Has anyone been on collarme.com

[Jessika_Femme]

a friend told me to check it out. seems like a scam.

 

[horny4incest]

try fetlife.com

 

[Loverskitten]

I have, only for a short time and with ZERO luck.

 

[graceanne]

They're all a tool that is often misused. I can count on one hand the number of people who've ended up in r/l relationships from an online dating community - most people are just looking to cyber or for a hookup. Collarme is a bit more known, so it's probably got more assholes on it.

 

[Ahlam]

Collarme.com is a great site if you'd like your inbox to be overwhelmed by knuckledraggers seeking wank fodder.

 

[Loverskitten]

Collarme.com is a great site if you'd like your inbox to be overwhelmed by knuckledraggers seeking wank fodder.

Pretty much my experience too. Gave up after a week and a message from some ass in his mother's basement that was a list of "rules" for his slaves and I am sooooo not a slave, clearly he couldn't read. Such a joke.
It seems all the guys on there complain about professionals using the site to find clients too.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I have friends who have found good company via collarme. I don't use it so I don't know how they do it.

 

[DVS]

a friend told me to check it out. seems like a scam.

While it's not a scam, some who go there have scam in mind. And while some people say they've found a special friend on collarme, I never had any luck at all.

Women get a LOT of messages from creeps who either have scam in mind or just want some jollies and don't ever intend to fulfill ANYthing they happen to say in their messages. Also, some men don't know anything about BDSM (fakers) and just act like they do. Many say they are experienced doms when they aren't anything but wannabees. There are so many of them, that many women just start deleting messages when they have similar phrases in them. That can cause good messages to be deleted along with the bad.

Men like me, trying to meet someone, would often send reasonable messages to women only to end up getting them deleted just because we said something the woman thought was just too similar to the last creep she deleted. She never knows I sent the message, and I assume she just didn't like what I wrote and move on to someone else. The pattern starts and I eventually give up.

So, it's not collarme that is the scam, but it's very easy to create a profile and send messages to people. Many of the creeps out there use the shotgun approach to sending messages. They create a message, send it to lots of women and hope for the best. Women get enough messages that they can see a form letter attempt after a while and then yet another pattern starts.

If someone can think up a way to filter out the creeps, fakers and wannabees from the situation, places like collarme would be worth the time. But, until then, I think it's just luck if you do end up finding someone special there.

 

[rexhame317]

I was on there for about 4 months. Most guys were looking for online, lived at home and could only meet at my place (most of them married) or expected me to kneel before them and worship them on first talking.
I did get a few to meet me in person, started like a regular date (coffee, dinner, etc. all public meeting) Some just were not what they said (the Dom was really a switch or submissive, etc) or wanted to play unsafely.
I am sure there are real, nice people there, but there was too much BS to wade through to find them.

 

[partygal49]

I was on there for about 4 months. Most guys were looking for online, lived at home and could only meet at my place (most of them married) or expected me to kneel before them and worship them on first talking.
I did get a few to meet me in person, started like a regular date (coffee, dinner, etc. all public meeting) Some just were not what they said (the Dom was really a switch or submissive, etc) or wanted to play unsafely.
I am sure there are real, nice people there, but there was too much BS to wade through to find them.

Beat me...Eat me ...Fuck me ...Use me hard .. I fucking Love it .!!!!

 

[Roleplay_Mom]

It's not a scam. However, there are spammers who slip in, just like everywhere else.

And just like every other dating service or swinger site, the ratio of men vs. women is at least 10:1, which easily explains why many men complain about having little success finding someone.

 

[sirenlove]

I found a good man on collarme. I was very specific because I only wanted to meet local people. He's a daddy dom. It's a good thing that I'm a little girl. We are perfect for one another. We've been together for 3 months now. We spend about 3 or 4 days a week together. Our relationship definitely has a power exchange (d/s) component, but for the most part we are a vanilla couple. Maybe I got really really lucky, but it isn't all a scam. On the other hand, I had worse luck on dating websites like match, okcupid, etc...

 

[hd8001]

cm was ok but lots of fakes. better to try fet like others have suggested even though it is not set up as a dating site.

 

[DaemonOfSin]

I've tried CollarMe... met a few doms. They were WEAKLINGS. I tried FetLife and met no one. Either way they both kinda suck. I wouldn't really recommend either of them.

