lovecraft68
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Happy Father's Day to all the Dads, Granddads, step dads and foster dads. As well as the men of all ages out there who participate in mentor and big brother programs to help bring a father figure to a young man that doesn't have one.
A lot of us are in that situation where we're fortunate enough our dads are still around, and we're also dads, so we experience this at both ends as in celebrating our father and being celebrated by our kids (well...LOL)
I make two stops every year, one to see my birth father who I had a poor relationship with up until my late twenties, but he's made amends, and I matured enough to see that what he did was the affect of addiction and his childhood and to have some understanding of it.
Later on, I see my foster father, who I also call Dad and who came into my life when I was 11 and one hell of a nasty broken ball of hate. Did his best to save me from me, didn't quite succeed, but he gave me stability and loved me as his own, even when I went off the rails and did crazy things. He didn't give up on me.
Real fathers/father figures-Never give up on their kids, they pick them up when they get down, brush them off, maybe smack them in the back of the head and tell them to do better and try harder, but they don't quit.
Its a shame so many kids in this society are without that type of man in their life, so let's appreciate ours.
If this post seems out of character for me-Jeez, LC< you sound like an actual person that might have a feeling-my father had triple by pass last year, almost lost him. He's just shy of 80 and is in the beginning stages of dementia. My mom is also dealing with serious health issues as is my wife. I'm fortunate to be in great health, but those who mean so much to me aren't, and the hard hitting reality of mortality has opened my eyes to how much we need to let the people close to us know we care because there's going to come a day they won't be here to tell them that anymore, so say it and show it, now.
A lot of us are in that situation where we're fortunate enough our dads are still around, and we're also dads, so we experience this at both ends as in celebrating our father and being celebrated by our kids (well...LOL)
I make two stops every year, one to see my birth father who I had a poor relationship with up until my late twenties, but he's made amends, and I matured enough to see that what he did was the affect of addiction and his childhood and to have some understanding of it.
Later on, I see my foster father, who I also call Dad and who came into my life when I was 11 and one hell of a nasty broken ball of hate. Did his best to save me from me, didn't quite succeed, but he gave me stability and loved me as his own, even when I went off the rails and did crazy things. He didn't give up on me.
Real fathers/father figures-Never give up on their kids, they pick them up when they get down, brush them off, maybe smack them in the back of the head and tell them to do better and try harder, but they don't quit.
Its a shame so many kids in this society are without that type of man in their life, so let's appreciate ours.
If this post seems out of character for me-Jeez, LC< you sound like an actual person that might have a feeling-my father had triple by pass last year, almost lost him. He's just shy of 80 and is in the beginning stages of dementia. My mom is also dealing with serious health issues as is my wife. I'm fortunate to be in great health, but those who mean so much to me aren't, and the hard hitting reality of mortality has opened my eyes to how much we need to let the people close to us know we care because there's going to come a day they won't be here to tell them that anymore, so say it and show it, now.
