Hall pass or open marriage?

[Illinoisguy1980]

Ladies if your man offered you the occasional hall pass or allowed you to have an open marriage would you take him up on it if it was just about sex and the thrill?

 

[HisGreedySlut]

Absolutely.

 

[Illinoisguy1980]

That's strange

I figured I'd get all kinds of answers about this one way or the other

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife accepted the free pass, but only for a couple of times. She still has the free pass but hasn't used it in years.

 

[Illinoisguy1980]

My wife accepted the free pass, but only for a couple of times. She still has the free pass but hasn't used it in years.

How did it work out for you and her?

 

[littleabigail]

I would want a husband that picks how I am to be with.

 

[Illinoisguy1980]

I would want a husband that picks how I am to be with.

Maybe pick out someone together and he could help set the tone or scene or even to help you dress enticing?

 

[LizVegas79]

I like the idea of finding one, or preferably two or three other couples to swap with. Not sure if that counts as a hall pass or open marriage.

The idea of him telling me who he wants me to be with also has some appeal.

I LOVE the idea of telling him who I've picked out for him and then seeing the look in his eyes as he agrees.

But so far, it's all just fantasy.

 

[gtnlynn]

How did it work out for you and her?

It worked great! She had a couple of fun experiences, and I still get to hear all about them. We both get turned on when she tells the stories, but she doesn't want to do it again for some reason.

 

[ASO1988]

Probably not with a new marriage but maybe one that had some time underneath it and both people were looking to keep things alive.

 

[dacoach44]

My dame...

I like the idea of finding one, or preferably two or three other couples to swap with. Not sure if that counts as a hall pass or open marriage.

The idea of him telling me who he wants me to be with also has some appeal.

I LOVE the idea of telling him who I've picked out for him and then seeing the look in his eyes as he agrees.

But so far, it's all just fantasy.

and I are old, not looking for anyone else. She was single for 14 years, got dating out of her system. When we are out, we LOVE to speculate on how she or I would like a certain person. Its all fun. If I were young, I would be dead serious about it. I cant imagine anything more exciting that a wife who allowed the occasional fling, as long as it didnt threaten the marriage. And turn about is always fair play; she gets to have a guy as well.

 

[suckonsimon]

I can answer for my wife. For her, no thank you and no thank you.
She is totally enthralled by sex being an expression of our love for each other, our shared journey in life, our vows. She adores the sexiness of men, including some of her friends, and guys on the tv she crushes on. She teases me about all that. But the fact that I fuck her, I take her to orgasm, we've continued over four decades to find fresh ways to play, she made babies with me, - these things are part of her identity and she loves that hugely.

 

[JackOffer]

I have had two very open marriages (with my late first wife and my current wife) and it has worked out well for me and for both wives. My first did stop having vaginal sex with others when she weny off of the pill to ensure that our kids were mine.

 

[MilkFountain]

Right, that's best

Maybe pick out someone together and he could help set the tone or scene or even to help you dress enticing?

Littleabigail said:"I would want a husband that picks how I am to be with."

These two statements define our marriage. On being swept away by wanting to incorporate my wife into my fantasy life, weathered her resistance, and finally loved her for joining me as co-conspirator in our sexual adventures, always turning to me for guidance.

One question from her has enlightened me above all others (when planning a seduction of an old or new friend):

"What if he wants more?"

(I think she means "I know myself. I am a woman, helpless to refuse any man who wants me so much that he has lost himself in me, and that I am here, naked with him, already compromised.")

(I think) she wants approval for what she might want at that moment; approval for going beyond what I've suggested; my recognition that in such a compromising position a woman is not responsible for her next action, since it is her nature to be overcome by, to flow into, to submit to what the man needs; freedom from responsibility to marriage vows and God (obedience to your husband comes first, as respect for God's mandate that for a woman, obedience to God is through her obedience first to her husband); and my acceptance that once she is in another man's arms, she'll find herself part of his need, his dreams, his charm, and especially his urgency, and that she must answer.

. . . For my part as a man and her husband, I go along with her attraction and mine to a new possible lover for her. It must be someone I like, even admire; some who in his rôle turns on both her and me.

She must be on board . . . in the right mood (oxytocin flooded when she ovulates), feeling free and loved by me, some part of her wanting him and clearly convinced that I not only approve, but am turned on by the coming liaison.

My inevitable answer to her question "What if he wants more" is, "Go with how you feel at the moment, surprise me."

(I do help her bathe, perfume and powder, choose the right clothing, kneel behind her when she goes to the door to let him in, burrow under her skirt to bury my face in her bottom, kissing deeply to release her from all doubt, and then let her welcome him alone, making myself scarce or giving approval and assurance to both during drinks, dinner and the rest of the evening leading up to two becoming three. We have made lifelong friends.)

 

[SquidProQuo]

I'd accept a hall pass or two in a heartbeat. But I know my boyfriend would never share me, so c'est la vie.

 

[screwher]

My wife

My wife and I have what could be called a semi open relationship. She has my full approval to have sex with as many men as she wants.

 

[KimGordon67]

Does the concept of a 'hall pass' imply that you need to get his permission?

 

[Deleted member 1655181]

I like the idea of finding one, or preferably two or three other couples to swap with. Not sure if that counts as a hall pass or open marriage.

The idea of him telling me who he wants me to be with also has some appeal.

I LOVE the idea of telling him who I've picked out for him and then seeing the look in his eyes as he agrees.

But so far, it's all just fantasy.

Wife and I fantasize about others joining us, but so far haven't acted on it. The mutual fantasies are fun!

 

[Dreamer110]

I'd have to say my wife has a hall pass and she has taken advantage of it.

 

[Sam2125]

my wife and I give each other passes all the time.. it works well

 

[ReadyOne]

I actually carried a "hall pass" for a long time. The card said something like:

"If my partner thinks enough of you to show you this card, you two have my complete blessings to do whatever whenever you wish."

It was signed by my spouse, and I did the same for her's. Eventually I put a picture on the back of us together displaying our hall passes for the camera.

Turns out I never presented it to try and make a deal. Courtship worked fine.

If the lady was hesitant because I was married, she would talk to my SO just to understand the situation before she took the plunge with me.

 

[mikendel]

I have had a Hall Pass for a long time now. I have met a man and called hubby and told him that I met someone. Sometimes bring him home and hubby loves to watch and others have sex at the guys place.

 

[Taliane]

I would definitely take a hall pass with the understanding that it is strictly sex without any emotional attachment

 

[scott6251]

I would definitely take a hall pass with the understanding that it is strictly sex without any emotional attachment

I am slowly working with my wife toward that for her.
She's interested, but reluctant.

 

[screwher]

As I type this my wife is taking full advantage of our semi open relationship. She's at her boyfriends getting laid right now!