Have you seduced or been seduced?

[Acalifguy_4u]

I travel alot in my job and often go to towns I have never been to before. At night I sometimes go to a local bar and hang out. I have never been picked up or approached by anyone. I dont think I am that great looking. But I always wonder if anyone has ever seduced someone for real. You always see these stories of woman seducing there plumber or repair man or the likes. but does it really happen or is it just someones fantasy

 

[SexyChele]

It would depend on your definition of "seduce". If you mean walking up to a man I don't know and blatantly asking for sex ala "porn flick", then, no, I've never done that.

However, I have been in places where, for whatever reason, a man will attract my attention. Looks are not necessarily the only thing - it may be that he seems like a nice guy, or shy, or maybe he's just very friendly and outgoing. Some little "spark" of "something" will be there that makes me take notice. Usually I will start flirting - talking if he is close enough, eye contact if he is too far away. If I'm feeling particularly daring, I might send a drink over - but that is very rare.

I will usually catch his eye, smile, or just start up a conversation with him. If he seems interested, then I will usually bring up either sexual topics or sexual innuendo and see if he takes the hint.

Although not foolproof, this has worked for me in the past. It isn't outright "seduction", I suppose. More like flirting to seduction. But it's as close as I've ever gotten.

 

[tn_8tiv]

One time. I was sitting in a bar when this nice looking woman came over and sat down beside me. During the course of the evening she began rubbing her bare foot up and down my shin. I looked up and she was smiling at me...soooo

We ended up making love all night. Never heard from her again.

 

[Jimbosis]

Im not sure if I was being seduced or not ....

But I was in Vegas at a trade show a couple of years ago and the security guard and I started to talk alot. She was a really sexy kinda older woman. She told me she would show me around that night. We went drinking and dancing at lot of different bars and as we were bar hoping closer and closer to my hotel she asked if she could stay the night. I was getting really turned on by the idea, as I had never had anything like this happen before, and I am married, which I had told her earlier on in the day. When we got back to my room we ordered room service. Then she went in the bathroom and got into the tub with the door open. An invitation if I had ever had one I thought.... We soaped each other up a bit, but before we could get too into it the food came. We ended up sitting on the bed together and eating with 1 sheet wrapped around both of us. We had ordered finger food and we started feeding each other. I was thinking this was going to be great !!! Well, after eating she started talking about my wife and family and asked if I did this all the time, which I said no to, truthfully I might add. Then she said she was married once and her husband had cheated on her, and now she was feeling bad for my wife. WOW... I thought to myself. This chick is really a trip. I had started to lose my buzz by now, and all the talk about my wife was making me totally lose interest in the situation. We ended up just falling asleep together never doing more than kissing. It was a really strange night. I was totally ready to go for it and here was this sexy woman and she seemed into it, and there was that whole newness thing, which is so sexy. I love the part about first meeting someone and wondering how far its going to go. And then it ended so suddenly. At the time I was thinking I made the right decision. Although, now that its been a few years and I have never had anything like that happen again, and I am not sure I ever will, I am kinda bummed I didnt do it, just for the thrill of it. Sorry for such a long story, but this thread reminded me of that night. Brings back strange and wonderful memories.

So, I dont know if I was seduced, but I sure would like to be.

 

[slipperywetnsc]

seduction

Once upon a time, at the tender age of 23, I was very attracted to one of my husband's friends. We had been lightly flirting for a couple of years. One night, the 3 of us shared a bottle (or 2) of wine while watching TV. I was sitting between my husband and his friend. As the buzz reduced our inhibitions, we began "accidentally" brushing against each other. Over the course of the evening, the arousal and frustration became almost unbearable.
After drinking too much, he spent the night on our couch. I was so horny, I had a sleepless night and decided that I had to put an end to my curiosity about sex with him. So, the next morning, I woke him up while my husband was in the shower. I asked him to stay on the couch and pretend to be asleep until my husband left for work because I needed to talk with him.
Naturally, he was curious and did as I asked. We sat on the floor together, chatting. I was wearing shorts and a casual shirt, unbuttoned to show just enough cleavage to keep his attention (knowing he was a breast guy). I leaned forward, looked him in the eyes and kissed him. I told him that I was getting the feeling he was attracted to me and asked if I was right. He admitted that he was and I opened a few more buttons.... his eyes were riveted to my chest as I slowly ran a finger down my neck to the top of my breasts.
I told him that I was attracted to him too and it seemed silly not to do something about it. I'll never forget how his hands were shaking as he reached out to finish removing my shirt and bra......

