Heartache 101

[NomadLady]

Oh, you're gonna have to fight me for Anderson Cooper.

I don't think he likes us girls subish.....

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

*GULP*

I would watch that. Hell, I'd even pay.
But, inquiring minds want to know, which Batman?

Please, oh please, oh please say Christian Bale....

Adam West! No. Christian Bale.

I'd pay to see it with Anderson Cooper.......and with whatever Batman you choose....but who is James K. Polk? surely not the dead president.....

Hey!!!! The Napolean of the Stump IN HIS PRIME, missy. Sheesh. Seizing the southwest from Mexico and making the English sell the NW territory?? Hot!

Oh, you're gonna have to fight me for Anderson Cooper.

I would watch that.

I don't think he likes us girls subish.....

Anderson Cooper has the hots for the gods.

 

[NomadLady]

Adam West! No. Christian Bale.

Hey!!!! The Napolean of the Stump IN HIS PRIME, missy. Sheesh. Seizing the southwest from Mexico and making the English sell the NW territory?? Hot!

I would watch that.

Anderson Cooper has the hots for the gods.

Ok ok....I'd watch you do either of the three.....but do I just have to watch? Couldn't I be the "fluffer" or something? hehehe

 

[FloggingMolly]

Ok ok....I'd watch you do either of the three.....but do I just have to watch? Couldn't I be the "fluffer" or something? hehehe

*likes* good call

 

[rekane]

A big postscript

*******

 

[Chiara_searches]

I am deeply grateful for all he and our relationship brought into my life.

. . .

Today feels so much lighter. I am glad I turned that crucial corner.

I know some of us are still in pain and struggling. I know how difficult it seems to imagine that it will go away. We are all smart people and know in our heads that the hurt doesn't go on forever - sometimes it just feels like it will never end.

Thank you for sharing with us all that you've turned that corner, found the way to learn the lessons needed from the pain and are able to start formating where you go from here. It took me many years to recognize the process can be applied to different aspects of your life, not just heartache. It helps me cope better with other disappointments, too.

 

[NomadLady]

Maybe we all have turned corners to some degree. I haven't spoken to my past partner on the terms that I would like but I will not be blamed for his mistakes in the relationship. My biggest one was falling in love with a married man and I will take the blame for that.

I have since met a wonderful couple and we all get along very well, play well and play naughtily together and they have welcomed me with open arms, making me feel like I am part of their family.

Also on Valentine's Day (of all days) a past lover found me through the internet after 15 years apart and he wants to see me when he visits family around late May. He lives in another state now but has never married, and still remembers very, very specific and intimate details about the time we spent together as though it had just happened yesterday. We have talked an hour each the past two nights on the telephone and his recollection of events is absolutely mind blowing. I've never known men to be so "into details" but it is wonderfully refreshing.

I feel blessed at this point to have met this couple and to have this man from my past get in touch with me. I've learned from my mistakes and hope the learning process never stops....but I do hope it has a little less heartache.

 

[JamieJ424]

The best advice I ever got after breaking up with someone is...Hm. Actually I never got any good advice, ever. I probably need to read this thread from the beginning.

J

 

[rekane]

*******

 

[Setanta84]

So, it looked like I had finally stumbled across what I have been looking for since the LTR went down in flames, i.e. a kinky woman I liked, but wasn't obsessed with, and was interested in a mainly sexual relationship. Then she pushed us past an emotional boundary, freaked out, we argued, and we're no longer talking.

I am really starting to wonder what it is that I do that gets emotionally unavailable women to open up to me and then freak out about it. At this point, it has to be me.

 

[NomadLady]

So, it looked like I had finally stumbled across what I have been looking for since the LTR went down in flames, i.e. a kinky woman I liked, but wasn't obsessed with, and was interested in a mainly sexual relationship. Then she pushed us past an emotional boundary, freaked out, we argued, and we're no longer talking.

I am really starting to wonder what it is that I do that gets emotionally unavailable women to open up to me and then freak out about it. At this point, it has to be me.

It is you but not in a bad way. I have the EXACT SAME thing....emotionally unavailable men confide in me their deepest, darkest secrets for some reason, and it happens quite often during a first meeting. I've been told I'm easy to talk to, open up to, etc...but it's still weird that after what "I thought" was a great session of NSA sex we can lie in bed talking for hours I wind up knowing their life history. I wish I knew what it was about me that makes people so very comfortable since there are times I wish I could TURN IT OFF.

 

[NomadLady]

I am glad to hear this! Nice playmates are crucial, I think. It helps gloss over the uglier spots, while not entirely eliminating the "opportunities for growth".

Yay for Nomad! Let's have a celebratory martini!

Thanks rekane....glad you and I both are in a better place now...I will happily join you in a celebratory drink!!!!!!