 

[LadiLucki7]

Checked it out.... Didn't think anything looked promising however I am still very very very new to the while d/s area. Hope your search finds interesting prospects

 

[loneranger8921]

plenty of fish.

I met my girl friend/ submissive/slave/lawyer. on the dating site plenty of fish. and discovered her tendencies and we are on fetlife and use it as a guide like this site. I believe you find your playmate first as a friend or lover first then you make you label from there.

 

[LLADDIS]

I have a profile on there but have found it full of ladies with multiple profiles who are simply playing games with the guys on there by pretending to be different people

When challenged about multiple profiles they then accuse you of STALKING them for heavens sake

the site is also full of women claiming to be dominants who con young men out of money by promising them relationships

The site is also full of transgender men (supposed) who try all kinds of subterfuge to get straight guys to contact them - then they follow that up with feeble attempts at BLACKMAIL

MY MAIN COMMENT IS POSTERS BEWARE - BUT IF RISK EXCITES YOU GIVE IT A TRY

 

[game_master24]

I was on there a couple months a year or so ago and all I got was a few bots... which I had a fun time playing with.

 

[FluteMaster]

Found a submissive a while back, and made some friends.

There are real people on there, and there are some clever "fakes".

It's a bit like mining for gold...the more you dig, the more likely you are to strike it lucky.

 

[CarolineB]

It's exasperating at times. Comical at times. People (men / boys) don't actually seem to read profiles, other than a little headliner that comes up at the top, so there are a lot of quite dim, poorly written and obviously cut and pasted opening messages.

I've come across a very small number of interesting boys on there, but that's the exception rather than the rule (and I tend to drag them over to fetlife as quickly as I can).

Fetlife's lovely. For sharing thoughts, for seeing how boys interact with other people, for checking out whether someone's *really* into the stuff they say they are in a private message (the interface is very Facebook-ish, so it's easy to see histories and such).

Fetlife doesn't have a personals section, though, which I think is both its attraction and its limitation. Contact's much slower and people interact in groups as well as privately. I like it that way.

For the outside chance of a quick fix, maybe collarme seems better. But it can be incredibly tedious.

 

[nh23]

I had a profile on cm for awhile and I did get a ton of spam and asshat messages. However I met my husband on there. The first message he sent me was about a great ruben sandwich he had that day and since it wasn't a message asking me if I was K-9 friendly, or that just said submit slut, I answered. Best decision I ever made. While I don't visit cm anymore and I did get a lot of junk messages there, if it hadn't been for it , I'd have never met my hubby.

 

[SoIllSusan]

I met my Master on alt.com. I haven't received spam there, but I did receive a few asshat messages. I rarely go there now. I agree that fet is great for community and learning.

 

[njlauren]

CM as a dating site is problematic , I go there strictly for the boards, and there are some pretty good people on there, some decent discussions. I have had people PM me who obviously didn't read my profile well, I have had guys keep PM'ing me after I said I wasn't looking for a relationship, and a couple of supposed pro dommes who had some kind of scam going, wanting me to be 'their slave' and they would 'transform me' (I didn't let it get far, I suspect it was some sort of scam, where I would send them money and they would send me 'instructions''..please.)

 

[bibcat]

Sorry to bump this. I got curious and made an account over there, decided I hated the site and tried to delete said account, got a message saying it had shut down, but I'm still getting messages. Has anyone had this problem? How did you fix it? I'm looking for a help person over on CM itself, but haven't had much luck so far.

 

[DVS]

Sorry to bump this. I got curious and made an account over there, decided I hated the site and tried to delete said account, got a message saying it had shut down, but I'm still getting messages. Has anyone had this problem? How did you fix it? I'm looking for a help person over on CM itself, but haven't had much luck so far.

Change your email to a fake one. If it requires a valid email account, create one on yahoo, google or whatever. You can use it in the future when other idiots want your email account and you don't know if you want to give it out or not.

A fake email or one you don't check is useful for messages you don't care to receive. You can even check messages, if you want. Just don't ever reply from that account.

You could also delete most everything in your profile, so it's empty, if they don't let you delete it. And they could just be slow in responding to your request. I'm not sure they even have good tech support. I think they have one, but you'll probably have to wait a few days.