and not all quadriplegic's are the same. My friend spoke to others that he did therapy sessions with and had mixed responses from them, for some it worked on a physical level for others it didn't, but all of them felt some relief with close physical contact of someone who gave a shit,some of them merely bombarded themselves with porn and were able to achieve what they felt was orgasm.so I guess what I'm saying is don't give up even quadriplegics don't have to have a sexless life.
Good luck

 

[Scotsman69]

I cared for my ex-partner (mother of my son) as her health declined though multiple sclerosis, for many years. Sex is often the first thing to disappear with MS. Hardest time in my life.

I wish you both well.

 

[dudeinachair]

Hi there,

Speaking as a paraplegic who's sensory line stops around about groin level. I have found over the years a number of ways to stimulate myself. You really need to start with finding out where and what he can feel. But guess that's going to be a difficult conversation with him being your brother and all.

I have found that the inside of my arms is a place that if stroked for some reason gets me pretty excited. It doesn't get me hard but it does excite me. I have all so found that I have some very limited sensation in my balls. By limited I mean tugging or squeezing. I have also known from a young age that I have some limited sensation of my prostate and that maybe worth exploring.

Every spinal injury is different I know guys that can get hard but cant ejaculate and others who cant get hard but can ejaculate. Some have prostate sensation some don't. Some use penis pumps and other use very powerful vibrators.

Personally as I taken great pleasure from giving good head and that was enough for a long time. The joy I took from having someone sat on my face and tonguing then for hours drinking in her scent and juices gave me immense pleasure. I finally ended up with a girlfriend who was very into being a mistress and wanted to use and explore things with me. that's how I came to find my other pleasure zones. Over the years I have found domme's to be way more open to using me for their pleasure as well as being ok with the pluming that comes with being incontinent.

Not sure if this is of any use to you or your brother but feel free to ask and I can maybe give some more pointers. Best advise really is to find some he can experiment with like a domme or a kinky nurse, maybe a good place to start.

 

[paulthewetcd]

hi, you don't have to have the feeling in your Cock to be sexually frustrated the most sexual part of your body is your brain and it is what delivers that feeling of frustration not just aching balls. I have a friend who became a quadriplegic through an accident and he suffered the same nightmare. He was however able to feel with his face. And he could get hard (although he never knew when he was because he couldn't feel it). So the problems were twofold his mental sexual frustration and a physical one that while he couldn't feel it was still there. The physical one was easy to relieve I simply wrapped his Cock and balls in a warm wet washer, after emptying his catheter and bag, and gradually wanking him while he watched in a mirror. I sat on his face and he he used his nose tongue and lips to make me come several times, his breath rate increased just as it would if he was approaching orgasm and with time he said he felt like he had had an orgasm. I don't understand the mechanics of it terribly well but I do know it gave him some satisfaction and although he didn't ejaculate he did have continuous pre-come. And he said he felt like he had come. I used to go and see him about once a month for what he called his pity fuck, it always made me laugh because what his face did to me was definitely not a pity. With time we were able to get him to achieve ejaculation although he said it didn't feel any different. I don't see him that way any more because he has a full-time live-in girlfriend who is a very happy girl!.I don't know if any of this will help you or your brother because everyone's reactions are different and not all quadriplegic's are the same. My friend spoke to others that he did therapy sessions with and had mixed responses from them, for some it worked on a physical level for others it didn't, but all of them felt some relief with close physical contact of someone who gave a shit,some of them merely bombarded themselves with porn and were able to achieve what they felt was orgasm.so I guess what I'm saying is don't give up even quadriplegics don't have to have a sexless life.
Good luck

Hi there,

Speaking as a paraplegic who's sensory line stops around about groin level. I have found over the years a number of ways to stimulate myself. You really need to start with finding out where and what he can feel. But guess that's going to be a difficult conversation with him being your brother and all.

I have found that the inside of my arms is a place that if stroked for some reason gets me pretty excited. It doesn't get me hard but it does excite me. I have all so found that I have some very limited sensation in my balls. By limited I mean tugging or squeezing. I have also known from a young age that I have some limited sensation of my prostate and that maybe worth exploring.

