Harsh Feedback

[Selena Down]

I have already deleted the feedback that I am speaking of, but it was really harsh. They didn't leave feedback regarding my stories, but about the picture in my profile. They basically called me "Fat" & that I should "Just find some redneck down at the grange to support me & pop out a few of his kids"....Has anyone ever had this? It was really harsh & hurt my feelings!

 

[Limbhugger]

I have already deleted the feedback that I am speaking of, but it was really harsh. They didn't leave feedback regarding my stories, but about the picture in my profile. They basically called me "Fat" & that I should "Just find some redneck down at the grange to support me & pop out a few of his kids"....Has anyone ever had this? It was really harsh & hurt my feelings!

Children abound dear. Even adult ones. While such things can be cruel, only you can decide to let it hurt. I say don't give the little fuck the power. Believe in yourself and screw the rest of them.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I've had some particularly nasty feedback that went all up and down my morals, my parentage, my political views, and my intelligence (or lack thereof). Quite a bit of it actually.

It happens. There are mean people in the world and the 'Net gives them a place to be mean. There was only purpose for that message, that was to hurt you in some way. Why? It could be any number of reasons and they don't matter.

What to do? Ignore it. Move on. If you ever figure how to do that, let me know because I still get good and pissed and a little hurt when it happens to me.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Yeah. I've been flamed with ananyomous feedback that not only was extremely nasty and personal, but seemed to have nothing at all to do with the story in question. I can only assume that it was some sort of mass-mailing or stock flame that someone sends out just for grins.

I've heard that flashers get off on the look of shock and horror on their victims' faces. I can only assume that these people are trying to do the same thing.

---dr.M.

 

[jessy19]

Yes people can be so cruel sometimes. I got flammed for a non consent story I did once. People need to get a life and find something better to do than put others down. But critisism is all part of being a writer. Still, they had no right to call you nasty names because of your pic. That was just down right mean. If they are writing such things why don't THEY get enough balls to post their pics and see how "beautiful" they are!

 

[FuckDoll]

I have many stories posted here, and one huge monster of a story (Daddy's Darlin' ) I've only received maybe one or two negative feedbacks, that basically spoke to my morals, and wanting to hurt me. But that's it. The great majority have all been positive.

However, I don't think you should let it get to you. Just make sure you have an email box only for your story feedback, and sift through it there. Don't worry, love yourself and let the others wallow in their poor self-concepts and insequrities.

 

[CharleyH]

You know, gotta say, everyone is beautiful in their own right, and as we all know on lit and writing, which is also a public forum, there are THOSE out there that are simply ridiculous, and they are ridiculous. I laugh at absurdity. LOL now, I say things that some might not like sometimes, I write in a style that some may not like, I look the way I do, and, well some may not like it, and who the fuck cares? Any person who is happy in thier lives, any person who is confidant in themselves will never comment the way this person did.

If you are confidant enough in yourself, well, who the hell cares? And there is no reason why you shouldn't be. You are awesome in your way, unique in your way, and while we all go in different directions, and we all get personally offended in our lives, you know what - it's only the fool who doesn't look and see, and the fool is missing the best things in life because they can't open enough of themselves to experience enough to live.

T

 

[R. Richard]

I read what you posted. Could you also post the really harsh feedback?

The type of person who flames you, seemingly without reading your story (and damn well not understanding it), is an occupational hazard. I find that it helps to face the screen, flip the bird and say: ommmmmmmm, ommmmmmmm.

You might try to allow public comment. At least you can respond if they put it on-line. I find that responses such as my Polite Rebuttal in Healing Process Ch. 02 tend to shut off the worst of the problem; once they realize they can't understand what you wrote, most of them shut up.

Just a thought.
R. Richard

 

[Guest]

I have not written very many stories but I have 4 of them post in a matter of alittle over a week an a half I believe (insomnia, yippee).

I actually allow public comments for all my stories and poems, I figure heck why not.

