He wants his presents back now

[KillerMuffin]

Link: http://www.reuters.com/news_article.jhtml?type=humannews&StoryID=1668312

From Reuters:

Man Sues After Finding Girl Not His Daughter

MELBOURNE (Reuters) - An Australian man is suing his former partner to recover more than $10,000 he spent on a little girl, for things such as presents, zoo trips and meals, after discovering she was not his daughter, a newspaper said on Friday.

"I want it all back -- every cent for every toy, every blanket, every bit of food," the man, who can't be identified for legal reasons, said.

"I wouldn't have spent all that money had I known five years ago she wasn't my kid," he was quoted saying by the Herald-Sun.

The claims include take-away McDonald's food over five years, four visits to an amusement park, three Barbie dolls, a Pooh Bear play tent, a day of skating, and child support payments.

The Herald-Sun said the man took the action after DNA tests found the girl was not his daughter.

The girl's mother said she was willing to repay the child support payments but that she should not have to pay back anything else.

"She had a good time with him that's the main thing," she was quoted as saying. "I don't think he should carry on too much about it. He should treat it like doing something nice with a friend."


Should he get his cash back? Why or why not?

How important is biological parentage, anyway?

 

[Harbinger]

That's a terrible way to treat a child. I think he's acting like an ass.

 

[sunstruck]

Support payments, yes, everything else...well he may be entitled, but it's horribly selfish and cruel. I mean, it's not the little girls fault. She's already loosing a man she thought was her daddy.

This article makes me sad. Ugh.

 

[mbb308]

I've seen about men forced by courts to continue support payments on kids later proven not to be theirs.

I've cared about/for kids I didn't father.

If he didn't know, and still believed, it would all be the same.

Fuck him!!!!

Poor kid.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Purrde Flower]

The support is defeniatly somehting he should get back. What I would like to know is that did the mother know this wasnt the father 100%.. was it a con.. or was is simply the mother thinking she had the right man pegged as the father.

 

[ma_guy]

Well, I'd guess right now he's just being spiteful because he's pissed off/hurt. But I'd disagree with him getting reimbursed for anything other than the child support. If this woman defrauded him and led him to believe he was the natural father for 5 years when he wasn't then she deserves what she gets in that regard.

 

[Guest]

 

[lisalove]

Ugh. That's just deplorable. I don't know what the laws are in Australia, but I'm pretty sure that the fact that he and the child had an understanding of a parent/child relationship, he will still be liable. I hope so. I hope he is forced to pay child support until she's 18.

 

[Pyper]

This is a confusing story. This man went beyond it seems the obligation of child support payments, like a good father should. But when he finds out that the child is not really his, he wants it all back? Didn't the little girl grow on him? How can someone be so (seemingly) caring one moment and cold the next?

 

[Harbinger]

The money was spent on a little girl, a kid. ($2,000 a year? What a cheapskate. Give me a break) It's gone. What the Mom or Dad had to do with it is fuck-all, now. I say move on, loser.

 

[TWB]

It is spite against the mother, not the child. He is too blind to see what it will do to daughter, though.

I am crying.

 

[Cheyenne]

Ouch. I feel so sorry for the child. Can you imagine having your daddy suddenly turn on you at age five (guessing here based on the article) and declare you aren't his? Did he love the child? How does a test showing he isn't the biological parent change love?

I guess legally he deserves to be repaid for the support, but I'm not a lawyer so I'm not positive on that. Maybe it was his responsibility to get the test to prove if he was or wasn't the dad if he thought there was a chance that he wasn't.

Why was there testing done now, so many years after the child was born?

Lots of unanswered questions. But I still feel sorry for the little girl.

 

[busybody..]

Not one of you read the article!

He wants it all back from the women, not the kid! If the women had any decency(and she obviously doesnt) she need not even tell the kid.

I want it all back -- every cent for every toy, every blanket, every bit of food," the man, who can't be identified for legal reasons, said.

See? FROM THE MOTHER!

I AGREE WITH HIM!

 

[bluemuse]

While I believe that he has every right to demand the child support payments back, I am extremely saddened that he is. He functioned as this childs father for five years...he IS her father. Yes, keeping the fact that he wasn't the child's biological father from him was deplorable. But what is done is done........he is too blind to see that he was given a gift. I hope that he shakes himself out of it and sees this.

 

[Lasz]

ugh what an asshole.

You would think he would still want to be a part of this kid's life biological or not. He is still raising her and all.

 

[peachykeen]

It's just very sad. Yes he's entitled to his support payments back if he wants them. But who would take a away gifts from a child? Just very sad.

 

[lisalove]

Re: Not one of you read the article!

He wants it all back from the women, not the kid! If the women had any decency(and she obviously doesnt) she need not even tell the kid.

I want it all back -- every cent for every toy, every blanket, every bit of food," the man, who can't be identified for legal reasons, said.

See? FROM THE MOTHER!

I AGREE WITH HIM!

Getting it back from the mother will directly affect the quality of life for the child. He's a cheap, cold-hearted bastard. I say execute him for even suggesting such depravity.

 

[busybody..]

I would hate to be

your future ex. LISA LOVE

 

[JazzManJim]

I'd say it would come down to whether or not the mother deceived him.

If she gave him ample reason to believe that the child was his, then he deserves every single penny back, for everything.

If she didn't for whatever reason, then he might be entitled to child support (which would also include his believing that it might not have been his, but taking no action to prove it).

Momma has to suck up a good hunk of the blame for this, too, in either case.

It sounds like there's a hell of a lot more to the story then is here. I'd need to know a lot more before I fixed any specific blame anywhere, though.

 

[Purrde Flower]

As I said above. I just wanna know did the mother knowingly and intentionaly pass her child off to the wrong father. or was it in her thinking that this was indeed the natural father of her child.

 

[Harbinger]

Re: Re: Not one of you read the article!

He's a cheap, cold-hearted bastard. I say execute him for even suggesting such depravity.

Now yer talkin'! I say we get us all a rope, and string the dirty varmint up! Who's with me?

 

[lost]

Re: I would hate to be

your future ex. LISA LOVE

I think the point of everyone is not so much the money. She should pay it back especially if she knew the child wasn't his.

What they are upset about is the fact that he can "turn off" his love for a child like that.

 

[busybody..]

JazzyPerson

The women in question has said she is willing to give back child support!

Since when do women EVER give money back? So it is certain she decieved him and maybe is fearful of more.

Somewhere along the way:

Women have to pay for bad and devious decisions as do men. For too long it has been a one way street!

 

[Harbinger]

bizzyperson-

Are you for real?