Have You Ever Fucked Someone Over?

[Misty_Morning]

Just Curious. At some point in our lives we have have been fucked over by someone else. You know, getting screwed in a divorce or relationship, dealing with unscrupulous coworkers or employers or even people you thought were friends who only had THEIR personal agenda in mind.

You were somehow lesser and/or expendable.

It's not pleasant, and we all know the feeling.

So I was just sitting here thinking...the fucker-overs must be amonst us. There's just too many to think that we are immune from doing the screwing. Ya don't want to think to think of yourself as such....but somebody is the culprit. Maybe we all are.

So, I am trying to think about anyone I PURPOSELY did wrong so that I might benefit.

I am really having a hard time with this. The ONLY thing I can come up with is breaking my little brother's nose when we were kids, though I didn't set out to break his nose.

I have ALWAYS lived the philosophy, do what's right. But somehow I keep getting screwed.

With a little thought, and I will be thinking, maybe I can come up with more.

I just keep thinking...what goes around comes around. But I think I have been getting too much coming around lately.

What about you?

The confessional is open.

 

[rgraham666]

Not sure I believe in karma.

I do know that the number of people who disprove the old adage 'nice guys finish last' is large and growing.

Sociopathy is not one of my problems though. I've never set out to screw somebody over except in role playing games. And that rarely.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I did-- I fucked someone over in a way I'm deeply ashamed of now.

She reciprocated almost immediately. I'm sure that her revenge changed my life's course, although-- for the better or worse, I don't know.

 

[gagginforit]

When I was a kid I have said or done things that may have hurt someone, but I never intended to. I was just a stupid kid. A day doesn't go by that I don't cringe at the memories.

As for me getting screwed... my best friend sold me his old computer (he knew I wanted one for gaming) for 400 bucks and it turned out to be obsolete and totally useless.

I was a bit miffed about that but he's my only friend so I let it go.

 

[carsonshepherd]

Yes. I fucked over an old roommate. I did it because it benefitted me, and made him into the "bad guy."

The ironic thing? We accidentally met up last year after not speaking for 13 years, and we fell in love and moved in together.

 

[Stella_Omega]

When I was a kid I have said or done things that may have hurt someone, but I never intended to. I was just a stupid kid. A day doesn't go by that I don't cringe at the memories.

As for me getting screwed... my best friend sold me his old computer (he knew I wanted one for gaming) for 400 bucks and it turned out to be obsolete and totally useless.

I was a bit miffed about that but he's my only friend so I let it go.

He buys you drinks for the rest of your lives... or a year, with the prices at bars these days!

 

[Lee Chambers]

I've screwed people over several times, and continually seek ways to screw others as a means of entertainment and mental exercise.

When I was in college, my best friend and I were asked to join a committee that had been formed to plan for our school's 75th anniversary celebration. We were the only two students on the committee, which consisted of several department heads, staff members, and the president of the college herself. We were asked because the student activities coordinator thought we would do a good job and the ideas and concerns we brought up at the meetings were well received by the other committee members.

The other reason we were asked is because most of these meetings were taking place during the summer (the celebration was going to take place in the middle of the fall semester) and no one on the recently elected executive board of the student government (president, VP, etc.) wanted to be bothered to attend during the time they werent' taking classes at school.

When the fall semester was about to start, the president came around and found out about our appointment to the committee. He then proceeded to tell us that he wanted us to take the ideas of the executive board and bring them up at the meeting. We flat out told him no. So instead he decided that he would go in our place and we were pretty much ousted from our position.

To cut this already long story short, the main purpose of having students on the committee was because the student clubs were going to be serving the concession foods at the concert that was going to be held as part of the celebration. The president wanted my friend and I to help coordinate this and to bring our club into it. Instead, we took our entire club on a weekend trip. When we came back we found out that all of ten people (literally) came to the concert and that NONE ofthe clubs showed upto sell food.

All in all, a good weekend.

 

[Boxlicker101]

After thinking this over for a while, I can't remember ever deliberately fucking anybody over. There was this one young lady that I treated rather shabbily almost 50 years ago. I have felt somewhat bad about this ever since, for divers reasons. Generally speaking, I do unto others as I would have them do unto me. Unfortunately, they don't.

 

[Misty_Morning]

OK. To be perfectly honest....I did something that might be considered "fucking over."

It was something that I NEEDED to do for years.

My ex was/is a physician who partakes in MANY illegal substances. For several years I tried to get him off of the stuff.

I mean, Jesus do YOU want your doctor stoned or fucked up when you go to see him?

