have sex questions NEED HELP!!!!! (espesically from sex-aholics)

[Guest]

Hi.... I am actually a registered member here but I'm feeling too embarrassed to admit who I am so I am posting under this title for now (thank you for understanding).

I have two questions that are really eating at me here.
Perhaps someone can offer a little insight?????
Both may seem like jokes but I promise you they are real questions!!! So read them already dammit!
1) Despite masturbating daily and having sex an average of twice a day, I still want more. I am married and love my husband. I would never cheat on him. The problem is we are at his limit meaning, he can't take it much more than that, not on a regular basis. If we go for a third time he typically will go limp (is that the nice word or that bad one... can't remember?) and then I end up feeling bad!!
So .... is there something wrong with me? Should I do something to remedy this?

2) I had my first orgasm (not counting the ones I get masturbating) in I'd say at least a half a year having sex with my husband the other night.... now when I do it with my hand, I can feel myself (this is so embarrassing) spasaming and twitching all over my hand, plus my stuff drools all over it as well whenever I have an orgasm.
However, when I asked him if he could feel it contracting like that on his penis... he said he couldn't feel the difference.
So what I want to know is... does he just have an insensitive penis... or is it normal for men to not feel a woman's orgasm?

Thank you so much in advance!

luv cutiepie

 

[Earthgoddess]

Hmm I would kill to have sex twice a day,Dionysus and I manage 3-5 times a week but that is about it. Well,jealousy aside here is my advice:
Buy toys,lots of fun ones and use them for the 3rd or 4th times.
Do you kegel?-if not try it as that often strengthens your muscles enough to have a noticable difference for the male. I kegel lots and hubby can feel my contractions,wish I could contract even harder but I do not want to bite it off,just clamp down in a pleasurable massaging manner.
Hope I helped...kegeling is the key for me-I do it 100 times daily.

 

[Weird Harold]

Originally posted by cutiepie:
So what I want to know is... does he just have an insensitive penis... or is it normal for men to not feel a woman's orgasm?

I think it's more a case of not being able to sort out the vaginal spasms from other stimuli. I have felt my ex-wife come, but most of the time I did't. There was just too many other reactions to her orgasm to sort out just that one.

 

[Whispersecret]

Here's my couple of pennies worth.

You asked, is there something wrong with you? I don't think so. Everyone is different. I don't think your "problem" is a stronger than usual sex drive. Going from what you said, I'd venture to say it might be a lack of fulfillment. You said you had your first orgasm from him in six months. That's not a very good track record.

You poor thing! If I never got off from the first or second times, I'd probably be begging for a third go around too! Wouldn't any of you, ladies?

Does Hubby go down on you or stimulate your clit in some other way? From what I understand, most women find it difficult to orgasm from strictly vaginal penetration. If I were you I'd try to get him to give you an orgasm with something other than his cock before he goes inside your pussy. It's the method that works for me.

As for your second concern:
My clitoral orgasms are MUCH more intense than my vaginal ones. AFter my husband has licked me to orgasm, those rhythmic clenches are strong and feel like they go on forever. On the other hand, my vaginal climaxes, while satisfying, aren't nearly as overpowering. I don't find it surprising that he wouldn't feel the pulses if you're talking about a vaginal climax.

I also wouldn't worry about it too much. Is he complaining that he can't feel it when you cum? If not, then, does it really matter?

Hope this is helpful.