Have you Ever?

[spunkyE]

I'm giving you a bump and reminding you to never compromise on something as important as a partner.

The only spec you might could widen your net with is age. However, I'd say all the rest of your requirements are perfectly acceptable and desirable qualities to want.

Ignore the trolls.

Good luck, Darlin'..

I've thought long and hard on the age. I don't get anyone younger and it doesn't matter on the over because they email no matter what age they are..........lol I like younger so raising the older would be too much of a compromise..........lol

thanks for the bumps everyone. however, no one as even come close. too many married and not very many pms's.

I think I may have to settle and I don't want to. :-(

S.E

 

[lustingmoment]

I have met many women online and chatted as friends. After some time the want to see and hear each other and cam and be aroused has happened to me. Is a nice thing.

James

 

[TarzanOfTheApes]

I think I may have to settle and I don't want to. :-(

Don't settle! If you can be patient for the short run, it'll pay off. Always keep the long view in focus.

 

[spunkyE]

Don't settle! If you can be patient for the short run, it'll pay off. Always keep the long view in focus.

How long is the short run? I'm turning 42 in about a month and unless I go and attack a guy I can't even get a date and if i'm able to say the words would you like to go out it probably means I don't care because I had the nerve to say the words.

Blows my mind I can't find even one guy who matches half of my criteria let alone the most important pieces.

I wish society wouldn't frown upon me wearing a sign that says I swallow..............lol

oh well another lonely Saturday night fielding pm's that are one worded, or married, or in another country.

 

[yoursohi]

Damn I'm married otherwise perfect. Good Luck.

 

[TarzanOfTheApes]

How long is the short run? I'm turning 42 in about a month and unless I go and attack a guy I can't even get a date and if i'm able to say the words would you like to go out it probably means I don't care because I had the nerve to say the words.

How long? Hard to say, though to be honest, if you limit yourself to this site, it could be longer rather than shorter. Yes, people have hooked up on here (and if any of you would chime in, I think that your input would be appreciated), but if you're truly looking for a relationship for the long term, you should, if you already haven't done so, is look outside of Lit, try the online dating sites (Match.com, eHarmony, and a plethora of others). Or just do something to get yourself outside and away from the computer. For myself, I'm taking classes on Monday nights. So not only do I get to add to my limited edumacation . Plus, I get to meet and interact with real live people (of all ages, by the way).

Another thought: I'm of the impression (and I could be completely wrong about this), but I think (a lot of) guys on this site are afraid, perhaps even intimidated, by the thought of answering a personal from a woman, even though the whole point is that she's asking for an answer. The guy is probably thinking, well, she'd never be interested in me because of (pick the reason), so they move on to peruse whatever. Yes, the internet has given us quite an amount of anonymity, but even with that, some people still find it hard to break out of their shells. For that I have no answer

That's all just my opinion, take it for what it's worth. I've rambled on too long and monopolized too much of your thread. I don't know you from Adam (or Eve), but from what I've seen of some of your postings (yes, I stalked you, but just a tiny bit ), you seem like a terrific lady, and the guy that you do hook up with will be very lucky indeed.

Don't settle. You deserve better

 

[spunkyE]

thank you for the bump. Been there done that. I work two jobs seven days a week. On all dating sites. Married mem or old enough to be my father. I am not into that. If only i could walk around with a sign that says i swallow but society would frown upon it. People on lit at least understand thats why I am here.

I have done my share of the stalking. Thats sometimes how you know not to go after guys here and real life. Single girls when we do it call it research not stalking. Lol.


J.

QUOTE=TarzanOfTheApes;66525107]How long? Hard to say, though to be honest, if you limit yourself to this site, it could be longer rather than shorter. Yes, people have hooked up on here (and if any of you would chime in, I think that your input would be appreciated), but if you're truly looking for a relationship for the long term, you should, if you already haven't done so, is look outside of Lit, try the online dating sites (Match.com, eHarmony, and a plethora of others). Or just do something to get yourself outside and away from the computer. For myself, I'm taking classes on Monday nights. So not only do I get to add to my limited edumacation . Plus, I get to meet and interact with real live people (of all ages, by the way).

