Hecate

[Todd]

Sorry to bother you this way, but i have a question and you seem to be the master mistress int he area of S&M lifestyle, or atleast your stories and posts point that way anyways.

Is there such a thing as gentle S&M i mean still being chained or tied or cuffed, but not witht he whippings and beating or pain aspect. Maybe more of a mind type pain. Tenative touchs, wrods, teases, out of reach delicacies etc.

Just curious, I like the thought of being tied from time to time, or cuffed and restrained, maybe a biut of friendly spanking, but franky being whipped and hotwax dripped on and clamps and pinching doesn't interest me as sexual activity.

Thank you for your time, and incite.

 

[Hecate]

There we go again ....

not to worry Todd - it is likely that if you wonder someone else may wonder too ...

First of all:
S&M is NOT D/s (which I would consider my "domain" if at all)
D/s can but not necessarrily has to involve pain and bondage.

It has been said many many times around Lit, that the mightiest of al sexual organs of the human body is the mind - and it is very much true when we are talking about D/s games. The "essence" is the handover of power, which can only be done consensual, so even any form of bondage doesn't have to take place if not wanted by those involved.

Same with the "pain". I like it very much to have a "victim" tied up at my mercy and just be tender - tease him/her to the edge of orgasm and then just leave .. return and tease again, stop short before and .... you get the idea. No pain involved, just sweet torture, being helpless, and trusting the person in charge to not take "advantage" of the situation.

So - in a D/s relation there is ALL room from the soft and tender to the heavy and hard approach. It is something consensual so if one party says "no pain" it is "no pain" ... and from the way you worded the question I take it as a mere bedroom game now and then and in that case pain should be a no-no anyway, assuming we are talking about people involved who might not be too aware how to propperly handle hot wax, clamps and whips! It is not a game but can be outright dangerous! *chuckles* as for a good bare handed spanking though - you might like to experiment with that some time - usually even the "giving end" gets a rather clear feeling for the impact of his/her blows.

Just one last note (geeze - I feel like a recosr with a scratch ... and yes, I am old enough to remember those big black round thingies): You need to trust the other party involved COMPLETELY if you intend to enjoy being tied up, play carefully, have fun - and use the bloody safe-word if you have to! It is not your right but your DUTY to stop it when for you the fun ends!!!

As for S&M - you may be aware the words themselves imply giving and receiving pain as content of the scene, so I would advise you to stay away from that.

 

[Todd]

Thank you for taking the time to educate us{me} ignorant people of the life style.

From what you describe I could handle your teasing to the edge and going away and coming back again and a spanking from time to time but as for the rest of it its very highly questionable to even gie a consideration.

Again thank you, and when you coming to visit

 

[circe!]

Hecate!

I seriously love your icon! It's almost...frightening!

 

[LittleRedDevil]

Re: Hecate!

I seriously love your icon! It's almost...frightening!

I was thinking that same thing!

 

[Hecate]

*lol* it was about time someone realized I am horribly awfully scary ... well, at least my icon is now *chuckles*

 

[ShyGuy68]

*lol* it was about time someone realized I am horribly awfully scary

So finally you got people to observe you the way you want them to huh??