Have you ever REALLY missed your Dom??

BiaTcHiNFiRe

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The circumstances have separate me from my Master for a while and i must say this few weeks was the hardest time for me since i have divoced with my husband. I have shed lots of tears and missed him more than words can say. I truly hate every second of being separated from him and just pray it wont take much longer.

I have only online Dominant, but there is one thing i am sure of: I know i wont ever be able to call anybody else my "Master" than him. He have picked me and i have picked him back. This days when i was without a contact with him i had a lot of time to think. Anytime a thought came into my mind that i could lose contact with him for ever i was goin crazy. It was killing me inside. I am used to being owned by him, i just need it. I felt all weak and ill without him, without his words and presence, without talking to him.

I never had a Dom irl and i prolly never will, but i know what i feel for my online Master and nothing can change this. I was gone, but i will be back to him very soon. Can't wait to talk to him again.

I was in some very not nice state of mind, i am still am actualy and quess it wont change untill i am back to my Sir. I am peevish, nervous, moody, sad, depressed and feel quite lonely and lost. Simply it just suck....

My master makes me feel loved. He makes me feel as a woman, i just feel nice with him around, when i can talk to him. I love it and cherish every second we have spend together.

Theres still so much i dunno about D/s, but i know one thing for sure: I love to be my Master's sub and cannot wait to confess him how bad i have miss him these days.

Some time ago i saw a thread here where peeps should say good or bad things about them selvs. I didnt know any good i could say *chuckles*, but there is one i think. When i love someone i love for life and when i give myself to someone i give all of me, i dunno different.

I was always against more men in relationship, but now i am confused. Confused cuz i need 2 men to be ok. My man cuz hes the one with who i live irl, its a dad of my daughter and i have learn to live with him.

And then theres my Master who teach me, quide me and listen to me. I know he understand my needs and wants and i know i wont be denyed by him, ever. I can tell him anything and know he will understand. What we have and share is special and i apreciate it very much.

My master is a special person and i love him very much. In few months my secon baby will born and i will be prolly very busy, but i will still stay in touch with him, i always will. I need him around. I am people adddict. I am addicted to my man that i cannot leave him eventho i often think its the best thing i could do....i know i will not tho. I was always like this. I am staying no matter what usualy. Doesnt matter if its good or bad for me i am staying.

I will always live with my man irl. Same as i know that i will always be with my online Master. I am thankful he accepted me as his sub and i enjoy being HIS. I love it and atm i miss it real bad.

Theres this two men of my life that i really love and need around. Guess i am one greedy bitch. :rolleyes:



Miss your Master suck!! *sigh*
 
I know what you mean about loving for life. I am the same way.

But the peril of online relationships is that sometimes you have to be apart. If he goes on a trip, or if your internet breaks down at home...you will have to be apart. Even for a day or two while you are having the baby you might not be able to reach him. And of course if you are in very different time zones it's hard to be online at the same time. That's just the way online relationships are.

The man you are living with is the husband you divorced, right? Do I remember that correctly?
 
Yes!

The time I spent as Lady Isabelle's property was my first dom/sub relationship. For almost two years virtually every moment of my existance was spent serving her or dreaming of ways I might please her; then, on my twenty-fourth birthday, it ended. During the next forty years I have served many Mistresses and Masters, and I have loved many. I married a wonderful woman and we raised a family, but I still miss Lady Isabelle and I ofter wish she were still a part of my physical life.
 
Etoile said:
I know what you mean about loving for life. I am the same way.

But the peril of online relationships is that sometimes you have to be apart. If he goes on a trip, or if your internet breaks down at home...you will have to be apart. Even for a day or two while you are having the baby you might not be able to reach him. And of course if you are in very different time zones it's hard to be online at the same time. That's just the way online relationships are.

Yeah i know what you mean. I dunno this, not even in online relationships. For me it doesn't really matter if it's online relationship or a real life one. The feelings and emotions involved are the very same. Same with the pain when we are separated.

My and my Master's time zone is very different yes, but we have work it out so i don't see this as such a prob now. I wasn't able be online for few weeks now, can't say it did me well. I am glad i am finaly back, but i feel hurt and unsettle and atm i find it really hard to sort myself out.