Another thought: I'm of the impression (and I could be completely wrong about this), but I think (a lot of) guys on this site are afraid, perhaps even intimidated, by the thought of answering a personal from a woman, even though the whole point is that she's asking for an answer. The guy is probably thinking, well, she'd never be interested in me because of (pick the reason), so they move on to peruse whatever. Yes, the internet has given us quite an amount of anonymity, but even with that, some people still find it hard to break out of their shells. For that I have no answer

That's all just my opinion, take it for what it's worth. I've rambled on too long and monopolized too much of your thread. I don't know you from Adam (or Eve), but from what I've seen of some of your postings (yes, I stalked you, but just a tiny bit ), you seem like a terrific lady, and the guy that you do hook up with will be very lucky indeed.

Don't settle. You deserve better [/QUOTE]

 

[spunkyE]

Giving myself a bump!

I know this thread is a few months old but i'm bumping it.

I am still looking. I have made three new friends. Two are just friends only one who i am chatting with. One might be a fwb.

However, I am so restless. If you read the first message in the thread are you the one i'm looking for?

It's a rainy crappy Saturday and I need mental stimulation.

J.

 

[DarciD]

I'm giving you a bump and reminding you to never compromise on something as important as a partner.

The only spec you might could widen your net with is age. However, I'd say all the rest of your requirements are perfectly acceptable and desirable qualities to want.

Ignore the trolls.

Good luck, Darlin'..

Amen to never compromising your standards. And, a discerning palate, ensures you don't fill yourself on something that is not satisfyingly to you. Best of luck.

 

[PetLucy]

Have you ever?

Have you ever met someone on line and instantly clicked to the point that after only a few emails you feel like you have know them your whole life?
Every beep of your phone makes you smile. Even when the emails aren't sexual they make you turned on that you feel like your high?

Have you ever then been dumped and you have no clue went wrong?

Have you ever then felt irritable, lost and that you need to find that something again?

There are so many people on lit. So many different types.

I am looking for something. I'm not even sure I know totally what I'm looking for.

I am picky. My friends all say so.

I'm shy in real life. Not so much on line, but still picky maybe even judgemental.

I know what I don't want though. Does that make me a bad person?

I do want something though. This is a start. I have been deliberating whether to post a thread or not.

Sometimes females on this site are unudated with pm's that are so bad. some are decent.

Every once in awhile you get a good one. sometimes one will result in a friendship. very rarely do they result in the above. I have had it twice and this
last time has really resulted in a need I can't even describe. I have usually always made an attempt to answer all pm's, but lately some just make me delete before answering. I will try to answer even if the answer is no. Just don't expect an answer in 30 minutes. I have to work tomorrow but it should be a light day.

If you are still reading this is what I am looking for.

I want a single (please be single) white male between the ages of 30 and 45. non smoking.

I want someone who can carry on a conversation about anything. sports, politics, religion, the weather, our jobs, current events and be able to cyber.

I want someone normal. No kinks. I am so vanilla (i just like passionate sex) that you need sunglasses for the snowy glare.........lol

I want passion.

I want brains.

I want an equal partnership.
I want someone to share my days. I want to share your days too
I want to share my secrets. I want you to tell me your secrets
I want someone to make me feel like a woman. I want to make you hard so all you do is to think about me.

I really hope for something to develop to be more than online. I am really looking for a fwb who can fit into my schedule (i work two jobs) so you probably need to be in the eastern time zone.

I love to write so I love someone who can write a good email. I don't like phones or cams.

I want someone to make me want to get on the phone and chat.

Please have information in your profile. I don't know about the other ladies but I never answer a pm unless I read that first. the most successful pm's are ones that I can tell the man has read my profile and my posts and my writings.

Most importantly i just want a chemistry that makes us both tingle.

Have I rambled enough? There's always more but this might give you the idea of what I want.

