having an attack of "sub crave"

[corkie2]

Been having these overwhelming feelings of needing to spend time with a Dom. Need what he can give me and take from me. It is really hard to define just what the need is for in words.....just feels like an undefined neeeeeeed. A need for that feeling I get when he is looking at me......the knowing look in his eyes. I know what the look means but not exactly what he is thinking and that scares and excites me.

This comes over me if I have been without the release that I get from "play time". It is especially bad the longer I go...............

Have any of the rest of you ever delt with this? Do Dom/mes get "Dom/me crave"? If so what is it like?

Just not wanting to feel so all alone with this feeling. I am prolly gonna call my Dom friend and tell him I need him.........he is safe and helps me out from time to time.

Does any one else have a friend they can call to give them what they need?

just wondering,
Corkie

 

[Aeroil]

"sub crave" eh? interesting name but yes I do get it, just want a mistress to do....well, anything to me, whatever she wants lol. Also I get just normal teenage cravings for a girlfriend, never having had one. haha, yes im a loser

 

[Sodality]

Craving



I do get the "crave" to spend play time, I get it all too often. Unfortunately my life does not permit me much of that free time being a single mommy and all. I dco long for the days when I have a Dominant I live with and I will have more ability to play more often.

It's a long long road on this journey but the ends justify the means. I'll get my reward for patience later on.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Been there many times and still go there regularly. think it is similar to what I was talking about here....Addiction Anyone?

Catalina

 

[Guest]

Of course Doms get the craving too... I'm reasonably sure that Pearl thinks my cat and I share a personality at those times....

Though I have taken to trying to make sure she has fair warning when it is coming on...

 

[SweetDommes]

Have any of the rest of you ever delt with this? Do Dom/mes get "Dom/me crave"? If so what is it like?

Oh yes, most definately ... because only one of our boys actually lives with us right now, and he is on the road most of the time, I go through this about every 2-3 weeks. It sucks, but it's life. As for someone that I can go to *sigh* unfortunately, no. When I feel the need to Dominate, or even just fuck someone senseless, I'm out of luck most of the time. Holly is fabulous, but definately not submissive, and we rarely have the time, energy and desire at the same times. I'm definately looking forward to when our second boy moves in with us, whenever that may be *crosses fingers and prays that it's soon ... and that we don't have to re-start our search*

Miss Karen

 

[shy slave]

Been having these overwhelming feelings of needing to spend time with a Dom. Need what he can give me and take from me. It is really hard to define just what the need is for in words.....just feels like an undefined neeeeeeed. A need for that feeling I get when he is looking at me......the knowing look in his eyes. I know what the look means but not exactly what he is thinking and that scares and excites me.

This comes over me if I have been without the release that I get from "play time". It is especially bad the longer I go...............

Have any of the rest of you ever delt with this? Do Dom/mes get "Dom/me crave"? If so what is it like?

Just not wanting to feel so all alone with this feeling. I am prolly gonna call my Dom friend and tell him I need him.........he is safe and helps me out from time to time.

Does any one else have a friend they can call to give them what they need?

just wondering,
Corkie

I understand your need.

I only see Him about once every two weeks and due to family issues its not always a good time to play.

At these times I find myself reverting to a whining, needy person who bleats 'I miss you' every time we speak and crying after each call.

I think He understands but its frustrating; I hate acting this way and being without Him.

I don't have any Domly firends who can 'help' me out, and I am guessing He would not agree to such help.

Instead I go shopping with Dolf....

Its not the same but..... *shrugs* Dolf can quickly make anyone go insane, so I soon feel better or at least can't remember why i was sad.

 

[corkie2]

It has been really driving me nuts.......finally broke today and put in for a visit with my Dom friend. Most likely I will go over there Sat evening......stay over nite and come back here on Sunday. I have told him of my need and he said he would work on somthing.......*grinz* I so do hope he has a new peice of furniture in his basement.

The sub crave is like needing something so much it takes over you thoughts and body. My body feels the need in the pit of my stomach...........it feels like a wanting or longing for something. Have you ever just longed to feel a special someones touch........longed to feel the warmth of their hand gently caress your skin? When you longed for it.............it was a want deep inside. THAT is what I feel when I need to be enjoyed and used for a Doms pleasure.............it has gotten to the point I have spent this whole day thinking about it even though I was doing other things.

So I broke and called him.

 

[DVS]

If you've checked out my anal thread, the first post is along the same lines of your "sub crave" but I guess it would be called "anal crave" or something.

Being a Dom, I love when a sub is craving submission, because I'm into the mental torment side of things. And, I take her to the edge of clamax and deny her, several times before she is then allowed to explode.

