Hi all!
Well, I've mostly been lurking around the boards for a month or so. I find D/s intriguing, and have thought about it for a long time. but even moreso after my last relationship. She was into dominant guys, and I think she lost interest in me sexually when she realized I wasn't really like that.
I'm sure I have submissive tendencies. I got up the nerve to try a D/s story
My Assistant
that, I guess, displays some of my fantasies for all to see. I felt a real pang of recognition when someone started a thread about the 'Whimper', not too long ago - I had never been conscious of what that was.
On the other hand, though, submissive women really excite me. The best times I had with the woman I mentioned above were in the first couple of months. She would gaze into my eyes in a way that I can't begin to describe, but, in retrospect, I understand. She had a lover, (long term sex partner, really) a man who was not a dom in any conscious sense, but who had so much power within their relationship that she was completely subservient to him. As much as it made me jealous, it turned me on to no end to hear about (and, privately, obsess about) the two of them together.
Am I really a sub, then?
And then there is the problem of finding a Domme. I have enough trouble finding someone vanilla I want to hang around for six months. Someone I consider both likeable and my equal. If I add that compatibility problem the need to find someone SO special that I want to be possessed by them, it seems like I'll never find anyone worth being with.
Isn't that right? A sub isn't interested in an equal, is he? Doesn't he want someone wiser and stronger than he is? Someone he admires to the point of wanting to serve and obey?
So how in the world do subs ever meet someone they are truly compatible and happy with? Is it just wild luck?

Well, I've mostly been lurking around the boards for a month or so. I find D/s intriguing, and have thought about it for a long time. but even moreso after my last relationship. She was into dominant guys, and I think she lost interest in me sexually when she realized I wasn't really like that.
I'm sure I have submissive tendencies. I got up the nerve to try a D/s story
My Assistant
that, I guess, displays some of my fantasies for all to see. I felt a real pang of recognition when someone started a thread about the 'Whimper', not too long ago - I had never been conscious of what that was.
On the other hand, though, submissive women really excite me. The best times I had with the woman I mentioned above were in the first couple of months. She would gaze into my eyes in a way that I can't begin to describe, but, in retrospect, I understand. She had a lover, (long term sex partner, really) a man who was not a dom in any conscious sense, but who had so much power within their relationship that she was completely subservient to him. As much as it made me jealous, it turned me on to no end to hear about (and, privately, obsess about) the two of them together.
Am I really a sub, then?
And then there is the problem of finding a Domme. I have enough trouble finding someone vanilla I want to hang around for six months. Someone I consider both likeable and my equal. If I add that compatibility problem the need to find someone SO special that I want to be possessed by them, it seems like I'll never find anyone worth being with.
Isn't that right? A sub isn't interested in an equal, is he? Doesn't he want someone wiser and stronger than he is? Someone he admires to the point of wanting to serve and obey?
So how in the world do subs ever meet someone they are truly compatible and happy with? Is it just wild luck?