I even planned an interventon, but no one in his family would believe it. And the folks that knew didn't want to get involved, cuz it might come back around to them.

So, I called his sister and told her that I was going to contact the state medical board and inform them of what I knew...UNLESS...he agreed to take a sabatical and enter into rehab.
I thencalled him to let hin know that she and her husband were traveling across the state to take urine and hair samples.

He either had to STOP immediately or lose his liscencse.

 

[gagginforit]

After thinking this over for a while, I can't remember ever deliberately fucking anybody over. There was this one young lady that I treated rather shabbily almost 50 years ago. I have felt somewhat bad about this ever since, for divers reasons. Generally speaking, I do unto others as I would have them do unto me. Unfortunately, they don't.

Oh yeah, I forgot I've got one of those too.

 

[glynndah]

I may think about it, plotting absolutely horrid things to do to someone, but in the end, I let the fates, karma deal with it. And, so far, that's worked pretty good.

 

[TE999]

I screwed over a guy in my division once because he was trying to screw me out of a corner window office that I had earned by hard work.

I made sure his ass was grass and the boss was the lawnmower.

Six months later, he quit.

I went home and slept like a baby.

Do unto others before they do it to you.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

I don't think I have ever thrown anyone under the bus in a malicious way. Small incidents that I don't remember that happened accidentally, but never intentionally.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

I think that being "fucked over" is purely in the eye of the beholder. I don't say this to exempt myself or others for misdeeds. I say it because there are always two sides to every story. I've been accused of fucking people over when what I know really happened was that I bent over backwards to make a bad situation a little less bad. Sometimes shit happens. Sometimes things need to change. Sometimes it hurts people, and sometimes they never get over it. I don't think that automatically means the person bringing about change is a bad guy or someone doing the fucking over.

 

[Misty_Morning]

I think that being "fucked over" is purely in the eye of the beholder. I don't say this to exempt myself or others for misdeeds. I say it because there are always two sides to every story. I've been accused of fucking people over when what I know really happened was that I bent over backwards to make a bad situation a little less bad. Sometimes shit happens. Sometimes things need to change. Sometimes it hurts people, and sometimes they never get over it. I don't think that automatically means the person bringing about change is a bad guy or someone doing the fucking over.

I'm not talking about bringing change, sweetheart. I am talking about seeing a situation where you can benefit at the misfortune of others and you being the one to bring about those misfortunes.

It happens. And it happens because someone causes it to happen.

Yeah, we're not the one....it's always the other guy.


Well, someone has to be the other guy.

Is it you? Me?


Just trying to figure it out and trying to be honest.





Still thinking here......

 

[lucky-E-leven]

I'm not talking about bringing change, sweetheart. I am talking about seeing a situation where you can benefit at the misfortune of others and you being the one to bring about those misfortunes.

It happens. And it happens because someone causes it to happen.

Yeah, we're not the one....it's always the other guy.


Well, someone has to be the other guy.

Is it you? Me?


Just trying to figure it out and trying to be honest.





Still thinking here......

I understand what you're getting at, but the most I can honestly admit to ever willfully doing is hanging someone out to dry when they'd already laid the groundwork for fucking themselves over.

The reason I posted the above is because I've been fucked over plenty of times, but looking back, I see that those situations happened for a reason and taught me something valuable. So how fucked over could I feel when I gained from it in the end?

 

[Boota]

I did the dirty work for some bad people many years ago, if that counts. It was my job.

 

[S-Des]

I've had it done a couple times to me, but usually there was something done that contributed to it coming back on me (how often are we truly innocent victims). I did have one outstanding incident where a band I worked with previously interfered with a job I had lined up, simply out of spite. It wasn't a small deal, it was a permanent 30k job that would have left me time to work a regular job on top of it. The singer is the one who did it, and it's not the first time I've heard word that he did something underhanded toward me. One day we'll have the chance to discuss it in person, and I'll find out just how much I've matured.

 

[Huckleman2000]

I agree with Lucky. I know I've been 'fucked over', but sometimes in situations where I've allowed it to happen. To my mind, the others were unethical, short-sighted, and plain stupid, but they recognized what it takes to get ahead and can rationalize their actions because of a few of my shortcomings. In the pantheon of 'tough decisions' they had to make, they probably regard those involving me as 'he fucked himself over'. By not behaving unethically or honestly, it's true, I fucked myself over; but equally, they created the situation where I couldn't behave in a way that was consistent with ethical or honest standards, because they wanted to get rid of me. The people above my supervisor were canned within a year, but my supervisor survived. On the other hand, I've had supervisors who thought I fucked them over, too, but that's because I revealed that I was getting fucked over. You can't depend on people to go to bat for you, especially when the shit starts to hit the fan. Sometimes people can't afford princples, and the more it costs them, the less principles matter.

