Heartache 101

[shy slave]

Thank you.

*respectful pause*

Do you have any video of the complete strangers and the oral?

*Choke splutter cough*

ROFL!

Apologies, there are no videos.

Disappointingly I forgot to find out if any of them were eco aware, nor did any of them wear a green cloak.

Looking at your other comments it seems those are needed to make a ten minute orgasm, I would hate you to have less than that

 

[Keroin]

I'm new here, so I hope you take this in the way it's intended. The mere fact that you can look at yourself and say "I was wrong to shrug my culpability" means that the forgiveness already exists in you. You probably already know we grow from mistakes and so I wish I could wave my magic wand for you and have that "working on part" be done with because it sounds like you deserve to be done beating yourself up.

There's a world of difference between beating yourself up and accepting culpability. The latter can actually be the key to avoiding, or lessening, future heartache.

That said, I also wish I had that magic wand... I would be rich!!! Rich! Mwa ha ha! (Sorry, that started off as a serious and heartfelt statement).

You are scarily mature, Keroin. You may be an evolutionary leap. (It happens, you know.) Don't let it go to your head.

Too late.

http://www.independent.co.uk/multimedia/archive/00210/Pg-06-easter-island_210646t.jpg

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

*Choke splutter cough*

ROFL!

Apologies, there are no videos.

Disappointingly I forgot to find out if any of them were eco aware, nor did any of them wear a green cloak.

Looking at your other comments it seems those are needed to make a ten minute orgasm, I would hate you to have less than that

Thank you. You're most kind.

I need a green cloak! And a mask! If I'm gonna get hauled in by the cops, I want to look like a real nutcase superhero-emulator-guy!

There's a world of difference between beating yourself up and accepting culpability. The latter can actually be the key to avoiding, or lessening, future heartache.

Yes. This. This. This.

Too late.

http://www.independent.co.uk/multimedia/archive/00210/Pg-06-easter-island_210646t.jpg

That's you!!??? Betcha it's hard to find hats that fit.

 

[shy slave]

DGE when the cops arrest you just explain you were on a porn board on the web asking for advice, somehow the costume 'just happened.' I am sure it will all work out fine, with no problems at all.......

 

[rekane]

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[DeepGreenEyes]

Yeah, I talk a good talk sometimes.
Now, I am off to run an errand - I still need postage stamps!

Do not do it.

This is an act of madness, woman!

 

[rekane]

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[DeepGreenEyes]

Fine.
*mutters*
You talked me out of it.

I really do have better uses of my time...painting my nails, baking cookies, surfing for bdsm porn, IM'ng...you know, it's the little things in life.

All more worthwhile pursuits.

 

[subish2009]

EVEN GREENER??? Really? Wow.

Cool.

I really, really, really want a Batman costume. A really good one. That I can prowl on roofs with. If I could somehow combine that with some sort of Eco/Green theme (Why couldn't the Green Hornet be about a superhero who recycles?? ), that would trigger a ten minute orgasm.

Batman's hot.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Batman's hot.

Oh yeah. He's one of about three guys I'd do.

(The others are James K. Polk and Anderson Cooper.)

 

[Keroin]

That's you!!??? Betcha it's hard to find hats that fit.

That's not the worst part. You should see my aspirin bill every month.

Please, I beg you, stop complimenting me.

 

[rida]

I debated about posting this, but who knows, maybe it will help someone.

*snip for brevity*

This, of course, did not happen over night but when it did boy it felt good.

Thank you Keroin for the above!
It helped me get an extra insight on how people feels after a failed marriage.
I've already passed on the insight to Hubby. Hopefully it will help him finally really move on.

 

[Keroin]

Thank you Keroin for the above!
It helped me get an extra insight on how people feels after a failed marriage.
I've already passed on the insight to Hubby. Hopefully it will help him finally really move on.

Aw, if I've helped at all, Rida, I am very glad. It really did help me and if it helps anyone else then...bonus.

Good luck.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

That's not the worst part. You should see my aspirin bill every month.

Please, I beg you, stop complimenting me.

You're just so good at hating compliments.

 

[NomadLady]

I'm beginning to think that all relationships should have a requirement for a "debriefing" when they are done. That way each partner walks away with some better sense of what went wrong or at least why things went in the ditch so far that wreckers had to be called......hell, I thought I had the four wheel drive AND positive traction engaged this time.

 

[CutieMouse]

I'm beginning to think that all relationships should have a requirement for a "debriefing" when they are done. That way each partner walks away with some better sense of what went wrong or at least why things went in the ditch so far that wreckers had to be called......hell, I thought I had the four wheel drive AND positive traction engaged this time.

Smartest thing the ex-husband and I did when I decided to leave, was agree to 4-6 months of divorce-therapy with the therapist we'd seen as things were ending. It didn't give us closure, as much as it gave us the tools to create closure as time went by.

 

[Setanta84]

Unfortunately, the only person who played serious mindgames with me was also the only person whom I had had a very strong sense of romantic attachment. It took me a few years to learn that you just have to write some people off. Some people recognize that not understanding why they are doing what they are doing gives them leverage and use it. At that point, all engagements are on their terms and engaging is neither smart nor healthy.

 

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[Cattypuss]

Gracie posted a fabulous quote in the quotes thread. It was from Lily Tomlin of all people.

And I think we all need to apply it both in forgiving ourselves and in forgiving others.

"Forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past".

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

DGE when the cops arrest you just explain you were on a porn board on the web asking for advice, somehow the costume 'just happened.' I am sure it will all work out fine, with no problems at all.......

Oh yes. I'm...sure they'll embrace me as a member of the crime-fighting community.

Unfortunately, the only person who played serious mindgames with me was also the only person whom I had had a very strong sense of romantic attachment. It took me a few years to learn that you just have to write some people off. Some people recognize that not understanding why they are doing what they are doing gives them leverage and use it. At that point, all engagements are on their terms and engaging is neither smart nor healthy.

Thank you for your insight.

Just reading this... and {hugs} to you both.

Glad to watch this thread taking a humorous turn. I think humor and spending time with friends are the keys to making it through heartbreak.

Thanks, J.

 

[sereneone4u]

Sorry to hear this...


Hugs

 

[gypsy*seer]

Thanks, kids!
Now my batman fantasy is kicking in full force....


Quick! Somebody send in the chocolate!

 

[rekane]

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[NomadLady]

Oh yeah. He's one of about three guys I'd do.

(The others are James K. Polk and Anderson Cooper.)

I'd pay to see it with Anderson Cooper.......and with whatever Batman you choose....but who is James K. Polk? surely not the dead president.....

 

[subish2009]

Oh yeah. He's one of about three guys I'd do.

(The others are James K. Polk and Anderson Cooper.)

Oh, you're gonna have to fight me for Anderson Cooper.