I spoke with my Master after a long time today and i cryed the most of our chat. Talk to me ain't much fun right now. I am weird. I cryed when i was gone-geez now i am back and i cry again.

Hope a lot of my Master will sort me out again. I know that in few months when my second baby will born i'll be very busy, but i will still find a way how to share few words or emails with my Master. Now i wasn't able to do so at all and it i couldn't deal with at all. I am glad it's over now.



Etoile said:
The man you are living with is the husband you divorced, right? Do I remember that correctly?
Yes you remeber it well i live with my exhusband. Things aint going well with me and him lately, it just made me miss my Master even more. I needed talk to someone nice, at least online. My Master is/was always nice to me and i missed him more than i can say.

I had some not nice talk with my mum yesterday when i was moaning about being without my Sir for so long. She told me i am net addict. I must say it pissed me off with it cuz i am not net addict. Love addict yes - net addict no. I cannot explain her how much my Master means to me, she wouldn't understand anywas.

I love my man, i always did and always will, but can't say he always make me feel loved back. I can be without sex for a long time, but i deffo dunno be without daily dose of love. It's hard to explain why my online Master makes me feel more loved than the man i live with IRL. Guess it's just the way things are *sigh*.

I am moody bitch, i always was. The more when i feel unloved.
 
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Missing the Dom?

When RH and I were together, all the time that we didn't talk. Our relationship was purely online, we talked almost everyday, but the days that we couldn't I missed him terribly.

Even though he isn't my Dom anymore, I still miss that relationship with him but am glad that we went right back to the friendship we had when we started.
 
I terribly miss the dominant my husband used to be. It's very hard to be with him everyday, for years now, wishing he would go back to being that dominant when we know it's not likely to happen. Knowing that I need it but he probably won't be it. *sigh*

It's also very hard to be near the dominant I'm semi-involved with in real life. Darn poly relationships and having to be careful who sees you with who. I can not be lovey-dovey or my 'normal' submissive self with him in public, and even at our homes we have to look platonic in case someone comes around. I was crying just yesterday because of how much that hurts.

So, while not the same circumstances that you're in, yes. But I don't think it really matters for most people if it's a Dom/sub relationship or not. Some of us are simply more connected to people, need those we're close to more, and we'll miss those we love when we can't have them the way we prefer.
 
I can relate as well and all I can say is that miss my Dom don't do me well.

Thankfuly it's behind me now. I am back where I belong and longing to be and enjoying this moments very much. :eek:
 
I truly miss my sub, every moment we are not together...

Its as if my heart is no longer in my chest...

*sigh*

Hopefully soon... but then... who knows....

Just really down tonight.... and really miss her...
 
It has been 10 months and 1 day since my last Dom required my service. I still miss Him with an ache that may never dissipate. He was my ultimate and had gotten so deep into my mind I can not seem to get Him out.

Oh yes I have played with others since but He still owns my soul and until He chooses to give it back my interactions will include complete subservience.

Sorry to say.

Loved Him deeply...love Him still.
 
Right now Master Gil and I are spending nights apart while He is in the hospital....this will be the longest we have been apart since we married last year.

The hospital is only a few minutes drive away (but finding parking is a bitch :mad: ). I visit Him twice a day - He insists I go home in between to have a rest and maybe even a nap because I am not sleeping well at night without Him, plus all the worrying I am doing which I know does not help but I can't help it!

He is having surgery tomorrow which is even more strain but He is in good hands....

In late 2004/early 2005 my father became seriously ill and then passed away. I made two trips to NZ, one of those to Dad's funeral. Sir was so upset He could not travel with me....we were apart for two weeks both times. Luckily I had computer access so we communicated via emails and PMs, and my brother had a chat program so I loaded my msn on that and we managed to have some chat time too. We considered ouselves lucky to have that, plus I managed a few posts on Lit as well.

The time apart really seemed to drag.....plus I was dealing with the grief of losing my Dad....I was so glad to get back to Him :) He wants me to go back to visit my family next year....gee my heart is torn :eek:
 
MasterPhoenix said:
I truly miss my sub, every moment we are not together...

Its as if my heart is no longer in my chest...