And, explode is exactly what it is, when she is denied for a while. She doesn't know when I'm going to finally allow it, and the sexual tension created is quite hot.

Also, when she's in this kind of mood, she is willing to do almost anything to get what she wants. So, she tends to be more on the kinky side, and that allows me to be more on the kinky side, too.

I love to tie a woman down, so she can't move much at all. Then, i use mental torment along with physical touch to take her where I want her to be. Just when she's shaking and begging for release...she'll do anything...within limits, of course.

Sex is completely in the mind, with a little physical stimulation for color. If you can talk the talk, you have 99% of it. Then, just a little bit of touch to add fire to her need and she'll be puring at your feet for a long time.

Yes, I do like when you subs get that craving for fun.

 

[Desdemona]

I'm craving today. Makes it hard to concentrate.

 

[corkie2]

I seem to get into these moods from time to time where the need to be used just takes over my whole existance. It actually tends to get in the way of me being able to get things accomplished. *sigh*

I don't know why this happens and although I can see and appreciate how much a Dom/me would enjoy seeing their slave/sub in such a state it creates a big problem for someone like me that does not have a full time Dom she can rely on to take care of her when she is in this condition. Beleive me it is a dangerous time...........the craving can over come common sense.

And unfortunately my friend is not in a good space right now......working long hours.......and had his car broke into. So I really don't think he will be in the mood to give me all I need. He took a try at it this past weekend.....but the time was not there for him to take me where I need to go.........*sigh*

Oh well, I have gone through this before and know it will pass......but will under the surface continue to build......

but at least I know I am not alone.

Corkie

 

[Aeroil]

hmm, maybe the absense is worse once you've had a taste, it's never been so bad that I can't really concentrate. Although thinking about it during a chem final is a bad idea lol . hehehe, maybe it's the difference between temptation and withdrawl

 

[DVS]

And unfortunately my friend is not in a good space right now......working long hours.......and had his car broke into. So I really don't think he will be in the mood to give me all I need. He took a try at it this past weekend.....but the time was not there for him to take me where I need to go.........*sigh*

Oh well, I have gone through this before and know it will pass......but will under the surface continue to build......

but at least I know I am not alone.

Corkie

hmm, maybe the absense is worse once you've had a taste, it's never been so bad that I can't really concentrate. Although thinking about it during a chem final is a bad idea lol . hehehe, maybe it's the difference between temptation and withdrawl

Actually, you're both right. Yes, it does get to you, and it's more difficult when you can't find someone, AND it is worse once you've tasted the release and can't find someone to take care of it.

Being a male Dom, it's difficult to find someone. There are so many whackos out there, the female subs must filter through all of that to find me. I answer ads up on ads, and don't even get a nibble from any.

Then, I hear a story like this, where someone is itching for attention, has someone close who can't find the time and it bothers me. I don't know the situation, but I wouldn't have any problem finding the time. Maybe your friend isn't as hungry as I am.

And, because I've always had the ability to meet people and recently I've had the luxury of more than one sub calling on me, this dry spell is difficult.

I've heard of women wanting rough anal sex, and their male partner doesn't want to give it to them. I just don't understand that.

But, like anything else, these times will pass. But, it's human nature to complain. We are very good at it. We complain about the weather and we complain about the weatherman, when he's wrong about the weather.

Complaining tends to lessen the burden on our minds, but it isn't enough. And, this is something that we really can't talk about with our vanilla friends. At least I can't.

Well, like I said, this too shall pass. It's always darkest before the dawn. And, all clouds have a silver lining. All I can say is...when I finally do find me a sub, she's gonna get so much of my release, I wonder if she'll be able to handle it!!!

 

[SweetDommes]

hmm, maybe the absense is worse once you've had a taste, it's never been so bad that I can't really concentrate. Although thinking about it during a chem final is a bad idea lol . hehehe, maybe it's the difference between temptation and withdrawl

Yeah, the chem final is a really bad place to be focused on this

Fortunately, by the time I discovered this side of myself (which was bound - pun intended - and determined to keep herself hidden), I was done with Chemistry and most of my other classes that actually had finals.

Anyway, back on topic - personally, we don't always have the time and energy to match our desires; it is simply a fact of life that not everyone has the luxury to just "make the time." In a 24/7 relationship, not such a big deal, for some people who have more flexible schedules than we do, it is also not such a big deal ... there is always tomorrow, or maybe next week. However, for those of us who don't have our subs here 24/7 (and of course, for the subs in these situations as well) it becomes much more difficult to make sure that the mood, time and energy levels for all participants match up, since our time together is so limited (only having ghosst home a few days a month sucks - but at least we get to talk to him every day).

