Happily married?

[James G 5]

always nice thing to share those feelings with friends. Invite them over. Have a party. Something we both wanted to do. Just started talking about it and did it.

Happens all the time. Friends of ours had lived together 11 years. Good relationship. Got married. didn't mess things up. They felt like they wanted to do it. Had some parties. Invited some friends.

I don't get why you need marriage to have those things tho

 

[lilpriss]

Gee whiz James... he wanted to...

big diff between wanting to and having to...

That's like asking why you had ice cream when you could have just looked at it in the case at the store...

it's a matter of preference.

 

[Amfig]

Gee whiz James... he wanted to...

big diff between wanting to and having to...

That's like asking why you had ice cream when you could have just looked at it in the case at the store...

it's a matter of preference.

What she said. Big difference between wanted to and needed to.

 

[RomanHans]

Shocking revelation...

Marriage does not automatically make you happy!

Roman

 

[creme de'menth]

From what I've seen when two people want to get married there's nothing you can say to stop them. But I do wish more people could know before they do it that just good sex will not do it. Things change between two people over time and if both aren't willing to change it causes terrible walls between the two.

And I think women in general think the begining of a relationship is how things will stay.

NOT

As time moves forward, and kids and laundary and bills things just aren't about the two you you anymore. And sometimes people get lost in what they really want and need.

 

[horatio]

I read somewhere that a woman marries the man she hopes he will become. The marries the woman and hopes she will remain as she is. Marriage is like everything else. You have to adapt daily. Adapt or die.

 

[BirdsWife]

Hubby and I have been very happily married for over 25 years, but the sex has recently gone way up in frequency.

I know what you mean. I've known my hubby twenty-three years, and we've been married for almost nine. He is a wonderful lover and our sex life has always been very good, but since I had our second baby a year ago I am insatiable.

In my twenties I used to scoff when people said that a woman's sexual peak happened in her thirties, wondering how it could possibly get any better than it was. Well, now I know.

I'm only halfway to forty, and at this rate I might just orgasm myself to death before I get there....not that either one of us is complaining!

As far as having a happy marriage, I think it is truly about finding someone whose faults you can live with, since we all have them. For example, hubby leaves his dirty clothes on the bathroom floor after showering and I end up picking them up. Does it bug me? Not really, because I know that if something terrible were to take him away from me I'd be begging God to give me just one more chance to pick up after him.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Amfig]

I know what you mean. I've known my hubby twenty-three years, and we've been married for almost nine. He is a wonderful lover and our sex life has always been very good, but since I had our second baby a year ago I am insatiable.

In my twenties I used to scoff when people said that a woman's sexual peak happened in her thirties, wondering how it could possibly get any better than it was. Well, now I know.

I'm only halfway to forty, and at this rate I might just orgasm myself to death before I get there....not that either one of us is complaining!

As far as having a happy marriage, I think it is truly about finding someone whose faults you can live with, since we all have them. For example, hubby leaves his dirty clothes on the bathroom floor after showering and I end up picking them up. Does it bug me? Not really, because I know that if something terrible were to take him away from me I'd be begging God to give me just one more chance to pick up after him.

Something is not quite right about these numbers. You can't be halfway to forty and past your twenties and have known him for 23 years. No problem with lying about your age, but don't give up a giveaway.

 

[peachykeen]

Something is not quite right about these numbers. You can't be halfway to forty and past your twenties and have known him for 23 years. No problem with lying about your age, but don't give up a giveaway.

I am thinking she meant halfway through her thirties to forty. Don't go looking to pick fights, 'fig, just read more carefully.

 

[kcbigkid]

Hi I have been Married 15 years but Happily only 2 or 3. Yes, I have a failed marriage and you might ask why I stay. It's for the kids. I stay as Its my duty to see them raised . Would it be better to divorce now. I am beginning to think so as I need and crave sensual touch that I am not getting at home. No sex in over 5 years forces me to look outside my marriage. I am not proud of that but thats the cards I have been handed. Congratulations to all of you in a happy marriage for me there is no happiness.

 

[RomanHans]

No shit!!! I've been amazed at how much more orgasmic and generally horny I've become in my 30s. I think if left to my own devices I could probably fuck some poor man to death. Some days i scare myself....

To paraphrase W. C. Fields: Fucked to death by PinkOrchid? Death, where is thy sting?

Roman

 

[BirdsWife]

Something is not quite right about these numbers. You can't be halfway to forty and past your twenties and have known him for 23 years. No problem with lying about your age, but don't give up a giveaway.

And if I were halfway to forty I also wouldn't know about having my sexual peak in my thirties, right?

What I meant was I am only halfway between thirty and forty, i.e. just turned 35 last month. Trust me, you couldn't pay me enough money to be twenty again.