*sigh*

Hopefully soon... but then... who knows....

Just really down tonight.... and really miss her...
I so love when men talk like this about their girls and Master's about their sub's! :)

I miss my Sir just the same, feel lost without him and feel quite empty inside. *sigh*
 
Many people don't believe or understand the emotional connection you can make in an online relationship. As you know, it can be incredibly deep.

I don't have an online dom anymore but I am still in contact with him. Circumstances were such for both of us that we realized that we cannot be Dom and sub to eachother, but sometimes I still ache for that relationship with him. However, we are back in touch and realize that our friendship is still strong. I'm truly grateful for that much at least.

I'm sorry that you are hurting over your master and that you are able to be with him soon. :rose:
 
Bandit58 said:
Right now Master Gil and I are spending nights apart while He is in the hospital....this will be the longest we have been apart since we married last year.

The hospital is only a few minutes drive away (but finding parking is a bitch :mad: ). I visit Him twice a day - He insists I go home in between to have a rest and maybe even a nap because I am not sleeping well at night without Him, plus all the worrying I am doing which I know does not help but I can't help it!

He is having surgery tomorrow which is even more strain but He is in good hands....

In late 2004/early 2005 my father became seriously ill and then passed away. I made two trips to NZ, one of those to Dad's funeral. Sir was so upset He could not travel with me....we were apart for two weeks both times. Luckily I had computer access so we communicated via emails and PMs, and my brother had a chat program so I loaded my msn on that and we managed to have some chat time too. We considered ouselves lucky to have that, plus I managed a few posts on Lit as well.

The time apart really seemed to drag.....plus I was dealing with the grief of losing my Dad....I was so glad to get back to Him :) He wants me to go back to visit my family next year....gee my heart is torn :eek:
Almost the same story here Bandit... as you know. Hospital stays are the toughest. Being apart is one thing. Add to that, concern for a master's comfort and care... and it kicks the challenge up a few notches.

Hopefully his absence from you will be brief ... hope you both are under the same roof, as it should be, asap. :rose: I have some idea of what you must go through. Feel welcome to PM, anytime.. if you find yourself in need of a 'likeminded someone' to talk with or just a good ear. :rose:
 
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GentleSub_Ivy said:
Many people don't believe or understand the emotional connection you can make in an online relationship. As you know, it can be incredibly deep.

I don't have an online dom anymore but I am still in contact with him. Circumstances were such for both of us that we realized that we cannot be Dom and sub to eachother, but sometimes I still ache for that relationship with him. However, we are back in touch and realize that our friendship is still strong. I'm truly grateful for that much at least.

I'm sorry that you are hurting over your master and that you are able to be with him soon. :rose:
Yes I have noticed that many people don't like/believe in online D/s relationships. And YES you are right it can be incredibly deep and it is for me and him.

I am back in contact with my Master, but we didn't really have some proper time together yet, so some way I still miss him very much eventho I can email him or PM him it's not the same as talk to him.

I am sorry you and your online Dom had to split cuz of the circumstances {{{{{{big hugs}}}}}} :rose: :rose: :rose:

I cannot really imagine it could ever happen to me...
 
Bandit58 said:
Right now Master Gil and I are spending nights apart while He is in the hospital....this will be the longest we have been apart since we married last year.

The hospital is only a few minutes drive away (but finding parking is a bitch :mad: ). I visit Him twice a day - He insists I go home in between to have a rest and maybe even a nap because I am not sleeping well at night without Him, plus all the worrying I am doing which I know does not help but I can't help it!

He is having surgery tomorrow which is even more strain but He is in good hands....

In late 2004/early 2005 my father became seriously ill and then passed away. I made two trips to NZ, one of those to Dad's funeral. Sir was so upset He could not travel with me....we were apart for two weeks both times. Luckily I had computer access so we communicated via emails and PMs, and my brother had a chat program so I loaded my msn on that and we managed to have some chat time too. We considered ouselves lucky to have that, plus I managed a few posts on Lit as well.

