Kymberley
I perfected 'BITCHYNESS'
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I have an ex, who I am still very close to. We broke up because of my kids. Although my kids and him get along great, we couldn't live together as a family so we just decided he would move out.
Our joke is when the kids are 18 we will get married. My sons still look up to him and call him when they need guy advice that mom just can't dish out.
So tonight I called him because his girlfriend just left him after 2 years.
He is in a bar, drunk again. Seems that lately every time I talk to him he is drinking again.
Tonight, he finally said why.
He thinks he killed his mother. She had a stroke 4 years ago and was found in a parking lot of her doctor's office about 45 minutes after it hit her. She was close to being brain dead. She spent the next 6 months on life support. I talked to him on Mother's day that year. He was drunker than I had ever heard him.
That was the day he got the news that her brain no longer had any activity and that he should decide on when to end life support. What a day to find that out.
He finally picked a day and had support turned off. But now, after all this time, he can't stop thinking that he killed her. I have tried for four years to convince him she was already gone. I have told him over and over again that all he did was stop the machines that were keeping her body alive, but nothing seems to sink in.
Tonight, he asked for help. He wants to know where to turn. Who to call for help. How to get past this guilt.
Any thoughts? Has anyone ever dealt with this? I can't stand to hear his pain. Is there any kind of support group out there for this?
Our joke is when the kids are 18 we will get married. My sons still look up to him and call him when they need guy advice that mom just can't dish out.
So tonight I called him because his girlfriend just left him after 2 years.
He is in a bar, drunk again. Seems that lately every time I talk to him he is drinking again.
Tonight, he finally said why.
He thinks he killed his mother. She had a stroke 4 years ago and was found in a parking lot of her doctor's office about 45 minutes after it hit her. She was close to being brain dead. She spent the next 6 months on life support. I talked to him on Mother's day that year. He was drunker than I had ever heard him.
That was the day he got the news that her brain no longer had any activity and that he should decide on when to end life support. What a day to find that out.
He finally picked a day and had support turned off. But now, after all this time, he can't stop thinking that he killed her. I have tried for four years to convince him she was already gone. I have told him over and over again that all he did was stop the machines that were keeping her body alive, but nothing seems to sink in.
Tonight, he asked for help. He wants to know where to turn. Who to call for help. How to get past this guilt.
Any thoughts? Has anyone ever dealt with this? I can't stand to hear his pain. Is there any kind of support group out there for this?
