Guess I'm Bi?

[EclipseNight]

I always considered myself lesbian, once in a blue moon I'll maybe get a silght crush on a guy. Not often, and usually never a crush. Well my step father came by, and after a year of planning on how to seduce him - I took my chance and seduced him.

He's the only guy who has my attention, who I will fuck until futher more say, and the 1s guy I had in 6 years. So, I'm Bi? Or maybe Pansexual?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Homoflexible. The one dude for the one reason, and that reasons doesn't fly with any other dude.

Basically, you're still a lesbian, though.

 

[Nightierub]

Kinda like a vegetarian having a one time steak?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Kinda like a vegetarian having a one time steak?

On a tangent, but I never understood my vegetarian friend when they would have to have a hamburger. Why eat crap meat on that one time, why not eat something with some quality?

 

[Nightierub]

I don't get that either? If I was a vegetarian and wanted some meat I would go for say, steak or lamb, something pricey!

 

[bad_dave]

I know loads of veggies who eat a specific lower quality meat i.e. pepperoni or bacon. Must be a common thing among the veggies.

 

[richfun]

EclipseNight.

Best wishes.
Wouldn't it be great if we scrap the words hetero, gay, lesbian bi etc.
You are you, and that is fine, no more than fine. Unique as we all are and that is great.

 

[Stella_Omega]

EclipseNight.

Best wishes.
Wouldn't it be great if we scrap the words hetero, gay, lesbian bi etc.
You are you, and that is fine, no more than fine. Unique as we all are and that is great.

You scrap the word "hetero" and it gets replaced with the word "MORAL," "NORMAL," "MAJORITY"

You scrap the word Gay, and it will bereplaced with words like "SINNER," "FAGGOT," "PERVERT."

You scrap the word Lesbian and it will be replaced with "BITCH" "FEMINAZI" "DRY CUNT."

You scrap the word "bi" and every single bisexual will be called "CONFUSED" "FENCE SITTER" "LIAR."

So, no. Either we choose the labels we use or someone else labels us.

 

[PricelessT]

I know loads of veggies who eat a specific lower quality meat i.e. pepperoni or bacon. Must be a common thing among the veggies.

Not really. I'm vegetarian, and most vegetarians don't consider any type of meat-eating to still be vegetarian. In some dictionaries, the term "vegetarian" is defined as including fish, however, and some people who only eat fish in addition to plant-based foods or other white meat call themselves vegetarians. With regard to fish, this is because fish may or may not be considered meat to some people, and in some sources.

People who only eat fish in addition to plant-based foods are referred to as pescetarians in some sources.

 

[richfun]

You scrap the word "hetero" and it gets replaced with the word "MORAL," "NORMAL," "MAJORITY"

You scrap the word Gay, and it will bereplaced with words like "SINNER," "FAGGOT," "PERVERT."

You scrap the word Lesbian and it will be replaced with "BITCH" "FEMINAZI" "DRY CUNT."

You scrap the word "bi" and every single bisexual will be called "CONFUSED" "FENCE SITTER" "LIAR."

So, no. Either we choose the labels we use or someone else labels us.

Good point well made, but we are more than a label don't you think ?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Good point well made, but we are more than a label don't you think ?

We are more than one label, anyway. Each label tells something about us, and there are hundreds of things to be told.
Humans are the speechifying animal, the animal that names things.

Don't try to solve the problem of labels by denying they exist. That's a doomed effort. If one-word description seems too limiting-- and it is, it sure is-- add more words. Tell your story. That's something us Homo Sapiens do.

 

[Little Bird]

Labeling is important. All the trouble I went through only to find if there are words to identify people like me.
Not that you find a lot of people who would use the term intergender and with androgyne and androgynous you never have a clue what specific thing it is supposred to refer to in any given case, but there is an instinctive need to know.
It doesn't even have to be in the way of "Can I still do this as an X?" or "Do I now have to do Y?". I followed clues to countless directions and discarded those terms that didn't fit what I felt about myself. But I needed to get something.
The human mind can not be happy with "I am something unlike any other person that nobody had seen before".

And I think especially when you're new to dealing with the feelings and still not exactly sure if you have it all figured out, you want to know what people in similar situations are thinking about it. Figuring yourself out it all about asking yourself the right questions and it helps if people can tell you some of the questions that might help you to get a better picture of your own feelings.
And for that you need a search term. "Inverse of tomboy" won't get you anything.
"Pansexual intergender persons" would probably be the people who care the least about categories. But there's still a need to have some lables, even if there are maybe just 200 people who ever heard them.

But when it comes to "Am I this, or am I that?", the only useful thing is to wait and see what happenes. If it goes away, it was probably just a coincidence that just happened once. If it stays, then just change the label when you think it fits better.

 

[Allyourbase]

Labeling is important. All the trouble I went through only to find if there are words to identify people like me.
Not that you find a lot of people who would use the term intergender and with androgyne and androgynous you never have a clue what specific thing it is supposred to refer to in any given case, but there is an instinctive need to know.
It doesn't even have to be in the way of "Can I still do this as an X?" or "Do I now have to do Y?". I followed clues to countless directions and discarded those terms that didn't fit what I felt about myself. But I needed to get something.
The human mind can not be happy with "I am something unlike any other person that nobody had seen before".

