Having trouble reaching orgasm

[soxguy23]

I masturbate probably 3 times a day. My girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship that allows us to be together once or twice a week. On the occasions that she is coming over to my place, I stop masturbating all together for days before hand. For whatever reason, (and it isn't for lack of being aroused), I just cant seem to ejaculate unless I do it myself.

It's so strange, because I have a crazy sexdrive. Some days, If I dont get off 2-3 times that day, ill drive myself nuts. Can anyone give me some ideas?? I cant be the only guy in this situation, and please dont tell me to not masturbate anymore

 

[SweetErika]

I won't suggest not masturbating anymore, but I WILL strongly suggest cutting your masturbation way down and forcing yourself to masturbate in different ways. Cut it down to once a day and use lots and lots of lube and much lighter touches when you masturbate. If you use condoms with your partner, use them when you masturbate. Even if you don't use condoms with your partner, they might help simulate sex better if you use them when you masturbate.

Essentially, it sounds like the issue is that you've conditioned yourself to respond to certain types of stimulation. Hands can provide a lot more pressure and varied movement than a human orifice, plus a lot of men don't use enough lube when they jack off so getting into a lubed environment provides less stimulation. Condoms with a partner can result in decreased sensitivity compared to bareback masturbation.

Try to make your masturbation a lot more similar to sex and cut down so you retrain your body and feel more urgency when your with your partner, then see how that goes for you.

 

[soxguy23]

Thanks for the advice. I'll give it a go!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I won't suggest not masturbating anymore, but I WILL strongly suggest cutting your masturbation way down and forcing yourself to masturbate in different ways. Cut it down to once a day and use lots and lots of lube and much lighter touches when you masturbate. If you use condoms with your partner, use them when you masturbate. Even if you don't use condoms with your partner, they might help simulate sex better if you use them when you masturbate.

Essentially, it sounds like the issue is that you've conditioned yourself to respond to certain types of stimulation. Hands can provide a lot more pressure and varied movement than a human orifice, plus a lot of men don't use enough lube when they jack off so getting into a lubed environment provides less stimulation. Condoms with a partner can result in decreased sensitivity compared to bareback masturbation.

Try to make your masturbation a lot more similar to sex and cut down so you retrain your body and feel more urgency when your with your partner, then see how that goes for you.

Brilliant advice.

Honestly, you're probably giving your cock The death grip and your girlfriend's vagina isn't going to be able to do that. Nothing against your girl's vagina, but unless she's the kegel weight holding champion, she won't compare to your hand's grip.

 

[infinity706]

Having had sex with, well, quite a few guys that had the same problem, the one thing I've really noticed when I had them masturbate is the extremely fast speed they move their hands. The only way you can replicate that kind of speed is to give them a handjob because there's no way anyone can move their whole body that fast. The other thing is, movements that no other body part can replicate. I don't think lubrication or how often you normally masturbate has anything to do with it. I've done it up to 10 times in a day and normally 1-3 and I don't use lube all the time. I've still gotten blowjobs that lasted less than 1 minute if I kept my hands off myself a day beforehand.