The time apart really seemed to drag.....plus I was dealing with the grief of losing my Dad....I was so glad to get back to Him :) He wants me to go back to visit my family next year....gee my heart is torn :eek:


I hope all goes well with the surgery tomorrow. :rose: And yes, going home to visit family is not as joyful as many would think when your PYL is on another continent. I am off in January to visit home, and I find myself spiralling, one minute excited to be going to see my mother, daughter and grandaughter, the next knowing how much I am going to miss F. Unfortunately, while at my mother's I will have no internet access either. While there I am wishing I were home with F, and while here I am wishing I could visit home...is a cycle. I find these days I have tears on the way there because I am leaving him behind, and also on the way back because I am leaving my family and country behind...I am sure people on the planes think I am crazy.

Catalina :catroar:
 
Ownership?

How many true Doms allow their subs to own them? (i.e. MY Dom!)
 
Bill3250 said:
How many true Doms allow their subs to own them? (i.e. MY Dom!)
It's called ENGLISH.

I won't speak for others, but I bet if I did I'd be on the mark for most in telling you that the use of possesive pronouns does not affect how much control a 'Dom' has over thier 'sub'. (PYL/pyl whatever)

Many PEOPLE... and 'subs' as you call them [pyl] have and do make use of a good portion of common sense in not mangling sentence structure, and grammar and the English language.

It's awkward for both the reader and the person speaking to use sillynilly phrases such as 'the Master of this one' ... 'the grand poobaa who lay claim to my subby ass'.

True fucking shmoooooo.
What kind of person, [regardless of how dominant or submissive they claim to be and/or identify as] makes it thier business to define what is and what is not.. especially in regard to taking it upon themselves to define other PEOPLE and thier relationships?

True what?? True ass? True fools? True ignorants? ;)

This IS what you are referring to I am guessing.
 
sinn0cent1 said:
It's called ENGLISH.

I won't speak for others, but I bet if I did I'd be on the mark for most in telling you that the use of possesive pronouns does not affect how much control a 'Dom' has over thier 'sub'. (PYL/pyl whatever)

Many PEOPLE... and 'subs' as you call them [pyl] have and do make use of a good portion of common sense in not mangling sentence structure, and grammar and the English language.

It's awkward for both the reader and the person speaking to use sillynilly phrases such as 'the Master of this one' ... 'the grand poobaa who lay claim to my subby ass'.

True fucking shmoooooo.
What kind of person, [regardless of how dominant or submissive they claim to be and/or identify as] makes it thier business to define what is and what is not.. especially in regard to taking it upon themselves to define other PEOPLE and thier relationships?

True what?? True ass? True fools? True ignorants? ;)

This IS what you are referring to I am guessing.


LOL, I am surprised at how many people actually do try to eradicate 'my' Dom etc., from their speech believing it is necessary to be 'real' as opposed to necesary to be understood and respect grammar. Personally, F is 'my' Master and he is damn proud he is and doesn't see the need to in language disown that role in the interests of appearing to be a 'true' PYL...reality is he is real and he is a true Master because he lives it, not because I speak in 3rd person and not only confuse the heck out of lots of people, but spend more time on watching my language than on serving him.

Catalina :catroar:
 
If Daddy required "slave speak" from me I'd slit my wrists. :rolleyes:

To answer the question... Daddy is a military man, and has deployed twice for over a year both times. He's also my husband, so yes I know full well what it's like to miss your Dom. It's tough, but you live through it. :)
 
I relate with what each of you have expressed here, Catalina & CutieMouse.
It's common sense that as people we will have different beliefs, different protocols, and agendas etc ect ect. I embrace those differences. I enjoy observing and reading about these differences.

I'll never understand those who judge the relationship of others based upon the differences.

It is difficult to witness the levels of ignorance. It is often painful. And not in a good way.

This is all beside the fact that there are some posts which I have read, which lead me to wonder at whether the name is a regular poster who is posing as an Alt. Or perhaps the poster is a juvenile who hasn't had the chance yet to learn better/know better. I'd like to hope that most ARE Alts. If I can just believe this... it could mean that there IS hope for the gene pools of future generations? I don't know though! heheh
 
BiaTcHiNFiRe: I'm sorry for the hyjack of your thread. I'm certain it will get right back on track. You've offered a good topic for discussion. :rose:
 
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