 

[hotti]

Yes.


By far, though, the best experience I've had with seduction has not even ended in physical sex.
I have an amour here at lit that is a master at seducing me with his words, his sincerity, his soul.
It's extraordinary.

 

[hotti]

He sends to me thoughts like this:

When I gaze into your eyes what is unspoken between us will be heard aloud. What everyone sees in my face will be understood. In that heartbeat there will be nothing else but you. A heartbeat that will last a lifetime.

Now, isn't that heart-melting?

 

[Acalifguy_4u]

Wow,
I appreciate all of your thoughts on this subject. I do not think I would have what it would take to seduce someone. I tend to be alittle to shy and somehow never get the clues when someone is flirting with me. My wife will tell me that a person was flirting with me and I am like really..... I just somehow do not recognize it at all.
I travel alot and nothing like your vegas trip has ever happen to me. I agree I dont think that it has to end up into sex, there is something neat in just the flirting and finding the newness of someone new and different.

I have often wondered if I would ever seduced.... I think not as I am not like the tall dark and handsome type. Thanks all for your comments and stories.

 

[SexyChele]

Calif Guy

I would randomly guess that when it comes to seduction, or open flirtations, the female probably instigates the majority of it. She may or may not openly ask for sex, but I think she is the one who gets things going.

And I hear what you are saying about men not noticing! There have been times when I was out with a boyfriend, or even just a friend, and watched another woman openly flirting with him. When I bring it to their attention, most men are completely shocked. And then bummed that they didn't know it was happening so they could enjoy it!

And, just for your information, the men that I've flirted/seduced (if you can call what I do seduction???) are rarely the tall, handsome types. They have typically been average looking guys. Just "something" about them that clicks with me. Could be a friendly face, well dressed, friendly, willing to start up a conversation. Lots of different things. Looks really have very little to do with it - for me, anyway.

 

[Acalifguy_4u]

Sexy Chele,
I really do appreciate your honesty and your comments. I am so unseeing when someone is ever coming on to me. I guess I am not so into myself to think I am gods gift to woman. I am just your average guy. I guess the tall dark handsome comment has come because I see all these guys in here and there pics are of tall dark and handsome. me I am blonde blue eyed, 5'7'' tall and 160 lbs. Certainly not what I have see as of lately in here...LOL

And your right I agree woman control most of that... I believe woman control sex for the most part they are the ones who allow it or not allow it to happen. At least that is the way it has been in everyone of my relationships. I tend to be more moderate and not push myself on to anyone. Us nice guys always seem to finish last.

 

[Jimbosis]

Califguy

Youre absolutely right about women controlling sex. Think of it this way, any woman (well almost any woman - about 99.9%) could go into a bar any night of the week and walk out with a decent looking guy if she wanted to have a one-night-stand of wild sex. If a decent looking guy walks into the same bar for 30 nights in row, he would be hard pressed to find even one ugly girl to go home with him for the same night of wild sex. Any guy who is geeky, fat, ugly, or whatever else unattractive you can think of, has almost no chance of a one-night-stand.

Thats just the way the world is. I took a sociology class once that was about this kind of human behavior. And to paraphrase a few weeks into one sentance, the female of the species wants to make sure they get good genes to populate their lineage, while the male just wants to populate the race with as many of their offspring as possible. I am not trying to over generalize the whole situation. Im just stating a point that its hard to change millions of years of natural selection.

Luckily there are bound to be some mutants out there that will go against mother nature. We just need to find some of those wonderful mutant women. Good luck to you.

