Have you ever sabotaged something..

[lickerish]

because you were afraid you didn't live up to expectations?

Afraid you were going to disappoint someone?

Egads, I'm so weak.

 

[Never]

My life..

 

[rubymyst]

i confess..

i did that to my brother's time machine

i figured he didnt need my alarm clock in a "time" machine for gawdsakes

 

[lickerish]

Thank you, mine too.

 

[Nora]

It's not weak. It's just fear. It's also called "the Self-Fulfilling Prophecy" in psycho-babble.

It's harder than hell, even when you see yourself doing it, to stop. But you can do it. =)

 

[Vinny]

Likerish no but I will sabotage this thread just to say "I love your eyes"

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

because you were afraid you didn't live up to expectations?

Afraid you were going to disappoint someone?

Egads, I'm so weak.

Ehhhh.

Yes.

 

[lickerish]

If I do it (stop), it means I have to pretend I like something I don't, and face possible horrific rejection.




thank you Vinny

 

[Nora]

If I do it (stop), it means I have to pretend I like something I don't, and face possible horrific rejection.




thank you Vinny

Does the potential gain outweigh the necessity of the pretense and the possible rejection? If so, bite your knuckle and jump in.

Rejection doesn't last, but the potential gain might. Right?

 

[Vinny]

Lik

Goodnight I am off to bed. One thing i will say. "Go with what your heart tells you" Hugs

 

[Starfish]

Likerish no but I will sabotage this thread just to say "I love your eyes"

Don't flirt with my stalking victim.


Licky, you are a gem.

Tell me, is this about you doubting your worth really? You seem pretty confidant about some things, and others not. What those things are, make all the difference in whether or not your fears are fabricated out of your self doubt, or if they are something to really think others would be dissapointed about.


I don't get it? Why? you are so amazingly cool. You are down to earth. When you get mad, you don't hold back, you stand up. You go for what you have to, and what you want. You are a no bullshit chica, with a big heart, but sometimes you just don't realize your worth.


I think others would be stupid to see you as anything less than a shining star of a person.

We all have faults. It's those of us who get comfortable with those faults enough to not let thems stop us from at least trying to be what we dream we want to be.

Sweetie, you are a great woman.

 

[Cibo]

Whats wrong Lick?

Need someone to talk to? If so, I'll be your ear and shoulder for you.

 

[lickerish]

*sob*

It's girlie stuff Cibo, thanks anyways

fishie, you going to bed?

 

[Cibo]

*sob*

It's girlie stuff Cibo, thanks anyways

fishie, you going to bed?

Heh, well the offer stands for whenever you may need it.

 

[MechaBlade]

never on purpose.

 

[Starfish]

*sob*

It's girlie stuff Cibo, thanks anyways

fishie, you going to bed?

I gotcha back again babe.... I don't know if you are up still. I tried hard to rush to get back to you, but I had a lot to say....


OH, man..... I can TOTALLY relate to what you feel.

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Licky)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) X Infinity

 

[JerseyBoy]

because you were afraid you didn't live up to expectations?

Afraid you were going to disappoint someone?

Egads, I'm so weak.

from what i've seen, this is so very difficult to imagine...

 

[Olivianna]

Yes. It is crucial to recognize such behavior patterns, though, as you appear to be doing now. Try to understand why it is that you want to sabotage...fear, masochistic tendencies, whatever...and work through it. It's hard - I know.

 

[PacificBlue]

because you were afraid you didn't live up to expectations?

Afraid you were going to disappoint someone?

Egads, I'm so weak.

All the time.

You are so not weak. If you'd like examples of why I think you aren't, I'll give em'.

Don't make me drive down there and kick your butt.

heh, heh...I wouldn't really kick your butt. I'm just practicing my 'trash talk' again.

 

[BigDawg69]

because you were afraid you didn't live up to expectations?

Afraid you were going to disappoint someone?

Egads, I'm so weak.

Fear rejection is the biggest hurtle.

I've learned that love has few expectations, and true love is about loving the good and the not so good.

But still it is very difficult. You are not weak, just human like the rest of us.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[JazzManJim]

I think others would be stupid to see you as anything less than a shining star of a person.

I've been saying this about her, fishie, pretty much since I got to Lit. I'll say it until the end of the world.

 

[JazzManJim]

Re: Re: Have you ever sabotaged something..

just remember that you can always go back and undo the damage.

<ahem> Bullshit. Big steaming piles of bullshit.

It is very possible to fuck something up beyond all hope of repair. It happens every day.

But it doesn't happen on just a one-time deal. It takes repetition - doing the same thing over and over again to make it happen.

 

[intrigued]

Yes, all my life.

I've sabotaged myself as a sexual being, in that I could never orgasm, and simply gave up because each new encounter, each new man was a threat to me, in that I knew I would face again that age old failure.

I've sabotaged myself in relationships, always waiting for the other show to drop, waiting for the knife in the back, and deciding to hit the road (in many, many ways) before it happened again.


I've sabotaged myself career wise, dreading starting all over and being rejected in yet another intimate and personal way. Society feeds us such crap about our self worth, but I no longer buy that crap.

(Speaking in general, here...)
If you don't push yourself to do more, feel more, live more...you will miss that rush, that high, that "well, lookie here at what I just did...*me*!" Its so addictive...so dump the crap and start in your mind by envisioning the best possible outcome, and then just absorb that for a moment. See how good it feels? Believe in yourself, believe that you are using so little of your potential, and stop thinking that good things only happen to others. Create your own reality, and make yourself happy. YOU and you alone have that key....

Sorry for the rambling...my mind is a whirl right now of so many beautiful and inspirational thoughts.

 

[sufisaint]

Whenever things seem to go wrong...I look back and I "see my own hand in this work." But I have also learned alot of times, I messed things up because they really were not right for me or I was trying to be be somebody I was not. Deep down our true feelings remain and its our minds that are fooling us. The mind likes to settle for things that are less than what we want or it follows the beaten path and follows societies wishes. In context, you meet a person and they have all the qualities of what society finds attractive, you think that person would be good for me..everyone agrees. But deep down there is no heart connection, its all your mind. Well sooner or later, you mess stuff up...you don't know why? It's because deep down there was real no connection..but your mind will beat you up...Than there is the reverse, you doing something that comes from true being...and you let the fear in your mind stop you...thats a bad problem...I guess what I am trying to say is look deep within yourself and be honest as to why you did the things you did...you might be suprised..