I've known hubby since I was twelve, BTW.

 

[RomanHans]

And if I were halfway to forty I also wouldn't know about having my sexual peak in my thirties, right?

What I meant was I am only halfway between thirty and forty, i.e. just turned 35 last month. Trust me, you couldn't pay me enough money to be twenty again.

I've known hubby since I was twelve, BTW.

Not in the Biblical sense, I hope!

Roman

 

[BirdsWife]

Hi I have been Married 15 years but Happily only 2 or 3. Yes, I have a failed marriage and you might ask why I stay. It's for the kids. I stay as Its my duty to see them raised . Would it be better to divorce now. I am beginning to think so as I need and crave sensual touch that I am not getting at home. No sex in over 5 years forces me to look outside my marriage. I am not proud of that but thats the cards I have been handed. Congratulations to all of you in a happy marriage for me there is no happiness.

As a child whose parents stayed together 'for the kids' may I suggest that you seriously consider divorce?

Kids are not stupid. They can easily sense that mom and dad are not happy, and they can feel a tremendous amount of guilt knowing that you only stick with an unhappy marriage because of them. I think most kids would rather have two happy divorced parents than two miserable married ones. I know I would have.

You also need to think about the lessons you are teaching them by staying married. Will they grow up thinking that they should stay in a failed relationship, no matter what the cost, out of a sense of duty? Are you teaching them that it is acceptable to cheat in a marriage? What about respect, for both yourself and your spouse?

I'm certainly no expert, but I thought you might appreciate the viewpoint of someone who has been there.


BirdsWife

 

[BirdsWife]

Not in the Biblical sense, I hope!

Roman

Uhhhh, no.

He's seven years older than me, so that would have been......ick. I was 18 and he was 25 the first time we dated, and of course my parents flipped out and made me break it off with him. We didn't date again until I was out of college and no longer under mom and dad's thumb.

 

[Amfig]

And if I were halfway to forty I also wouldn't know about having my sexual peak in my thirties, right?

What I meant was I am only halfway between thirty and forty, i.e. just turned 35 last month. Trust me, you couldn't pay me enough money to be twenty again.

I've known hubby since I was twelve, BTW.

No offense meant. I couldn't figure it out. But I'm not the brightest bulb always. Congrats on the b'day. And, by the way, my wife is 6.5 years younger than me. Known her since she was 19. Real happy to be married to her, too.

 

[BirdsWife]

No offense meant. I couldn't figure it out. But I'm not the brightest bulb always. Congrats on the b'day. And, by the way, my wife is 6.5 years younger than me. Known her since she was 19. Real happy to be married to her, too.

No offense taken.

Guess I should have added one of those nifty smiley faces to show I was laughing at my own mistake for leaving out a few words. That's what I get for being online when I'm sleepy.

 

[woody54]

30 years on...

My wife and I have been happily married for just over 30 years. I am 5 years older, she was 17 when we first met and very sexy.
We lived together from 3 months after meeting , for a year before getting married. We married because we wanted to, didn't need to. We have had a good life, good jobs, travelled a lot, didn't have kids for 14 years, we did so much in that time other couples with kids cant do.
We have always worked close or together, we are soulmates.
Sexlife has been good but the last year has been phenomenal, long may it last.
And it keeps getting better.....I may just fuck myself to death though not on purpose.

 

[kcbigkid]

Woody your a very lucky guy. I am not. 15 years of misery...I hope to one day find the joy and happiness that you share with your wife.

 

[watergirl]

My parents were married for almost 25 years, until my dad passed away.

Maybe someday I'll get married. I like the idea of marriage, but the whole wedding thing sounds like a big nightmare of planning and expense and stress and formality.

I just want a big party with my near & dear ones to be happy for me.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[illinois_guy2]

No shit!!! I've been amazed at how much more orgasmic and generally horny I've become in my 30s. I think if left to my own devices I could probably fuck some poor man to death. Some days i scare myself....

Speaking as a man, it sure sounds like a good way to go!

I'd sure like to know the secret of those married people who are so happy. I do care for my wife, but I am so extremely frustrated by the lack of intimacy and sex (not necessarily the same thing) that I wish I never got married to her in the first place. Don't really want to get a divorce, but don't really want to continue things the way they are either.

(I realize that there is much more to love and marriage than sex, but when I person in a marriage feels that they are constantly being rejected, that is a problem)

 

[English Lady]

I think sex is as important asany other aspect of a happy marriage, in my mind it is all about balance. you need to have all bases covered,love, sex,intimacy,thoughtfulness,time etc etc. If one thing is lacking it effects the rest of the relationship.


illinoisguy2 you sound really unhappy and Ican understand why, can you not discuss these things with your wife or is it past that? I wish you all the best for the future,and if all else fails you'e got the good people of lit to help out