 

[slipperywetnsc]

Re: Califguy

Youre absolutely right about women controlling sex. Think of it this way, any woman (well almost any woman - about 99.9%) could go into a bar any night of the week and walk out with a decent looking guy if she wanted to have a one-night-stand of wild sex. If a decent looking guy walks into the same bar for 30 nights in row, he would be hard pressed to find even one ugly girl to go home with him for the same night of wild sex. Any guy who is geeky, fat, ugly, or whatever else unattractive you can think of, has almost no chance of a one-night-stand.

Thats just the way the world is. I took a sociology class once that was about this kind of human behavior. And to paraphrase a few weeks into one sentance, the female of the species wants to make sure they get good genes to populate their lineage, while the male just wants to populate the race with as many of their offspring as possible. I am not trying to over generalize the whole situation. Im just stating a point that its hard to change millions of years of natural selection.

Luckily there are bound to be some mutants out there that will go against mother nature. We just need to find some of those wonderful mutant women. Good luck to you.

Geez... never thought of myself as a mutant before!

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Seduction

I've been seduced by a woman I've never seen, never met
She can do things to me which leave me covered in sweat

Knowing her has been quite a ride
Feelings have grown, and refuse to subside

Though the future before us is threatening and uncertain
When we're apart, we find that we're hurtin'

So we keep each other safe inside
our respective hearts, where we reside

Hopeful that one day, we will embrace
and I can gaze into her eyes, as I cup her delicate face

 

[Jimbosis]

Im very sorry slipperywetnsc,

Geez... never thought of myself as a mutant before!

(In my most sincere and apologetic voice), I meant "mutant" in an endearing and tongue-n-cheek kind of way. Although, now it doesnt seem so endearing.... duh.... Sorry about that.

How about "flowering buds of unexplored territory"? Well....

You know what I mean.... What would you like to call yourself? I will agree.

LOL, Jimbosis

 

[slipperywetnsc]

Re: Im very sorry slipperywetnsc,

(In my most sincere and apologetic voice), I meant "mutant" in an endearing and tongue-n-cheek kind of way. Although, now it doesnt seem so endearing.... duh.... Sorry about that.

How about "flowering buds of unexplored territory"? Well....

You know what I mean.... What would you like to call yourself? I will agree.

LOL, Jimbosis

I think I would like to be called a mutant southern belle! LMAO

Honey... I knew exactly what you meant and I found it most charming indeed.

 

[wildrose70]

As a former bartender....I know it's very easy to seduce a man....drinking seems to loosen the tongue...and the sexual excitement seems to build as you are leaning over the bar and serving them a drink....and some of the most exciting men were not tall dark and handsome....they were just ordinary men that had that certain something in their eyes....a glance, a touch, words that melted your heart and turned you on big time...
But the one I remember best and will forever...was a cattle buyer that came in every week...he was full of life, loved to dance, did crazy things...one time after we had reached that point...I went to his motel room and when I got ready to leave I couldnt find my pants!! Well 2 days later this box came to the bar for me with the dammest biggest pants you ever saw...and I'm 110..haha..but he was so full of life...and always swore he was going to die at 95 chasing woman...unfortunately after only 6 months of knowing him...he was killed in a car accident at 45 and to this day...I will never forget him and the memories he left me....
And the song "After The Loving" still makes me cry...sorry this is such a sad tale...but I had to share...

 

[warmhands]

This was incredible

It happened in Dec. of '96. I was living in Tampa, and found myself in the car of an attractive female friend, getting a ride home from some work we were both involved in . She decided to park the car at the small beach on Davis Island, near the airport there.
After some small talk (we had been "flirting" for a month or so) she said "I wanna take these shorts off. Do you mind?" What's a man to say? I figured she had on other shorts or a swimsuit or something underneath. I stammered "it's fine with me".
She was sitting in the driver's seat, and as she wiggled out of her khaki shorts, it became readily apparent that she had nothing on under them....... She slid them off, sat back against her door and lifted one leg up on the back of the passenger seat, where I was......
I had never had anything like this happen to me before, but I just smiled and went there..... with my tongue and hands, one of my FAVORITE things to do, and I'm good at it. We both had a thoroughly good time, and it led to a pretty intense 9 month affair that started with that seduction.
She used to love having sex in the car and in secluded outdoor public places. We used to joke that if we ever married each other, if we wanted to make love in the middle of the night, we'd have to go out to the garage and get into the car..... lol.

