Having a Threesome...

[Teddybear1626]

A great guy friend of mine who ive hooked up with frequently for about a year now has asked me to partake in a threesome with him. I said yes. We dont have sex because he doesnt have sex with women he isnt dating (some sweet but sometimes i hate it thats he so gentleman like!) Anyway i want this to be very special for him. I just recently started talking to the other girl he chose and ive seen pictures but somehow i think its going to be weird meeting this girl and then eating her pussy! LOL How can i make this experience not so shy and uneasy?

Do I meet this girl on the side without tellin him?
Should we all go to dinner or something before getting together in the bedroom?
What do i do in the bedroom? LOL I know what to do with a guy but with a girl i'm alittle worried!
Afterwards do I just leave?

I"m so new to this please help!

 

[sexy_feet_babe]

I am in a really similar situation, my boyfriend of two years and I both want a threesome with another (anonymous) girl and we dont know how to go about it!! It is scary!! Let me know how you go with it all and GOOD LUCK!!

 

[SweetErika]

I think it might be a good idea for you to meet her first in a non-sexual situation, but you might as well tell him and invite him to join you for coffee or a something later.

As for tips and what you should do with the sex, I'm a proponent of doing what feels natural instead of trying to follow a script or instructions. If you're excited about realizing your curiosity, then you'll just KNOW what to do. Follow the basics of what you like in terms of touching and oral, and listen to her cues. The most difficult part is making that first move, but if you're doing this for YOU (not just him), you'll be fine.

If you have a lot of specific questions about women, you might want to ask in GLBT Chatter . Very nice, helpful folks in there too!

Good luck and have fun!

 

[MissTaken]

Treat her as you enjoy being treated.



And don't worry.

You will all be nervous...make fun of it. Jokes and levity are great ice breakers.

 

[Lynxie]

I think meeting her in a non-sexual situation beforehand is a good idea. It really just sounds like a bad plan to sleep with anyone before you've even met them once. I mean, you're not going to be dating this woman (well, most likely not)...but it's probably better to make sure she's not some psychotic woman who's going to get jealous because her boyfriend brought you into her bed. Knowing your partners is always a good idea

That being said...I like Erika's idea of going out with her and then meeting up with your guy friend later on for coffee. That will give you the opportunity to see how the two interact with each other, and how they react to you in each other's presence.

Beyond that - I say go for it, relax, do what feels natural, and have fun!

 

[sirmed]

Wow... I read this and I must be off somewhere
I dont think I could have the Guts to ask a friend to join in a Threesome...! Guess it is just me..
My first thought would be its a great way to end a friendship..... I must be in my box today....

 

[ApplesMcgee]

prepare first...

.....

 

[LindaL]

For me, it's real important to be friends first, before becoming lovers. So I'd join the chorus of people suggesting you get to know her as a person before the "big event".

 

[smoothdevil]

as a male who has had a number of FMF encounters with different lady friends, maybe I can impart some opinions and options ...

most of the 3somes that I participated in, were suggested by the female partner ... not because they were lesbians, but some were bi or bi-curious, and some were only bi in terms of having a different and heightened erotic experience with the male ....

None were on the spur of the moment. A few times one of the women was approached at a bar by another female .. supposedly they had chemistry ... and I believe that

All encounters were preceeded by either the 2 ladies getting together or the 3 of us getting together for a coffee and sizing each other up, chats on the web or phone ... etc

Since my partners and I are in the mature range, for whatever reason, the majority of the female participants were younger and mostly newbies .... Once you overcome the initial shyness, if all are willing, things will move along nicely ....

PM me if u would like more info....

 

[theman69]

This is a VERY simple situation to handle...


1) Everyone meet at one persons house and then all leave for dinner at a restaurant
2) At the restaurant, talk and such and just get to know eachother
3) All go back to the house and chill and have some more drinks
4) THEN when everyone feels comfortable, receed to the bedroom for hot sex



see... its pretty friggin simple huh?


and to add....

What are you supposed to do to the girl? What a dumb question! Just do to her, what feels good on you and make moves on her like you would like moves made on you!!! Jesus sweetie... SOLVED

 

[Teddybear1626]

see... its pretty friggin simple huh?


and to add....

What are you supposed to do to the girl? What a dumb question! Just do to her, what feels good on you and make moves on her like you would like moves made on you!!! Jesus sweetie... SOLVED [/B]

Hey theman69 thanx for being so helpful!! Gezz i dont need that kind of advice you are obviously not the man!!

 

[theman69]

Hey theman69 thanx for being so helpful!! Gezz i dont need that kind of advice you are obviously not the man!!

Im sorry... IO didnt mean to come off rude. I was jsut probably being pissy.... im sorry

 

[Lynxie]

So Teddybear... has the big event happened yet? Have you at least met the girlfriend?

You've simply GOT to keep us posted on this one Speaking for the masses...I demand details.

 

[BlueSugar]

good advice everyone.

I agree.

Tell him that every one should meet in pairs of twos so ya'll get to know each other ...very well. And this way it'll take some of the weight off your shoulders. Go on a few dates, have some coffee, have a drink and then have her or him

This way, by the time the three of you are together, you've gotten limits and things you don't like out of the picture. Less fumbeling, better chemistry, and it'll feel more natural then third wheel.

Have fun and report back!!

 

[Teddybear1626]

No we all went home for Christmas break(we are all in college) so we have a lil distance right now between us but once we all get back to school I plan on meeting her for dinner then surprising him at his apartment

 

[TirelessTongue]

Treat her as you enjoy being treated.



And don't worry.

You will all be nervous...make fun of it. Jokes and levity are great ice breakers.

Thats the same advice I've used to get rid of my anxiety for my first threesome. It really does the trick.

 

[rakastuja]

I agree with advices about non-sexual meeting first.

For some people having a sex with someone you meet first time in bedroom can be turn on but I guess it freaks out most of us

I have one experience about this. I changed quite many email with that woman first and then we met at bar and had couple drinks. For me at least it was really important to know that woman before going further. From the bar we went to her house and had really long and blushing filled chatting. It also made it much easier to get into mood when I know more how she would react. It was btw first sexual encounter with woman too.

I suggest lots of talking afterwards too

 

[bicuriousblue]

My 1st Threesome experience

I have to agree with what the others are saying. Meet the person first and see if there is any spark and also to see if you even want to be with the other person. Are you in it for you or are you in it for him? What do you want out of it? What boundries will be set if any? Is this something that might happen more then once? These are things you might want to think about before you go through with it. Just from my experience, I wish I would have set a couple more boundries for the 3rd. When the time comes just relax ( I know hard thing to do) and enjoy yourself. Having a couple drinks might help with the relaxing I know it helped me. Let us all know how it turns out.