All,
I have been helping a young woman where I work. I met her a four years ago when I sat down with her as she was crying on a bench in the hallway. I knew she had some issues with her mental health and her sex life, but I had no idea until recently what they were. She experienced a loss in her family, and her activities intensified, and she began to tell me more in the tone that she would like help changing the trajectory of her activities.
All at once, she had attempted suicide, told me about multiple casual relationships cheating on her boyfriend, let me listen to audio messages from her SF-CEO sugar daddy trying to lure her to Chicago for a direct meeting. The volume of information was overwhelming. When she was feeling unsafe, we would let her stay at our house in our daughter's old room.
During this time, she was diagnosed as being bipolar, she got a trainer at work fired for inappropriate sexual activity, and, as indicated above, she attempted suicide.
After returning to work from her funeral leave, she let me know about seeing a guy for really rough sex. I recently saw a picture - this guy is a steroided up bodybuilder. I learned about it first when she let me know that she saw this guy on the morning before her boyfriend was arriving in the afternoon. She told me that he hurt her (mostly her wrists from restraining her and her throat from throating her - but she also mentioned later that she had been bleeding for several days, so I assume there were vaginal injuries as well).
About a week and a half later, she came to our house on a Saturday night for safety. On Sunday morning, she woke up in a weird mood and wanted to leave. I could tell by the look on her face where she was going, but she wouldn't accept any of my offers to stay for a calm old-people day of working in the yard.
At about 10PM, she called asking us to come and get her. We brought her back to our house, and I sat up talking with her as she cried on the couch and rubbed her throat because she was in pain. When I took out the trash, there were more feminine napkins in the trash than would be expected for a normal period - even over two nights, and I had to wash blood out of the bottom of the wastebasket. So, I assume there were vaginal injuries again.
It has been about a month since that happened. She has been trying to separate herself from those activities, but there is a part of her that is drawn back, even though it makes her feel awful about herself. (As I tell her, good sex of whatever kind should empower you, not diminish you.)
Just Sunday, she was explaining to me what a "thirst trap" picture was, and she showed me some examples from her phone. Hers were guys sending her pictures of their inner arms with the veins popping out after a workout. One was body-builder dude. She told me that just seeing his picture made her wet, and she had to go in and take a cold shower.
While I have an imagination, I have been in a relationship for 40+ years, and we are both vanilla and happy. How can I understand what makes this relationship so attractive for her? I would be interested in any comments.
GodivaFan
I have been helping a young woman where I work. I met her a four years ago when I sat down with her as she was crying on a bench in the hallway. I knew she had some issues with her mental health and her sex life, but I had no idea until recently what they were. She experienced a loss in her family, and her activities intensified, and she began to tell me more in the tone that she would like help changing the trajectory of her activities.
All at once, she had attempted suicide, told me about multiple casual relationships cheating on her boyfriend, let me listen to audio messages from her SF-CEO sugar daddy trying to lure her to Chicago for a direct meeting. The volume of information was overwhelming. When she was feeling unsafe, we would let her stay at our house in our daughter's old room.
During this time, she was diagnosed as being bipolar, she got a trainer at work fired for inappropriate sexual activity, and, as indicated above, she attempted suicide.
After returning to work from her funeral leave, she let me know about seeing a guy for really rough sex. I recently saw a picture - this guy is a steroided up bodybuilder. I learned about it first when she let me know that she saw this guy on the morning before her boyfriend was arriving in the afternoon. She told me that he hurt her (mostly her wrists from restraining her and her throat from throating her - but she also mentioned later that she had been bleeding for several days, so I assume there were vaginal injuries as well).
About a week and a half later, she came to our house on a Saturday night for safety. On Sunday morning, she woke up in a weird mood and wanted to leave. I could tell by the look on her face where she was going, but she wouldn't accept any of my offers to stay for a calm old-people day of working in the yard.
At about 10PM, she called asking us to come and get her. We brought her back to our house, and I sat up talking with her as she cried on the couch and rubbed her throat because she was in pain. When I took out the trash, there were more feminine napkins in the trash than would be expected for a normal period - even over two nights, and I had to wash blood out of the bottom of the wastebasket. So, I assume there were vaginal injuries again.
It has been about a month since that happened. She has been trying to separate herself from those activities, but there is a part of her that is drawn back, even though it makes her feel awful about herself. (As I tell her, good sex of whatever kind should empower you, not diminish you.)
Just Sunday, she was explaining to me what a "thirst trap" picture was, and she showed me some examples from her phone. Hers were guys sending her pictures of their inner arms with the veins popping out after a workout. One was body-builder dude. She told me that just seeing his picture made her wet, and she had to go in and take a cold shower.
While I have an imagination, I have been in a relationship for 40+ years, and we are both vanilla and happy. How can I understand what makes this relationship so attractive for her? I would be interested in any comments.
GodivaFan