I have also gotten some harsh feedback emailed to me and also had one in particular that was posted into a public comment. The part that just absolutely made me laugh was that the public feedback was just wrong on its face. It was talking about how the story developed and why it was not believable... but the reader did not take more then a handful of other variables into account.

Flames, rudeness, childishness and the like I really have to simply laugh and keep writing....

Have a great day,
Elizabetht

 

[Jeff818]

Constructive criticism is one thing, rudeness is another. My advice would be to ignore those comments. Believe in yourself and keep writing. I wish you well.

Jeff

 

[curious2c]

I am afraid that if you write a story and post it online, you must be prepared for the gaff and poor taste of some people. I have gotten very venomous feedback from time to time. I usually can seperate it in my mind but sometimes there is that one lone comment among many that strikes a chord. When that happens, I happen to keep a file on my pc where I keep the best feedbacks from all of my works. I go there and chill for a bit, knowing that there are some who do like my stories and then, later, I can remember that to get a response, even those nasty angry one's means that at least hit that aprticular reader and made them emotionally involved.

Remember your good feedbacks and let the bad ones go.

 

[Doclube]

Sorry I didn't read your story, Or see the harsh feedback that you recieved, But I had this happen on a site called MPlayer....(Cam Site) They ask my wife, Who the old fat guy was in the backround, But what they didn't know I was Moderator of the Room....And guess who got the boot, But by the sounds of it, You were in no postion to do what I did!!!. So just remember people can be assholes, So you take care of the ones you can do some thing about, And the ones you can't, Don't let them bother you ... it's just their ignorance showing . I think it sucks when shit like that happens !!!. Chin Up !!! (If you tell me the name of the story I would like to check it out)
Doc.

 

[Selena Down]

RE: feedback

If you search under Authors by Name, search for "Selena Down". The only 2 stories I have listed so far are Spanking/Anal/Bondage. I have several more that I am still in the roughdraft process. I will have them up as soon as they are done though!

 

[Syndee]

Keep in mind that there are those out there that read these stories for the sole purpose of being critical. I have found that, of the very few bad comments I have received, I have either hit on a very sore point with them such as a cheating wife or they consider themselves to literary critics and are poiting something out they think a "good editor" would have caught. (I consider the latter to be a writer wannabee with no talent)

I, too, keep all replies and separate them between positive and negative. Right now I run 50 to 1 positive.

Most negative ones are anonymous. Screw'em!!

 

[Guest]

Some interesting feedback...

I have been reading this thread and thought I would throw my 2 coppers in...

I don't have very many stories up... only 6... but I have two that seemed to drive a few nuts...

The first one was called "Gordon's New Wife", it is located in the section of non-consent. Non-consent... meaning one or two or however many people in the story did not consent to having sex. I think I got a handful of anon feedback saying that it was too rough and that the woman should have given in at the end and accepted her fate, blah blah blah.

My take on non-consent writers. There are two categories... the first is the hard core writers... they are the ones that keep the story true right to the end (ie. the person has not given in even though the sex was had) then there is the other group, the ones that want the sunshine picture on the other side and will bash the hard core non-consent writers for not having the 'victim' of the story all happy at the end... BLAHHH. If that is the case then make it erotic couplings and get over it.

*yanks herself back from the tangent that she took*

The second one is probably my all time favorite negative feedback thing. This one was not even emailed to me. It was left as you guessed it anon PUBLIC feedback. It was for a BDSM story that I posted called "Jim Takes Control". Now I even put on author's notes saying that this was written for a fan. How many of you have written a story just as a fan wanted it but not necessarily how you would have done it. This was the case with this story and me... here is the feedback

Not Realistic
01/04/04 by Anonymous in USA
This story was written too hastily. Everything happens much too quickly and easily. (It reminds me of porn flicks in which everyone sheds their clothes within minutes of meeting.)

The motivational psychology is not realistic. The girls offer little resistance to a spanking.

