Have you noticed that.....

[Kim_Burly]

....since you became (or are) kinky you are more in tune with other peoples kinks? I think now that I am a more sexual woman, I notice more about people sexually. Friends, neighbors and co-workers. One woman, I think, you are very pretty, but I'll bet you hate sex. I talked to here ex-husband and without me even leading him too much he told me have "B" was frigid, talk about an old school term . Or my two neighbors that have a very "interesting" relationship that has caused them to be disowned by the rest of their family. The older, attractive older lady at the health club that is attracted to other women.

There also cases that I have inside knowledge of like my ex-Dom cuckolding a man with his wife. Or the lady that loves anal sex, but her husband is not inclined to oblige her.

I'm not judging, it's just now that I now notice these things and more if I dig, I frequently find I'm right. So naturally I assume that I am right about the rest of them . Am I alone in this or do others feel like they are more attuned to the sexual proclivities of those around them?

 

[CBM514]

I would say its a fair statement to say that we can easily see more in others what we are or have experienced and they may also pick up the vibe from you

 

[WIJeepman]

It seems I notice different things about those around me...I get different vibes I guess

 

[DVS]

I like to think I've always been more in tune to people's kinks, but only recently have been able to say much about it. In my younger years, living in a small town, you didn't really talk much about kinks or even sex. Because gossip runs thick in small towns, you knew a certain number of people would know the whole conversation, the next day.

But, I've been a people watcher all my life and that has helped a lot in some of the jobs I've had in the last 10 or more years. Knowing body language and how to read people has helped me control volatile situations. And there have been times when I've experienced conversations with a boss or co-worker that could have come out of a kinky video.

I could go into detail about a conversation I was involved in where my boss mentioned something I thought was very kinky. My boss is a woman and she is very powerful in her position. Because of what she said and how I know some strong women tend to be submissive in their sexual lives, I now wonder about her. She's very good in her job, but I wonder why she even brought up that topic. No, I can't go into more detail other than to say I was only a listener in the conversation, while she talked to someone else.

Then again, maybe I'm putting too much into what she said, but I know it wasn't necessary for her to say what she did. It could have been considered almost out of line by someone, and I KNOW it would have been, if I had said it. Because she was a woman speaking to another female, what she said seemed less out of line, but it perked up my kinky antenna, just the same. I've never experienced that kind of conversation while in a professional setting. It caught me totally off guard and I don't know if I could handle many more like that. But I'm willing to try.

Sorry for leaving out the delicious details. I just can't say anything more, because of the topic, the situation and the people involved. But, I still have some kinky images running through my head that just won't go away.

Many of my friends talk about sex in such a vanilla way, I know they can't be at all kinky. The way they act like their own desires are so sexual or sensual, I know I wouldn't even care much about sex, if I felt like they do. I guess it all depends on how you look at things. Some people feel they are so sexual, but they still use the word pervert and the phrase "whips and chains" as a label for people like me. If they only knew.

I'm quite glad I'm kinky, even though it has sometimes been difficult to find a willing partner for my version of kinky fun.

 

[Oubliette123]

I don't necessary think its the lifestyle that I am into that has allowed me to be intuitive to other people's sexual desires (or anything else I pick up on), but more to do with the person I am. I have always been able to pick up on other people's energy and interpret how they feel. Sometimes this is a blessing and sometimes a curse for me (it hurts when I feel other people hurting).

But having said that I definitely feel the BDSM has enhanced my intuition. Much of my play time with my OH is mind play (teenagers in the house) and we have learnt to easily send silent messages to one another, pick up on body language and hear the unspoken in the spoken.

Its like anything creative, if you don't practice it becomes stagnant. For me intuition is just that, a creative process that becomes stronger the more one uses it.

 

[Kim_Burly]

I'm quite glad I'm kinky, even though it has sometimes been difficult to find a willing partner for my version of kinky fun.

So, what pray tell, is your version of kinky fun? Please don't keep us in the dark!

 

[Kim_Burly]

I would say its a fair statement to say that we can easily see more in others what we are or have experienced and they may also pick up the vibe from you

You have a very good point there. I have changed so much in the last few years, inwardly and outwardly. I haven't gone to daily wear on the choker yet, but I have been accumulating more rings on my fingers and my nipple piercings are healing very nicely, so I will be able to change them out for different, more interesting "earrings(?)" soon. So yes, I do put out a much different aura than I did four years ago.

 

[knot_sweet]

I'm lucky that I'm a girl...

Because it's easy introducing kinky sex to a guy. I've been lucky that even guys who had never done anything but missionary and cowgirl before me were at least willing to try out the ropes.

Of course, kinky sex is not the same as D/s and getting that need met is much harder. Even with my most recent ex, who was willing and capable of both topping and bottoming for me, it wasn't quite the same.

So while I don't notice other people's orientation so much, and have no idea what kind of vibe I send out (although talking about kink is easy and natural for me. I don't shy away from it if the conversation goes that way), it's never seemed to matter when it comes to getting laid.

Although...I did have a guy tell me once "Those hips and that laugh? Yeah, knew it'd be hot".

 

[CBM514]

I'm lucky that I'm a girl...

Because it's easy introducing kinky sex to a guy. I've been lucky that even guys who had never done anything but missionary and cowgirl before me were at least willing to try out the ropes.

Of course, kinky sex is not the same as D/s and getting that need met is much harder. Even with my most recent ex, who was willing and capable of both topping and bottoming for me, it wasn't quite the same.

So while I don't notice other people's orientation so much, and have no idea what kind of vibe I send out (although talking about kink is easy and natural for me. I don't shy away from it if the conversation goes that way), it's never seemed to matter when it comes to getting laid.

Although...I did have a guy tell me once "Those hips and that laugh? Yeah, knew it'd be hot".

I'm actually surprised to hear that...I would naturally think most guys would more easily be "talked into" kinky stuff

 

[theGM26]

I don't necessary think its the lifestyle that I am into that has allowed me to be intuitive to other people's sexual desires (or anything else I pick up on), but more to do with the person I am. I have always been able to pick up on other people's energy and interpret how they feel. Sometimes this is a blessing and sometimes a curse for me (it hurts when I feel other people hurting).

But having said that I definitely feel the BDSM has enhanced my intuition. Much of my play time with my OH is mind play (teenagers in the house) and we have learnt to easily send silent messages to one another, pick up on body language and hear the unspoken in the spoken.

Its like anything creative, if you don't practice it becomes stagnant. For me intuition is just that, a creative process that becomes stronger the more one uses it.

This. It isn't about bring in the lifestyle; it's bout living it.