Growing up Bi?

[AllenJames]

It took me a long time to grasp the idea that bi was an option. I wasn’t the top alpha draw for girls in high school (though I’d learned enough to get compliments on my skills when I got a chance to share them with some of the girls I liked). But I already understood that gays existed which confused me when I found myself curious about boys and even attracted to some. I actually avoided situations that I feared might test me on that and as a result probably missed out on more than one circle jerk. I actually met openly gay fellow students in college but again held back and none of them were enough of an attraction to draw me out and risk exposure and I apparently didn’t register on their gaydar except for the anonymous guy in the library who copped a feel as he squeezed past in the library. I was with my girlfriend that time and fled - if I had been alone I wonder if it might have been different. By the time I was out in the working world I began to grasp the understanding that I could be with the right girl or the right guy, though the timing never worked out for a relationship with a guy.

 

[Biguy934]

It took me a long time to grasp the idea that bi was an option. I wasn’t the top alpha draw for girls in high school (though I’d learned enough to get compliments on my skills when I got a chance to share them with some of the girls I liked). But I already understood that gays existed which confused me when I found myself curious about boys and even attracted to some. I actually avoided situations that I feared might test me on that and as a result probably missed out on more than one circle jerk. I actually met openly gay fellow students in college but again held back and none of them were enough of an attraction to draw me out and risk exposure and I apparently didn’t register on their gaydar except for the anonymous guy in the library who copped a feel as he squeezed past in the library. I was with my girlfriend that time and fled - if I had been alone I wonder if it might have been different. By the time I was out in the working world I began to grasp the understanding that I could be with the right girl or the right guy, though the timing never worked out for a relationship with a guy.

I'm right there with you. I also feel that the type of guy I'm attracted to is the big smooth muscular alpha guy who are hard to find and I want to kiss and be treated nice not be dominated.

 

[AllenJames]

I'm right there with you. I also feel that the type of guy I'm attracted to is the big smooth muscular alpha guy who are hard to find and I want to kiss and be treated nice not be dominated.

I agree with you on type and I can be submissive - in the bedroom so to speak, I don't recommend trying it elsewhere just because I seem easygoing as I have a long history of trouble with authority figures.

 

[P0peye]

Speaking as someone who, at a young age, eagerly served as my best friend Larry's enthusiastic and devoted, personal cocksucker for a number of years, giving him daily blowjobs, whenever he wanted one, and frequently sucking his cock 2 or more times that same day!!! It was strictly a one way arrangement and I never wanted it to be any different. He was my superior and I had do do whatever he told me to do! I would unquestioningly drop to my knees, at a moments notice, to take his cock into my mouth, and let him roughly fuck my throat, while the question of reciprocation was never even considered. I was a Cocksucker and he wasn't.
I grew up knowing that I was sexually attracted to both boys and girls. But while I was both physically and emotionally attracted to girls, my only goal regarding other males was to be their Cocksucker, albeit insatiably.

 

[Britva415]

My longest relationship besides my wife was with a man.

Was there a question here or… ?

 

[AllenJames]

My longest relationship besides my wife was with a man.

Was there a question here or… ?

Yes and no, but I’m hearing that I’m neither alone or unusual on a good day to hear that

 

[nottee_1]

I knew I was bi at an early age.. In fact, I was with females sexually before I was devirginized by a male.. And when I knew I liked having sex with both genders, it was game on,

I've seen threads talking about those who only discover they're bi at an older age in life..
Whereas, I'm the opposite; The older I get, the more hetero I am...

 

[Biguy77578]

Well I was bi before I knew there was such a thing. I grew up in what I call a horny neighborhood. Sex was just fun. I had sex with males before sex with females. Once I has sex with a female I was hooked but never lost the urge for sex with males and if the opportunity presented itself I would take it. I'm 74 now in my second marriage and love my wife very much but still love sex with males and females still and never miss an opportunity with either.

 

[AllenJames]

I knew I was bi at an early age.. In fact, I was with females sexually before I was devirginized by a male.. And when I knew I liked having sex with both genders, it was game on,

I've seen threads talking about those who only discover they're bi at an older age in life..
Whereas, I'm the opposite; The older I get, the more hetero I am...