I've done it too when I was a supervisor, although I sincerely thought the person had to go. He probably thinks I fucked him over, but he'd already been bounced around so many departments that I couldn't find anything else for him.

In 'private' life, I don't think I've fucked anyone over, but I think I've been fucked over. I think most people would say the same thing, so we can't all be right.

 

[elsol]

Yes.

Lots.

I have the advantage of not being able to feel sorry or guilty, nor do I, even mentally, understand this thing 'regret'.

Pretty much the only thing that protects people around me is that I think they might be useful later.

I blame it on my little brother... he was an impressionable child so I would 'jedi mind-trick' him into taking the fall for me. With that start, people are lucky I don't consider killing a viable option for advancing my ambitions.

 

[English Lady]

I'm trying to think and I am sure there must be something because I can be quite selfish and cowardly at times but I can't think of one example at all. bWhich either means I'm heartless as well or I've nto actually fucked anyone over, I'm not sure which!

 

[matriarch]

Just Curious. At some point in our lives we have have been fucked over by someone else. You know, getting screwed in a divorce or relationship, dealing with unscrupulous coworkers or employers or even people you thought were friends who only had THEIR personal agenda in mind.

You were somehow lesser and/or expendable.

It's not pleasant, and we all know the feeling.

So I was just sitting here thinking...the fucker-overs must be amonst us. There's just too many to think that we are immune from doing the screwing. Ya don't want to think to think of yourself as such....but somebody is the culprit. Maybe we all are.

So, I am trying to think about anyone I PURPOSELY did wrong so that I might benefit.

I am really having a hard time with this. The ONLY thing I can come up with is breaking my little brother's nose when we were kids, though I didn't set out to break his nose.

I have ALWAYS lived the philosophy, do what's right. But somehow I keep getting screwed.

With a little thought, and I will be thinking, maybe I can come up with more.

I just keep thinking...what goes around comes around. But I think I have been getting too much coming around lately.

What about you?

The confessional is open.

Nope.
But I have been.
Several times, usually in the work place.

Being a soft touch can truly suck.
But I'd rather be this way than the other.

 

[Belegon]

Yeah, I have.

I'm not proud of it and I don't intend to discuss details. But I learned a hell of a lot about myself in the aftermath and I learned I never want to be that person ever again.

I still feel the responsibility for it, and the relationship between her and I has never been the same. The fact that we still care about each other at all speaks a lot better of her than it does of me.

I wouldn't be the person I am without it though... so although I am remorseful about my behavior, I don't know if I can truthfully say it doesn't have it's place in my life.

 

[tickledkitty]

Yes, I have. Only when I've done it, it's not so I can benefit in some way or because I have a hidden agenda. It's more like I'm trying to avoid an uncomfortable situation or just doing something I don't want to do in general. I guess technically it's the same thing. I always feel terrible afterward and wish I hadn't done it, but at the time I feel like there's no other way. Also, the people being fucked over don't really lose anything. Nothing really bad happens. It just hurts their feelings. Wow. I suck.

 

[wishfulthinking]

OK. To be perfectly honest....I did something that might be considered "fucking over."

It was something that I NEEDED to do for years.

My ex was/is a physician who partakes in MANY illegal substances. For several years I tried to get him off of the stuff.

I mean, Jesus do YOU want your doctor stoned or fucked up when you go to see him?

I even planned an interventon, but no one in his family would believe it. And the folks that knew didn't want to get involved, cuz it might come back around to them.

So, I called his sister and told her that I was going to contact the state medical board and inform them of what I knew...UNLESS...he agreed to take a sabatical and enter into rehab.
I thencalled him to let hin know that she and her husband were traveling across the state to take urine and hair samples.

He either had to STOP immediately or lose his liscencse.

Cruel to be kind? The ex will never forgive you, nor his family [shoot the messenger and all that] but if it was about screwing him over, you would have told the board and not his family.

I had a boss who really tried to do a number on me, and when I applied for another position in head office, completely bitched me out - actually took the head of the department I applied for out to lunch to bitch me out! It was really funny, because that was probably what got me the job My ex-boss may or may not have figured out by now that my new boss hates her. My new boss and I are kindred spirits, and has told me about the lunch. I've never said anything to my old boss, and I smile when I see her. It's a genuine smile, because I know she's wondering if I know what she did, and whether I will lower myself to return the favour and bitch her out, which I wouldn't.