 

[Wryter47]

Being seduced

Long ago in Washington, DC, I was the only family member in the area to help take charge of clearing my aunt and uncle's home after their deaths at age 86 and 88 (they died with in a month of each other). I recall it was a bright, chilly fall day when I decided to drive over to their home and begin tagging and cataloging stuff. As I was leaving my apartment building I ran into a neighbor I had chatted with frequently on the street and had seen (with her husband) at a local saloon popular in the nabe. Her name was Ruth, and she was about 45 (I was 25) at the time. She was short, with thick blonde hair, a slightly thick body, and enormous, wonderful breasts. (In our conversations at the bar, it was clear to me that she was being very friendly, but I chalked it up to her bubbly personality. Our knees touched from time to time, but I paid no particular attention to it. Her husband was often watching a ballgame or chatting with someone else.) Since I pretty much had all day to do what I had to do, so I stopped and chatted with her. She was on her way home from a grad course she was taking; earlier than usual because the professor hadn't shown up. Anyway, I told her where I was headed and she suddenly and naturally asked if I needed any help. She said she was good at sorting things. I was sort of surprised that anyone would want to "help" in such an exercise, but upon reflection decided it would be fun to have someone along. We got in my car and drove to my aunt and uncle's house, went inside, turned on the furnace (it was chilly), and I turned on their radio to the local classical station. Turned out Ruth like classical music, too. So I took out my note pad and we began the inventory. About an hour later, after having a cup of instant coffee in the kitchen, we were on the second floor in a guest bedroom, which looked as if it has just been made up for visitors. The bright fall light was coming in through lace curtains and lighting the room in a pleasant way, and the furnace had warmed the house to a bearable temperature. I was looking at a watercolor of the Maine coastline next to the bed when I felt her arms go around my waist from behind. I jumped from shock and she laughed and said, "Why don't we take a break?" I turned around, and she was looking at me with her blues eyes wide open and a smile. It took me about a nanosecond to figure out what was happening, and then we began kissing and slobbering all over each other and clutching like there was no tomorrow. At some point I said, "Wow, where did this come from?" And she said, "Didn't you know I had been paying attention to you at (name of bar)?" Being particularly unreflective at the moment, I said I hadn't -- I had just thought she was being friendly. "You want to see how friendly I can be?" she said with a big smile. I couldn't believe it and I still can't: She first turned down the bed and fluffed the pillows and then began taking off her clothes. I stood there in shock as I watched more of her magnificent body come into view and she asked if I was just going to stand there. "Uh, no, I guess," I think I said, and began taking my clothes off. We got in the bed and I was rock hard, but the sheets were freezing. We pulled the covers up and clung together until we got warm, still kissing, and then things really began to move. She had an enormous amount of hair between her legs, which has always been a turn-on for me, and after exploring and massaging for awhile there was nothing left but to say hello, so I moved on top of her wonderful body and entered her and she let out this enormous sigh, and the rest is history. We spent about two hours in the bed doing everything either of us could think of, and I thought I had fallen in love. Later, when I was driving us back to our part of town, we began plotting about how we could continue to see each other, and there followed about a year of intense involvement. For some reason her husband never seemed suspicious; we continued to meet at the local bar, and I even appeared once with a date and introduced her to Ruth and her husband. That afternoon when my date was in the bathroom, Ruth whispered to me "Is she a good fuck?" And I said I hadn't had the chance to find out. "I want a full report," she said, with her big smile. Finally, her husband was transferred to southern Viginia in his job, and that was the end of Ruth, except for one time I happened to be in Roanoke and we talked on the phone. I keep wondering what would have happened if the internet had been around in those days! Sigh.

 

[imagine_meandu]

nice girls finish last too!!!!!

Not only do nice guys always finish last but so do nice girls. I've been in many bars and have never been picked up by a man. I think it's because I look like a woman who probably wouldn't go off with a man they just met. Little do they know that I have many sexual fantasies and I would be willing to try almost anything once even with someone I just met.

 

[Ventoso]

A question

What is more sexy, to seduce or to be seduced?

