Help dealing with a large penis

[jr30]

The new guy I'm seeing has a much larger than average penis. Well, average length, but much large width-wise. I can barely wrap my hand around it, and I don't have small hands.

I have been able to please him - with my hands, my mouth, my tongue. But I have yet to be able to make him cum. I can't use my mouth long enough - my jaw gets sore. When I ask him for guidance, he tells me that what I'm doing is just fine, but there's part of me that wished I could take him to that next level of pleasure.

I assume that we will eventually have sex, and that will hopefully solve the problem. But for now, I feel a little inadequate. Any suggestions beyond time, practice, and don't put pressure on myself are greatly appreciated.

 

[SweetErika]

When your mouth gets tired, do you use a combination of your mouth on the head (kissing, licking, sucking, etc.) and hand stroking the shaft? That usually works.

If he's taking a long time to get off, he probably needs to cut back on masturbation. Find out how much he masturbates, then ask him to refrain for a few days before you get together and use a much lighter touch when he jacks off. He'll experience much more pleasure and is more likely to get off with oral and vaginal sex.

When you do get to sex, take your time getting really aroused and fully relaxed (having at least one orgasm prior usually helps), warm up with fingers or toys, go slow and use plenty of lube.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

If he's taking a long time to get off, he probably needs to cut back on masturbation. Find out how much he masturbates, then ask him to refrain for a few days before you get together and use a much lighter touch when he jacks off. He'll experience much more pleasure and is more likely to get off with oral and vaginal sex.

This is really good advice. Also, you can ask him to masturbate and watch how he touches himself, the speed and pressure he uses. Encourage him to be more vocal about what works for him and what doesn't. Some guys are so happy to get a blowjob, they keep quiet and are shy of directing what you do. Make sure he knows that you won't take instruction as criticism and that you really want to make him cum.

 

[e-trance action]

This is really good advice. Also, you can ask him to masturbate and watch how he touches himself, the speed and pressure he uses. Encourage him to be more vocal about what works for him and what doesn't. Some guys are so happy to get a blowjob, they keep quiet and are shy of directing what you do. Make sure he knows that you won't take instruction as criticism and that you really want to make him cum.

I'm a guy who's thick and the above approach is a good one. Also switching back and forth between oral and your hand, lets you rest both, gives you the chance to talk to him, tell him how turned on you are by his cumming for you, how you like how he looks in your hand, etc whatever increases the arousal.

The only other tip I'd give when you get to sex is to try a woman on top or a side to side position so you have some control of the depth of entry. Since most of the nerves in the penis are in the top part, it shouldn't hurt him if you don't take all of him.

 

[EjAcKuLaToR]

All is good advice. I too am of average to above-average length, but exceptional width. I think that the comments above will get you where you want to be.

One additional note...A big emphasis should be on the mentality of the situation as well as the physicality. In other words, get him turned on like a motherfucker! Verbally, by seeing you naked, by touching you, etc...but withhold just enough to keep him DYING for it...then utilize that mental advantage to make him cum as fast as possible.

Then you can decide what is a good compromise (time wise) for him to cum, and it will be within your control. Drive the motherfucker nuts.

Jack

 

[the_jawbreaker]

I am currently in a relationship with a vanilla girl (have been into bdsm for a long time before this, but she was just too great too pass up).

She's very sad that she can't get me to cum through oral sex...but i never have the heart to tell her what's wrong. I can tell you though, maybe it can help:

The truth is, her technique is great, she does all the right things, but she fails to turn me on properly...it feels too much like she's performing a chore and not enjoying it enough...i just wish she would act all slutty...tell me she wants me to fuck her mouth and cum all over her face...just see her excited about it.

 

[DanielScott]

Try kind of licking and sucking ALONG the side of it, instead of taking it all in your mouth front-on. Also you might try working his balls more; testicular stimulation gets the sperm moving and thus a much higher chance of orgasm.

Also, he may have a hard time cumming and be embarassed to bring it up to you. If he says its great - it probably is!

 

[Mr.G]

Erica's 2 Para

TELL him to back off the masturbation for a bit. First off guys tend to know how rough they can get to get off and it's often pretty rough. Ask him if you're being too gentle. Ask him to show you how he does it. Offer to show him the same (fair's fair) so that both of you know what your bodies are used to. Communicate.

Secondly there is a good chance the dude is doing what LOTS of guys do BEFORE they go on a date where they know they're gonna have sex and that's whack off first so you don't embarrass yourself and cum too soon with her.

So ... just another thought. Ask him what he thinks about, fantasizes about when he's masturbating. He may have a series of images that gets him off and when you're doing all you can he IS enjoying the sensations that your efforts are producing BUT his brain is programmed to cum during his fantasy and he may (probably isn't ) having it when you're doing him. IF (big if) he'll share his fantasy with you then try verbalizing it. Tell him a story or somehow relate to what his brain is used to hearing and visualizing when he's making himself cum.

Ditto all those things when you start having intercourse. DON'T expect it to go flawlessly if you don't know what to expect, rush into it before being properly turned on and lubed. I'd suggest buying a toy about the same size he is and getting used to the girth. Also and again, you don't want him tossing the first / easy one BEFORE he has sex with you or he'll go on forever, you'll run out of lubrication and it may get very uncomfortable for you.

Take is slow & g'luck.

 

[jr30]

Hey all. OP here. Just wanted to say that I appreciate all the advice, and I have been able to overcome my little problem to great enjoyment by both parties. Thank again for the advice.

 

[DRoc]

He may be the same as I am. I have an average length dick but it is very wide. I too have trouble cumming, but it is not because of my wife. It just does not happen (well it did a hand full of times).

Take a look at my wife's thread on the subject and you might find some insight. And whatever you do, please do not feel inadequate.
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=586210