Headed OUT of the crazy house for GOOD

[Trinique_Fire]

A disaster of mega-proportions has happened within my biological immediate family, which I found out about on Monday night. Let's just say it's disgusting, horrifying, and incredibly disturbing. My mother and father returned home this afternoon.

In less than 24 hours, the tension has reached such a level that makes it very clear that my daughter and I are not welcome in this house any longer. Fine by me. I made some phone calls, priced some motel rooms, got some shelter information, but when it came down to it, my closest friend in this city hooked me up with an extra apartment her father isn't doing anything with. I only need to stay for the rest of January, the month of February, and through to the end of March/beginning of April. I'll pick up an extra p/t job, rack up my AmeriCorps hours, file my taxes, save my money, and get the hell out when my term of service wraps up this spring. I had planned to wait until May to go back and just visit Luna & Family on the east coast, but it's clearer and clearer that I need to apply for a new term of service on the east coast and be out there in April.

While I'm thinking about it, I should mention that I'm going to have to make at least two trips to get all my items into the car and to the new apartment. If my mother gives me shit about trying to pack my own things up, am I free and clear to call the police? She's done this to my sister before, where she'll go into my sister's luggage and steal back items she considers "hers."

Words of wisdom here, guys, and maybe a little support too.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Is there someone who can help you-- maybe with a van so you can do it in one trip?

 

[sereneone4u]

Maybe have the police escort you to the home to get your stuff?

I wished I had better advice, TF.

Hugs and Prayers for you both.

 

[Trinique_Fire]

Is there someone who can help you-- maybe with a van so you can do it in one trip?

I still don't know a lot of people here yet, but my friend is coming with her car as soon as she gets the keys to the apartment.

Maybe have the police escort you to the home to get your stuff?

I wished I had better advice, TF.

Hugs and Prayers for you both.

That would be so awesome! If I have to, I will. It's kind of like being in the hornet's nest AFTER having swatted the nest around. *sigh*

Thanks guys.

 

[Trinique_Fire]

There is some messy weather outside! Everything is covered in ice. I just headed outside to slide my way to the car to fight with my daughter's car seat so I could add it to the pile of mine and Jax's belongings. I give the LATCH system props for being snug and secure for the kidlets, but my God, LATCH is going to kill a mommy or daddy one day!

 

[rgraham666]

No advice, just lots of strength and positive vibes heading your way.

 

[Handley_Page]

Best wishes.
< big hugs >

 

[Trinique_Fire]

Thanks guys. Starting to feel the effects of no sleeping....would love to do nothing more than sit here and cry.

 

[Tarakin]

* Hugs * and best wishes

 

[sadangel]

*angel hugs and thoughts* Also second the idea of a police escort. Be safe please.

 

[sereneone4u]

Not trying to pry here, but if the issue was violence, you can contact the Domestic Violence hotline and obtain help. I worked and volunteered with them many years ago and it did not just mean, shelter for those with violent boyfriends or husbands, but also to help women escape violent families they were dependent upon. They can provide shelter, legal aid, food, clothing, counseling, support, etc.

Hugs, and remember, "This too, shall pass"

 

[Lisa Summers]

I don't have any advice, just a wish and hope that it turns out okay...

 

[Trinique_Fire]

Okay, so the move did not happen today. I am trying for this weekend. Friday or Saturday, hopefully, but I'll settle for Sunday if I have to. I had a conversation with a family member who recommended that yes, I need to get out.

So it goes...


Now, a question: My daughter has a savings account set up in her grandmother's (my mother) name and then her name. It is disability money that actually arrives in MY name. I could not open an account for her due to some credit/chex systems issues. I need to liquidate this account and re-claim the money that belongs to my daughter. She's going to need it for her doctor's visit in Baltimore this spring.

When I was little I had a savings account in my mother's name and my name. She liquidated the account before I could get to it. I was seventeen.

I don't want to leave before I can get my daughter's money back. I don't trust my mother with it without me around. What can I do???

 

[TE999]

Bummer, Trin. Sorry, hon.

Lock your suitcases or buy some locks for them. Keep 'em locked unless you're with 'em.

Rent or borrow a minivan for a day (if possible) and do it all in one trip.

If this is a Domestic Violence situation, go to the police and report it...no family member should be allowed to commit this crime and go unpunished. The laws are quite strict on that crime here in Florida.

Put a freeze on the account, as a parent you have the power to do that since shes' a minor.

 

[Trinique_Fire]

I just want to be straight and clear here: this is not domestic violence.

Thanks for the advice TE. I will be going to the bank to do just that.

 

[TE999]

I just want to be straight and clear here: this is not domestic violence.

Thanks for the advice TE. I will be going to the bank to do just that.

Glad I could help. Call me Tom, Trin.