Help a guy out here

[blazen]

Hey everyone, I have been lurking on the boards for a while, and now I need a little help. I'm a 21 male in college and have a hard time finding girls to hang out with/date. Anyone have any ideas on where to meet and or ask a girl out. I know this has probably been asked a few times, but I just don't seem to make any connections at school so I am looking for alternate avenues. I like the clubs around town, but I'm not sure what to say or do. Thanks for any help

 

[English Lady]

my advice is to go somewhere you are comfortable,somewhere where you'll be relaxed, because if you feel out of place you'll look uncomfortable and girls will notice that

 

[ESH419]

Try floating over to the Playground (within the Personals section). There are a lot of regional threads there along with one specifically for college people. It may not be on your campus, but ya could find other Lit members in your area.

~ESH419

 

[Cakegirl]

If you focus on the places and things that you like, you're more likely to find a partner who shares your interests. So, you could try hanging out at a place where there are a lot of women, but if you weren't into the scene, you'd probably seem very conspicuous (think Helena Bonham Carter at the testicular cancer support meeting in Fight Club).

So, if you like sport, try hanging out at sporty places - gym, games, volunteer at little league, etc. If you like computers, try hanging out at computery places, etc. That way, if you see a woman there that you're attracted to, both you and she will know that you've already got something in common. That way you can go up and start a conversation based around the activity - so, you like softball too? Have you tried the latest version of this game, etc. And then you can move on from there to something else, like asking her out for coffee, etc.

~Cakegirl

 

[blazen]

Thanks for the advice everyone... we will see how things turn out.

 

[Lust Engine]

The most important thing is be you. Don't be a phony; it'll just lead to all sorts of explaining further down the road. Be comfortable with yourself and let that shine through.

 

[Monazwx]

And also join clubs that interest you, co-ed ones.
That way you'll have a base to the conversation and you won't have to fumble for things to say.

 

[SexyGiggles]

And also join clubs that interest you, co-ed ones.
That way you'll have a base to the conversation and you won't have to fumble for things to say.

Student organizations and clubs are a great place to meet people who have similar interests and beliefs as yourself -- you already have something in common just by showing up! It's also a great way to get to know people before asking them out -- you'll be more comfortable if you know them in a social setting.

And, you can use the member phone list for calling up dates!

 

[DuckLover]

ITA with SexyGiggles. Student groups are how the two of us met! Plus, they're fun and give you a chance to make friends in general, gain leadership experience, and relieve stress! Go for it!

 

[Lust Engine]

A few social functions that have come in handy for me to meet people have been volunteer/ charity events. Not only do you do some good in the community, you find other people who are willing to part with some of their free time too. You can go to high brow black tie functions for charity or get down & dirty with things like Habitat for Humanity. All kinds of wonderful charities need people.

Besides, it's a great icebreaker for conversations.

Just a wacky suggestion.

 

[DuckLover]

Ain't nothing wacky...

...about LE's suggestion.

Not only do volunteer activities give you a great way to meet people, some of whom you might wind up dating, but it's also great experience to on a resume'!

 

[rosie70]

I don't know if you live in a "college town" or not, but I have head of "college personals": all kinds of personal ads geared towards college aged people. Not all are necessarily for dating; some are people just looking for a tennis partner, etc. but that may be a good way of meeting others outside the obvious circles.
(BTW, I had horrible luck meeting people when I was single - so I can sympatize - until I joined an "introduction club" and that's how I met my hubby!)
GOod luck!

 

[HoHoBomb]

I always suggest this because it works.

Join or go to a ballroom or salsa dance class
the women out number the men
and you get to find a dance partner.

 

[Needssome]

Online personals do work. Found my honey that way and my ex as well. I found it best that way since I'm so shy. Plus, it was a great way of finding people who were also looking for someone. I have the tendency to be attracted to men who are attached and this way I at least knew the guys I were talking to and interested in were looking for the same and not only being friendly.

 

[Noneyabizness]

Hey everyone, I have been lurking on the boards for a while, and now I need a little help. I'm a 21 male in college and have a hard time finding girls to hang out with/date. Anyone have any ideas on where to meet and or ask a girl out. I know this has probably been asked a few times, but I just don't seem to make any connections at school so I am looking for alternate avenues. I like the clubs around town, but I'm not sure what to say or do. Thanks for any help

Any of your friends having parties, or could you all have a party together and invite people to it....if you are in your own surroundings, you may feel more comfortable, making it easier to ask a girl out.

 

[KisstheSky]

Why aren't there guys like you on my campus, all the guys I meet want to do is fuck and move on, they usually don't even want to stay friends they're new age swingers lol
Maybe its the college age mindset.
I haven't been having this problem at the latest school, maybe its just the snobby private upper crust college mentality that I just needed to escape...thank god, I'd prefer a good relationship than a bad lay and a diamond farewell gift LOL

 

[DuckLover]

I always suggest this because it works.

Join or go to a ballroom or salsa dance class
the women out number the men
and you get to find a dance partner.

ABSOLUTELY AGREE!! Taking a ballroom dance class was probably one of the best moves I ever made! (I even got laid out of the deal eventually!)

Most guys are afraid to dance and/or unwilling to dance. So if you are one of the few who has even a SLIGHT ability, when you combine that with WILLINGNESS (which is more important), you will ALWAYS be popular with women. It won't always get you laid, but it will always get you noticed.

Not to mention the facts that it will help you stay in shape AND is a heck of a lot of fun!