And where does the dom/sub relationship come from? Being spanked, under threat, is one thing; but forgoing boyfriends, etc., and becoming a submissive, as both of the girls do, is quite another.

Where are the parents of the girls day after day? They seem too young to be living in their own house.

Unfortunately, it takes a lot more work for an author to develop a believable story.

I had to go and show that to a few of my sub and slave friends that are what is called natural submissives. They howled laughing at the author of the feedback's obvious lack of knowledge.

Anyway to make a long story even longer...
Take the crappy feedback with the good. Sometimes they are gonna pound on us for something stupid like a word that spell check didn't catch or a punctuation error. Just remember... we are the ones writing for THEIR entertainment. We are the ones sitting down wherever writing and toiling and putting our thoughts and imaginations to the test... they are not.

Elizabetht

 

[Colleen Thomas]

You get used to negative feedback, in the same way I suppose firemen get used to smoke and construction workers get used to loud noises. It is part an parcel of writing and posting to apublic forum.

If you can find a way to just let it roll off your back then you are in good shape, if it really hurts and you can't let it go, then turn off annon feedback. The worst offenders are simply mean and like most really mean people they are cowards at heart. They won't send this kind of personal attack when they have to provide a return addy.

Most of my annon feedback has been positive. Some people simply want to let you know they enjoyed your effort, but for whatever reason are uncomfortable giving you an address to reply too. Some of it is invariably going to be bad, but I find the positives far outweigh the negatives.

-Colly

 

[Guest]

sounds like our dear ol' Hannz

Sounds awfully similar to something dear ol' Hannz would say. For those of you who don't know to whom I'm referring, check out the general board and you can't miss him. I'm not saying that it was him, but it sounds like the same TYPE of person. I've noticed that people on the general board usually deal with that type of person by igoring him, or by making light of his hurtful comments. This seems to work well. Myself, I say that you should turn off the anonymous feedback. Make people use their usernames if they want to give feedback. As mentioned in Ms. Thomas' post, they're not brave enough to leave hate-grams if people know who they are. I once got some incredibly violent, graphic death threats for a story I wrote--all left anonymously and obviously by the same person. Since I've disabled the anonymous feedback option I haven't had this problem anymore. Don't worry about getting less feedback. If people really want to give you feedback they'll take the time to log in before sending it.

Above all, don't let it discourage you. Sounds like you were the victim of someone who hates women--there are lots of those types out there, and they're just mad because they find women terribly threatening

Xtaabay

 

[lunablu69]

that darn ol harsh criticism

Hey, don't let the fools get you down!!! I just had my first story posted a couple days ago and there was already some negative remarks made. I didn't take it too personally, especially when I checked my e-mail and had 5 out of 6 LOVING my story.


Just like we have the right to write and post such stories, they have the right to complain---only you can determine if it bothers you enough to not do what you want as far as your stories.

As for criticizing you personally, well, that's human nature among petty individuals who haven't had the good sense or grace to grow up.

Shrug it off and keep writing!!!

 

[thebullet]

I had a negative response which I loved. It wasn't emailed, it was posted as a public comment.

It said that my story was "wordy and not at all clever". Ironically, this was Chapter 20 of my story "Death by Fucking", so I figured the guy must have been a glutton for punishment, fighting through nineteen previous chapters of boring and stupid stuff.

I left the comment on the public board. I thought it was the least I could do for they guy, since he suffered for so very long in order to post it.




thebullet's rantings

 

[Doclube]

To thebullet

I guess you can say he had to bite the bullet....lol. Sorry I had to say that. I am new to the site, and have been doing the hit and miss, with the storys posted. I must not have came across yours yet. Because I would have remember that Title...Because that is the way I want to go out...lol. But I will give a read and let you know what I think.
Doc L.

 

[thebullet]

I guess you can say he had to bite the bullet

to Doclube:
Close: he said that the bullet bites.