Head over heals

[damned4lyfe54]

I have this guy friend that I've known for almost 4 years now and he says he only likes me as a friend. I am completely head over heals for him, but I dont have the guts to say so. I'm not sure if he really only likes me as a friend or if hes some how beating around the bush waiting for me to say it first. What are some hints that a shy man will give to let you know he likes you.

 

[Vixandra]

I had a guy friend that I was head over heels in love with.
And after I told him how I felt, I got a "Flattered but not interested" in response.

Few months later though, the idea had been creeping into his mind, and we started talking (I'd been incommunicendo with a lot of people for a bit). After much beating around the bush and me inviting him up to my house saying, "If you come up here then we're officially dating."
He came to my house that night.
Started dating in Feb 01, married April 02, and are still together.
So it is possible to go from close friends to a great relationship and more.

Sometimes guys have to be lead into a clear "yes or no" situation, like the invitation to my house. Very easy, no complications to it. Women can be the same way too sometimes.
And what does it matter if you say it first? Isn't the hope of love worth the fear of rejection over telling him first?

 

[phoenix1224]

I have this guy friend that I've known for almost 4 years now and he says he only likes me as a friend. I am completely head over heals for him, but I dont have the guts to say so. I'm not sure if he really only likes me as a friend or if hes some how beating around the bush waiting for me to say it first. What are some hints that a shy man will give to let you know he likes you.

I used to be MUCH more shy than I am now and back then, I was madly in love with my best friend.

I think that one of the tell-tale signs that I was interested in her was that, most of the time, I wanted to spend time with her rather than with the guys... So, if this guy is spending much more time with YOU than he is with his buddies, then he might be interested in being more than friends.

But, the only way to TRUELY know is to lay it on the line... Tell him how you feel and see what his reaction is.

 

[AdultOpinions]

I have this guy friend that I've known for almost 4 years now and he says he only likes me as a friend. I am completely head over heals for him, but I dont have the guts to say so. I'm not sure if he really only likes me as a friend or if hes some how beating around the bush waiting for me to say it first. What are some hints that a shy man will give to let you know he likes you.

Most guys will already know if you're attracted to them and if they're interested, you would've known it a long time ago. Sometimes it just works out this way. I've had women in love with me and I wasn't interested and I've been in love with women and they weren't interested. Sad but it's the way things work.
However, even though he may not be interested in a relationship doesn't mean you can't still seduce him. I've had some women come on to me in ways I couldn't resist and I still fantasize about them to this day.

Good luck!

 

[silverwhisper]

[not serious]mention to him that you frequent this site and he will likely stumble across this thread. :>[/not serious]

there really isn't much you can do b/c IMX, we men are a bit obtuse about these things. tell him how you feel, i say. the worst thing that can happen is that he says, "look, i like us being friends and i don't wanna lose that." in which case, you've lost nothing. but look at what there is to gain.

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