Every spinal injury is different I know guys that can get hard but cant ejaculate and others who cant get hard but can ejaculate. Some have prostate sensation some don't. Some use penis pumps and other use very powerful vibrators.

Personally as I taken great pleasure from giving good head and that was enough for a long time. The joy I took from having someone sat on my face and tonguing then for hours drinking in her scent and juices gave me immense pleasure. I finally ended up with a girlfriend who was very into being a mistress and wanted to use and explore things with me. that's how I came to find my other pleasure zones. Over the years I have found domme's to be way more open to using me for their pleasure as well as being ok with the pluming that comes with being incontinent.

Not sure if this is of any use to you or your brother but feel free to ask and I can maybe give some more pointers. Best advise really is to find some he can experiment with like a domme or a kinky nurse, maybe a good place to start.

These are both great testimonials...and very erotic, too!

 

[chaz57]

Hi I'm 58 and have Cerebral Palsy. As it was stated before "the mild is the biggest organ. I would suggest the your brother talks to a professonal about his needs

 

[justabrick]

hi, you don't have to have the feeling in your Cock to be sexually frustrated the most sexual part of your body is your brain and it is what delivers that feeling of frustration not just aching balls. I have a friend who became a quadriplegic through an accident and he suffered the same nightmare. He was however able to feel with his face. And he could get hard (although he never knew when he was because he couldn't feel it). So the problems were twofold his mental sexual frustration and a physical one that while he couldn't feel it was still there. The physical one was easy to relieve I simply wrapped his Cock and balls in a warm wet washer, after emptying his catheter and bag, and gradually wanking him while he watched in a mirror. I sat on his face and he he used his nose tongue and lips to make me come several times, his breath rate increased just as it would if he was approaching orgasm and with time he said he felt like he had had an orgasm. I don't understand the mechanics of it terribly well but I do know it gave him some satisfaction and although he didn't ejaculate he did have continuous pre-come. And he said he felt like he had come. I used to go and see him about once a month for what he called his pity fuck, it always made me laugh because what his face did to me was definitely not a pity. With time we were able to get him to achieve ejaculation although he said it didn't feel any different. I don't see him that way any more because he has a full-time live-in girlfriend who is a very happy girl!.I don't know if any of this will help you or your brother because everyone's reactions are different and not all quadriplegic's are the same. My friend spoke to others that he did therapy sessions with and had mixed responses from them, for some it worked on a physical level for others it didn't, but all of them felt some relief with close physical contact of someone who gave a shit,some of them merely bombarded themselves with porn and were able to achieve what they felt was orgasm.so I guess what I'm saying is don't give up even quadriplegics don't have to have a sexless life.
Good luck

Oh man, so hot...

Hi there,

Speaking as a paraplegic who's sensory line stops around about groin level. I have found over the years a number of ways to stimulate myself. You really need to start with finding out where and what he can feel. But guess that's going to be a difficult conversation with him being your brother and all.

I have found that the inside of my arms is a place that if stroked for some reason gets me pretty excited. It doesn't get me hard but it does excite me. I have all so found that I have some very limited sensation in my balls. By limited I mean tugging or squeezing. I have also known from a young age that I have some limited sensation of my prostate and that maybe worth exploring.

Every spinal injury is different I know guys that can get hard but cant ejaculate and others who cant get hard but can ejaculate. Some have prostate sensation some don't. Some use penis pumps and other use very powerful vibrators.

Personally as I taken great pleasure from giving good head and that was enough for a long time. The joy I took from having someone sat on my face and tonguing then for hours drinking in her scent and juices gave me immense pleasure. I finally ended up with a girlfriend who was very into being a mistress and wanted to use and explore things with me. that's how I came to find my other pleasure zones. Over the years I have found domme's to be way more open to using me for their pleasure as well as being ok with the pluming that comes with being incontinent.

Not sure if this is of any use to you or your brother but feel free to ask and I can maybe give some more pointers. Best advise really is to find some he can experiment with like a domme or a kinky nurse, maybe a good place to start.

And so true.