Right now, I am craving bad ... but of course, ghosst is out on the road (in Colorado right now, I believe) and sylvan *sigh* we still aren't sure what is up with him, so we are without a boy for me to flog ... or do anything else with - unless I want to call up a former potential who was local, but I'm pretty anti doing that, for many many reasons.

 

[Mermaid]

Complaining tends to lessen the burden on our minds, but it isn't enough. And, this is something that we really can't talk about with our vanilla friends. At least I can't.

Well, like I said, this too shall pass. It's always darkest before the dawn. And, all clouds have a silver lining. All I can say is...when I finally do find me a sub, she's gonna get so much of my release, I wonder if she'll be able to handle it!!!

It is nice to have those to commiserate with. Misery loving company, and all that...

And yes, when the sweet release finaly comes... Oh Happy Day!

 

[corkie2]

Frustration is the word that comes to mind for me at the moment. Especially with those that are all talk and no action.

I respond to those that contact me and some I contact respond to me. We chat online then move to the phone and if everything feels right move on the a RL meeting in a public place. By that time 95% of the possibles are elemenated due either to no chemistry, catching them in a lie or them disappearing. So, there are the few that I actually meet.

MOST of these have turned out to be wanna be's that are using D/s~BDSM as a way to get sex. They see a submissive as a person so desperate for what they need they are an easy lay. You know, whack 'em on the ass, pinch a tit and maybe make 'em suck your cock then you can fuck them. lol So a sub/slave has to really watch the ones they consider meeting for play.

Usually I can tell if they are wanna be's cause when you start to discuss what you like to do they haven't a clue as to the how to's.

This is what frustrates me about getting what I need..........being stuck between the ones that know how to give me what I need and them not being available a~n~d the idiots that want to use me as an easy lay!!!! As a booty call........of sorts. That is NOT what I need..............

Yes, I am complaining.......yes I admit to being a bit upset.........'cause it just is not fair!!!!! Yes, I know it will pass and yes I know I will eventually find the man I am looking for......but right now my body is craving what it is not getting...........very much craving.

And so...booooo whaaaaaaaa cry and complain....pout!! I want it sooooooo baaaaaaaad!! Much more that want it is a neeeeeeed like an addict needing their fix.

Corkie

 

[SweetDommes]

Just keep in mind that a lot of the "subs" out there are the same as the "doms" that you are having trouble with - just wannabes who think that the lifestyle is about kinky sex, only kinky sex, and LOTS of kinky sex. The Dominants who are real have the same problems that you are having. It sucks ... people suck (in not fun ways) ... and seriously, I'm about to go kidnap someone to end my craving ...

 

[Aeroil]

*looks at map* well it seems BC and indiana are a ways off, so you can't be kidnapping Aeroil. hehehe, wow that's as close to flirting as I think I've ever come, yay me .

 

[SweetDommes]

*looks at map* well it seems BC and indiana are a ways off, so you can't be kidnapping Aeroil. hehehe, wow that's as close to flirting as I think I've ever come, yay me .

Hehehe, that's kinda cute

 

[Aeroil]

Hehehe, that's kinda cute

haha..... thanks, and here I was all worried you'd be pissed or something. I do get called cute a lot though, not really unexpected, in retrospect .

 

[SweetDommes]

haha..... thanks, and here I was all worried you'd be pissed or something. I do get called cute a lot though, not really unexpected, in retrospect .

LOL, at least you aren't offended by being called cute ...

seriously, if you were closer, I might think about it - I'm approaching 10 on a 0-10 scale ...

 

[Aeroil]

LOL, at least you aren't offended by being called cute ...

seriously, if you were closer, I might think about it - I'm approaching 10 on a 0-10 scale ...

offended? naw, cute is my thing (or so I've been told) lol. Now If I could just find a domme that likes cute 18 year olds I'll be set .

 

[SweetDommes]

offended? naw, cute is my thing (or so I've been told) lol. Now If I could just find a domme that likes cute 18 year olds I'll be set .

don't worry, eventually you will find one that is closer to you than we are who just drools over the idea of properly corrupting a young innocent like yourself

 

[Aeroil]

don't worry, eventually you will find one that is closer to you than we are who just drools over the idea of properly corrupting a young innocent like yourself

hehehe, thanks . Very encouraging

 

[SweetDommes]

now, if only we could find one close to us who doesn't want a commitment and doesn't make my skin crawl, I'd be set ...