And I think especially when you're new to dealing with the feelings and still not exactly sure if you have it all figured out, you want to know what people in similar situations are thinking about it. Figuring yourself out it all about asking yourself the right questions and it helps if people can tell you some of the questions that might help you to get a better picture of your own feelings.
And for that you need a search term. "Inverse of tomboy" won't get you anything.
"Pansexual intergender persons" would probably be the people who care the least about categories. But there's still a need to have some lables, even if there are maybe just 200 people who ever heard them.

But when it comes to "Am I this, or am I that?", the only useful thing is to wait and see what happenes. If it goes away, it was probably just a coincidence that just happened once. If it stays, then just change the label when you think it fits better.

This. Man, yes, this.

If a label gives me the opportunity to find one or two of those 200 people who feel somewhat like I do, at least it's possible to breathe a little. Damn.

And I like 'inverse of tomboy'. Very recognizable also - I googled my ass off when the whole genderqueer thing started happening full force for me. And I did exactly the same: if I'm X, can I still do Y? If I identify as Z, will others who identify like that think it fits me, or do I lack the right kind of attitude, experience, whatever?

My partner repeatedly said that I shouldn't bother with the labels, because they're imperfect, and just a new way to create rules and restrictions and put yourself in a box. But I keep telling him basically what Stella's said here too. If I don't look for or create labels I'm happy to have, the rest of the world will. And if they got what I was about, then I wouldn't be searching to make my own labels to begin with.

So I'd say: if you're fine with bisexual, or lesbian, or homoflexible or anything that describes how you experience your sexuality, go for it. It's your sexuality.

 

[blade_rocknut]

On a tangent, but I never understood my vegetarian friend when they would have to have a hamburger. Why eat crap meat on that one time, why not eat something with some quality?

Simple. Guilty, naughty pleasure.

Liken it to the guy that steps out on his pretty, sensible, wonderful wife for a cheap hooker.



As for the label thing? Necessary evil. I like to think of them as adjectives though...not necessarily steadfast definitions of self.

 

[mac_crazy]

We are more than one label, anyway. Each label tells something about us, and there are hundreds of things to be told.
Humans are the speechifying animal, the animal that names things.

Don't try to solve the problem of labels by denying they exist. That's a doomed effort. If one-word description seems too limiting-- and it is, it sure is-- add more words. Tell your story. That's something us Homo Sapiens do.

Fantastic. I love reading your posts, S_O. Very well said.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Simple. Guilty, naughty pleasure.

Liken it to the guy that steps out on his pretty, sensible, wonderful wife for a cheap hooker.



As for the label thing? Necessary evil. I like to think of them as adjectives though...not necessarily steadfast definitions of self.

Such an important point! I'm going to add it to my 'labels' rant, Blade.

 

[jupija]

Vegetarian Pescatarian Analogies

I don't think it is quite fair to the environment to equate sexual preferences with food preferences as tempting as that might be. Consensus here is that sex between consulting adults is typically OK, fine, healthy, perhaps great.

But with the oceans over-fished and in harms way, fish are no longer a limitless resource, as they might have been with a vastly smaller population of humans. Between destructive fishing practices, run-off, waste, ocean acidification and extermination of keystone species such as sharks. it's not OK to think of fish as vegetables. They do not grow by absorbing sunlight and they do have forms of reproduction.

As for meat - eating, there is a pretty serious environmental impact as well as personal impact from growing and transporting beef, etc., and ingesting all kinds of toxins.

 

[Loverskitten]

Ok, NOTE, I don't spent time in here because I'm straight but was attracted to the "I'm single" post because I'm eternally single... Anyway...

Am I the only one more bothered by the fact that it was her step father she slept with more than a the fact that a lesbian slept with a man? Maybe I'm weird *slinks back to BDSM room*

 

[blade_rocknut]

I don't think it is quite fair to the environment to equate sexual preferences with food preferences as tempting as that might be. Consensus here is that sex between consulting adults is typically OK, fine, healthy, perhaps great.

But with the oceans over-fished and in harms way, fish are no longer a limitless resource, as they might have been with a vastly smaller population of humans. Between destructive fishing practices, run-off, waste, ocean acidification and extermination of keystone species such as sharks. it's not OK to think of fish as vegetables. They do not grow by absorbing sunlight and they do have forms of reproduction.

As for meat - eating, there is a pretty serious environmental impact as well as personal impact from growing and transporting beef, etc., and ingesting all kinds of toxins.

Good to know.

Meat eating is indeed terribly damaging. I cut cut my gum with dental floss just last night whilst dislodging an offensive fiber of delicious pork after consuming baby back ribs that I'd slow smoked; further widening the carbon footprint of the act.

I'll go flog myself now.

 

[PricelessT]

Am I the only one more bothered by the fact that it was her step father she slept with more than a the fact that a lesbian slept with a man? Maybe I'm weird *slinks back to BDSM room*

LOL!! I didn't even notice that she stated that it was her stepfather she was crushing on.

 

[Etoile]

Am I the only one more bothered by the fact that it was her step father she slept with more than a the fact that a lesbian slept with a man? Maybe I'm weird *slinks back to BDSM room*

That was what I noticed as well.

 

[Noor]

That was what I noticed as well.

I found the year long pre-mediation very noticeable too...

 

[Stella_Omega]

I found the year long pre-mediation very noticeable too...

Well, you don't want to just rush into incest. Or pseudo-incest for that matter. I guess?