Having rope trouble...

[Salendire]

Ok, basicly i have been with my other half for 3 months now, he is fantastic blah blah (insert romantic lovey dovey crap here) but i am having troubles bringing myself to tie him up... He asked me all the time and i want to, get off on teh thought of doing so BUT when i decided that i am going to do it i start to feel slightly ill and i get the shakes and other symptoms very mch like an anxiety attack...

Now what the fuck is going on there?

Once i realsied that i was having problems with it i decided to maybe take it slowly, hold him down then handcuff him etc etc. But being a difficult male he keeps urging me to become a full on dominatrix first go. I must admit i am used to submission and can take anything people throw at me, or hit me with, your get what i mean. But this seems like i am trying to force my body to do something that it does not want to to, a case of the mind and the body haveing a disagreement.

I was wondering if anyone has any sort of advice, comments, past experiances simmilar to my situation.

 

[FurryFury]

Ideas just off the top of my head:

Is it possible he's being too pushy? It sounds like it to me. If he wants you to be Dominant to him he needs to back off and let you decide when, how much and what activities within the framework you two have talked about and agreed on. He doesn't get to decide how fast and far you take it with him. His job is to make sure his limits are known, communicate and be fucking grateful he has you to play with him! (That's just my opinion.)

Or could it be that you don't feel like a Top and therefore it just seems wrong? If so and if he has been your Top, perhaps it would help if he gave you a task that is within your limits to do.

For instance, "One night this week, I want you to restrain me and tease me until I beg you to fuck me, then I want you to keep making me beg until pre come is dripping continuously from my cock. At that point I want you to "make" me eat you out."

Maybe you just don't like to or feel confident using ropes or handcuffs, maybe something else like silk scarves or plastic wrap wouldn't seem so scary to you?

I hope this helps some.

Good luck finding your answers,

Fury

 

[Netzach]

This takes a long time to get used to and comfortable with.

Do you find the idea of restraining him erotic anyway by itself imagine him not nagging or lobbying for a minute.

You need to assure him he'll get what he needs, but he's going to have to be patient.

I have a lover who can overpower me, but it seems to be very effective just to hold his wrists down when I kiss him. That seems the ideal starting point.

 

[Salendire]

The idea of restraining him is quite a turn on for me, hence why i dont quite understand why i feel like it is a hard thing to do. I have started to do little things, i.e. hold him down etc. This makes me feel a little better but the problem still seems to be there... I would just tie him down but i fear that i may have an anxiety attack and freak out on him

 

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[Salendire]

Thanks a lot for that site, i should get my other half the read it as well