I like both, it depends from the ... lady!

 

[Rupali]

Amazing night

To seduce or be seduced... tough choice. I like both.

I have to admit I have no experiences with seduction and strangers, but I had an amazing experience a couple months ago. I was going out with a couple friends and invited a friend from school that I thought might want to join us. At that point she was just a friend, and I knew she was in a serious long distance relationship. But the whole night she kept giving me little touches, on my arm, on my knee, on my thigh... Then we were dancing together and she kept pulling me closer. I certainly couldn't mistake the signals any longer. She leaned in and said, "I've been wanting to do this for a long time." And kissed me. We ended up at her place that night and...wow.

It was a long, drawn out seduction, and especially wonderful because it was unexpected. I kept doubting the signals because I knew about her boyfriend, but it was clear enough in the end.

 

[Guest]

Usually, I don't make pout very well in bars either. But I have to tell you about my good fortune one night. I used to travel on business and found myself in Syracuse New York one evening having dinner. There was a very cute girl about 26 or 27 sitting at the table across from me. We both ordered the same thing except I ordered rice and she ordered potatoes. We got talking about the mix up and one thing led to another. Twice during the conversation she mentioned that she was booked into the bridal suite and we made small talk about it. When she got up to pay the bill, I made sure Iwas behind her. After she paid her bill, I took a chance and asked her what the bridal suite looked like and she answered "I don't know, let's go find out. We had to drive around back on the motel and I rode with her in her car. She stalled it twice out of nervousness but once in the suite I sat on the couch and she came over and asked me to look at a map and give her directions. She leaned into me, and I took the initiative by unzipping her dress. She made no protest so I continued. She was about 140# short black hair, about 34C, nice liittle plump figure. Once we were both naked, she had no qualms about playing with my penis. I suggested we go in to the bedroom. She hesitasted a little, but then said OK. I screwed, licked and enjoyed that little gal all night. I doubt that I was so good looking that she couldn't resist me. I think that she decided that she was going to get laid that night and I was in the right place at the right time. Sure wish it would happen again.

 

[wildrose70]

I have a queston...why was she in the "bridal" suite...with no groom?? LOL but it sounded like a great night..you know women get those feelings too>>>>>

 

[allamboy]

It goes both ways

I take issue with some of your definitions of seduction. In my opinion, seduction is convincing someone that they want to have sex with you. It is not shedding clothes and dropping to the floor for a f--k. Not that the partner is unwilling, they just don't know they want you yet.

I have been on both ends of the seduction question, been the seducer and the seducee. And while I agree that women control sex for the most part, it is largely due to men buying into that arangement.

Trying to seduce a woman is always a risk, while a woman seducing a man rarely faces rejection. The key is to know you are taking a risk, move slowly and be willing to walk away. A desperate man is a definite turn off. It's like any negotiation, you can't win unless you are willing to walk away. Seduction

I'm not Adonis, but I'm not Quasi Moto either. I think of myself as a pretty average looking guy, with a decent body. The other night I was alone at a bar. It was a pretty crowded place and the night looked promising. I was facing the crowd, with my back against the bar, when this little cutie walks up and says hi. I thought interesting and she asked me to come sit at her table with her friends....even more interesting. Her friend had sent her and she was an incredible tall, lithe beauty. I almost had to pinch myself.

This girl played me like a fiddle, not that I was ever unwilling, but it was nice to be pursued, she complimented my looks, brushed knees with me, danced close, and made me want her soooooo bad. She had even planned an after hours party, to which I was invited.....all the guests left early and we were at her place alone. She was definitely good for my ego, and great for my body.

 

[Acalifguy_4u]

Re: nice girls finish last too!!!!!

Not only do nice guys always finish last but so do nice girls. I've been in many bars and have never been picked up by a man. I think it's because I look like a woman who probably wouldn't go off with a man they just met. Little do they know that I have many sexual fantasies and I would be willing to try almost anything once even with someone I just met.

It is nice to see that I am not the only one here that can sit and a bar and no one talk to me.....

I really appreciate all the replies. It is great to have read the stories. I wish i had some of them happen to me.