Are you that man? Are you the man who can make me wet with just your words?

SpunkyE (and yes that's me in the pic)

p.s. sorry if this was really long.

If you do happen to find someone, and he happens to have a single, pervier (is that a word?) brother, could you send him my way??? I am by no means trying to make light of your posting as I can so relate with this. As someone who has recently wondered if I should relax my standards some for a RL relationship (mine are similar to what you have listed above, except maybe our age ranges are a little different and I'm a little less vanilla lol), I have to remind myself there is a reason I am not willing to settle for less and that is because I deserve it and I'm sure you do too. Stay strong and good luck in your search.

 

[coke_float]

Never settle

Hi there spunky.. im new here and been trolling around when i stumbled upon your thread.. im sure you would rather have guys sending you PMs so I hope you dont mind if I butt in a little hehe

I can totally relate to 93% of what you said, even the criteria LOL.. I have to agree with Tarzan and the others who said never settle.. Patience is a virtue, girl.. you will reap your rewards for believing in yourself and staying true to what you want. you say ur 42? so what? i have a friend who is 54 when she got married.. the first time! now, im not saying that could be you.. what i mean is that, as long as you stay true to what you want and remain faithful that HE IS OUT THERE.. its going to happen!

here's a good luck bump to you! feel free to PM me if you need some girl talk! cheers!

Have you ever?

Have you ever met someone on line and instantly clicked to the point that after only a few emails you feel like you have know them your whole life?
Every beep of your phone makes you smile. Even when the emails aren't sexual they make you turned on that you feel like your high?

Have you ever then been dumped and you have no clue went wrong?

Have you ever then felt irritable, lost and that you need to find that something again?

There are so many people on lit. So many different types.

I am looking for something. I'm not even sure I know totally what I'm looking for.

I am picky. My friends all say so.

I'm shy in real life. Not so much on line, but still picky maybe even judgemental.

I know what I don't want though. Does that make me a bad person?

I do want something though. This is a start. I have been deliberating whether to post a thread or not.

Sometimes females on this site are unudated with pm's that are so bad. some are decent.

Every once in awhile you get a good one. sometimes one will result in a friendship. very rarely do they result in the above. I have had it twice and this
last time has really resulted in a need I can't even describe. I have usually always made an attempt to answer all pm's, but lately some just make me delete before answering. I will try to answer even if the answer is no. Just don't expect an answer in 30 minutes. I have to work tomorrow but it should be a light day.

If you are still reading this is what I am looking for.

I want a single (please be single) white male between the ages of 30 and 45. non smoking.

I want someone who can carry on a conversation about anything. sports, politics, religion, the weather, our jobs, current events and be able to cyber.

I want someone normal. No kinks. I am so vanilla (i just like passionate sex) that you need sunglasses for the snowy glare.........lol

I want passion.

I want brains.

I want an equal partnership.
I want someone to share my days. I want to share your days too
I want to share my secrets. I want you to tell me your secrets
I want someone to make me feel like a woman. I want to make you hard so all you do is to think about me.

I really hope for something to develop to be more than online. I am really looking for a fwb who can fit into my schedule (i work two jobs) so you probably need to be in the eastern time zone.

I love to write so I love someone who can write a good email. I don't like phones or cams.

I want someone to make me want to get on the phone and chat.

Please have information in your profile. I don't know about the other ladies but I never answer a pm unless I read that first. the most successful pm's are ones that I can tell the man has read my profile and my posts and my writings.

Most importantly i just want a chemistry that makes us both tingle.

Have I rambled enough? There's always more but this might give you the idea of what I want.

Are you that man? Are you the man who can make me wet with just your words?

SpunkyE (and yes that's me in the pic)

p.s. sorry if this was really long.

 

[allstarhockeynut]

keep on truckin Spunky, don't loose heart, you have a very good idea of what you want and you shouldn't settle for less, wish I met your requirements as you seem like a lot of fun, alas I am)married but I can give you some encouragement
if you ever just want a friend to talk to I am more than qualified to chat about almost anything