I knew early on that I could be attracted to males though I confess that the out Gays I met first at university and later in life made females appear to be the far easier sex to understand. I had no idea how to identify and meet up with anyone who was Bi unless they had figured it out and clued me in - which they didn't do.

 

[liliput1]

There was a time where bi people got a lot of horizontal aggression from the LGBT community about being wishy washy and not 'picking a side'. I suspect the reason one of my circle of friends, and the oldest by far, is mostly bi women and their partners is in part out of solidarity and less to do with permissiveness (easier to experiment if all your friends are already out).

For a group of people so allergic to being invalidated, they haven't always had the courage of their convictions.

Younger generations are much, much better about this now, and 'pan' seems to fit some people just as well if not better. Especially if your attractions are substantially emotional in nature rather than mostly physical.

 

[nottee_1]

I've yet to be in a relationship with a female I was having sex with..

My sexual experiences with females were always one time fling with strangers.

The exception being... My BFF when I was in HS. Later on we ended up at a party, and she was part of my devirginizing..(her boyfriend was the 3rd party)

 

[AllenJames]

I've yet to be in a relationship with a female I was having sex with..

My sexual experiences with females were always one time fling with strangers.

The exception being... My BFF when I was in HS. Later on we ended up at a party, and she was part of my devirginizing..(her boyfriend was the 3rd party)

I have fantasies about such moments, increasingly including mm as well as mf play.

 

[AllenJames]

There was a time where bi people got a lot of horizontal aggression from the LGBT community about being wishy washy and not 'picking a side'. I suspect the reason one of my circle of friends, and the oldest by far, is mostly bi women and their partners is in part out of solidarity and less to do with permissiveness (easier to experiment if all your friends are already out).

For a group of people so allergic to being invalidated, they haven't always had the courage of their convictions.

Younger generations are much, much better about this now, and 'pan' seems to fit some people just as well if not better. Especially if your attractions are substantially emotional in nature rather than mostly physical.

I’ve spent a good bit of time over the years working out the connections and gals between physical attraction and emotional attraction - it can be a bit complicated. I’m pretty sure that some the guys I kept at a distance were guys I was physically attracted to.

 

[Greekguy1963]

I have fantasies about such moments, increasingly including mm as well as mf play.

Yes!!

 

[TheIntrepidBoyager]

Speaking as someone who, at a young age, eagerly served as my best friend Larry's enthusiastic and devoted, personal cocksucker for a number of years, giving him daily blowjobs, whenever he wanted one, and frequently sucking his cock 2 or more times that same day!!! It was strictly a one way arrangement and I never wanted it to be any different. He was my superior and I had do do whatever he told me to do! I would unquestioningly drop to my knees, at a moments notice, to take his cock into my mouth, and let him roughly fuck my throat, while the question of reciprocation was never even considered. I was a Cocksucker and he wasn't.
I grew up knowing that I was sexually attracted to both boys and girls. But while I was both physically and emotionally attracted to girls, my only goal regarding other males was to be their Cocksucker, albeit insatiably.

This is similar to me although I was quite that on-demand. Not far from it though. My best friend growing up was three years older than me and it's impossible to count how many orgasms I provided him in various manners. He never reciprocated but would encourage me to finish myself after I was done with him. I had been masturbating and pleasing him for years before I lost my virginity to a girl.

 

[Britva415]

There was a time where bi people got a lot of horizontal aggression from the LGBT community about being wishy washy and not 'picking a side'.

I have never been shy about responding to that shit with something like “Well, you’ve picked a side, haven’t you.”

 

[BiGuy_64]

I thought I was weird in jr high when I liked both boys and girls. I only knew of gay and lesbians. Didn’t know until I was out of high school that there was the bi option.

 

[AllenJames]

I thought I was weird in jr high when I liked both boys and girls. I only knew of gay and lesbians. Didn’t know until I was out of high school that there was the bi option.

Yes, I think I was in college meeting at least gays for the first time that I began to understand I wasn’t personally locked in one either or but could go either way depending upon the person. Straight was a choice for me for a long time but I also wasn’t shocked by anyone else’s choices.