Grovelling

[nusubgurl]

Need to make some serious amends to a Dom, whom i (very unintentionally) got on the wrong side of...

Can anyone find me some seriously humble and humiliated pics of a sub girl grovelling??

Tainted?? Help me out here...14,000 images.. there's gotta be ONE...

 

[tealsphynx]

If you've got a webcam, or even better a digital camera you could take pics of yourself in your most submissive poses. To me, as a Dom that would mean more as an appology than pictures of some random subs off the net. Perhapse even a verbal appology (none of that You're god, I'm scum. crap, that's so superficial...an honest appology)

 

[nusubgurl]

If you've got a webcam, or even better a digital camera you could take pics of yourself in your most submissive poses. To me, as a Dom that would mean more as an appology than pictures of some random subs off the net. Perhapse even a verbal appology (none of that You're god, I'm scum. crap, that's so superficial...an honest appology)

Uhm...it's the web cam that got me in trouble...and the note of apology, and the IM, and the phone call...have all fallen on deaf ears.

Has been two weeks..and cannot get this man outta my mind.

I know i should let this go (see the sig??), but...

 

[tealsphynx]

Sorry to hear.

 

[TaintedB]

Here you go:

 

[Kajira Callista]

Uhm...it's the web cam that got me in trouble...and the note of apology, and the IM, and the phone call...have all fallen on deaf ears.

Has been two weeks..and cannot get this man outta my mind.

I know i should let this go (see the sig??), but...

im betting that by continuing ,you are only gonna make it longer til he responds.....unless thats what you are wanting?

 

[Jay Davis]

If it were me, at this point, I'd be saying, "Fuck 'im."

Here's the one thing anyone who enters a relationship with me needs to know, and I tell them going in...when you tell me something, I take you at your word. If you say don't talk to me for a week, that's what you get...seven days without hearing my voice. If you say never call me again, that's what you get...me no longer in your life.

I'll do just about anything for someone I love except try to read Her mind.* If you make it clear to me you don't want me around, I'll oblige you by not being around.

If this is a test of your devotion and loyalty, it's crap and it's cruel, and you shouldn't be devoting yourself to someone who'd treat you this way. If it's a dismissal, feel free to be mad at him for not having the guts to send you away, but otherwise, move on. Either way, you should stop grovelling to this person, because the BEST interpretation of his actions is that he's no longer interested in you.

If you want to play it safe, and keep the door open just in case there is really something beyond his control keeping him from replying, send him one more letter. The letter should be polite and respectful, but not obsequious, and should explain that you have tried to contact him repeatedly for quite some time. Since he has not responded, you can only conclude that he either doesn't want to communicate further, or can't for some reason. In the former case, you'll stop bothering him; in the latter case, you hope he's alright, offer to help if you can, and otherwise tell him you'll wait for him to contact you again.

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*"Trying to read Her mind" and "trying to anticipate Her needs" are two different things, btw. Anticipating Her needs is a GOOD thing for both of us, and allows me to demonstrate my commitment, devotion, and attention to Her. Reading Her mind in an unfamiliar situation, on the other hand, is impossible, and it is unreasonable for a Dominant to expect it. Punishment for not doing what was expected, when you have NO IDEA what that would have been, is not D/s, it's abuse. Up with that, we shall not put.

Remember, no matter how commanding your Dominant may seem, the sub always has the ultimate control...you can walk away. They rule us by consent, not by divine right.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Need to make some serious amends to a Dom, whom i (very unintentionally) got on the wrong side of...

Can anyone find me some seriously humble and humiliated pics of a sub girl grovelling??

Tainted?? Help me out here...14,000 images.. there's gotta be ONE...

uhmmm just a little question to clarify something. Is this "a" dom or "your" dom? I read it as a dom and im wondering if i misunderstood?

 

[nusubgurl]

uhmmm just a little question to clarify something. Is this "a" dom or "your" dom? I read it as a dom and im wondering if i misunderstood?

No, you read it correctly.

But, for the first time, i thought i had connected with someone where a well balanced RT relationship was possible. We had discussed meeting in person.

And I think i have to take JD's advice very good advice...let this one go. Damn.

Damn, Damn, Damn.

Thank you Tainted, for the beautiful pictures...each one is worth a thousand words. They show how i feel.

Sorry for the downer post... you may now return to your regular merry and kinky programming.

 

[Jay Davis]

It really sucks when you think you've found a genuine potential complement for yourself, and it doesn't work out. But one thing I've figured out over the past couple of decades--long before I recognized my D/s inclinations--is that you're better off in NO relationship than in a BAD one. Biding time in a substandard relationship means that if the real right person came along, you'd have to disentangle yourself from Ms/Mr Wrong before you could get involved with Ms/Mr Right. So, by definition, when you're unattached, you're always one step closer to a healthy relationship than when you're in an unhappy or unhealthy one.

 

[FurryFury]

No, you read it correctly.

But, for the first time, i thought i had connected with someone where a well balanced RT relationship was possible. We had discussed meeting in person.

And I think i have to take JD's advice very good advice...let this one go. Damn.

Damn, Damn, Damn.

Thank you Tainted, for the beautiful pictures...each one is worth a thousand words. They show how i feel.

Sorry for the downer post... you may now return to your regular merry and kinky programming.

I don't know what you think you did but I do know how it feels when someone who made you feel happy and hopeful is suddenly gone.

It really, really hurts.

*hugs*

I feel for you.

Fury

 

[nusubgurl]

Another Dom, another fuck up...

only this time, i did something right and i feel really bad about it...

He was hot...and talked the talk...but all He wanted to discuss were the rules and punishments...

That felt really icky...and scary...real red flags.

i kinda opened the conversation to mention that IMNSHO, a Dom didn't need a reason to get down on His pyl.**** is fun...to see if that lightened him up, in case he just really need a very deliberate statement of my consent that he could indulge His sadistic side on me..

But He kept draggin it back to me breaking the rules and being punished...and it was creepy...

So why do i feel bad?? Because i am programmed to never say No to man..Dom or otherwise...but i removed myself from this "encounter"...

i feel like i took good care of myself ( a new behavior ) and for once put my needs and well being first, but somehow in there is this feeling i did a bad thing by not giving a man what he wanted.

So...

is it my imagination or is BDSM matchmaking about a zillion times harder than vanilla??

just venting and musing...

 

[TaintedB]

only this time, i did something right and i feel really bad about it...

is it my imagination or is BDSM matchmaking about a zillion times herder than vanilla??

just venting and musing...

It's sure not your imagination. :/ Part of the problem is that the group of partners you have to choose from to try to find someone who is compatible with you is so much smaller than it is in vanilla life, so it takes a lot longer to meet a good match. Another part of the problem is that in the group of people attracted to bdsm because of its online popularization, there is a large percentage of flakes, weirdos, conflicted, confused, just-looking, into it for all the wrong reasons, etc's. You found one of those, it seems. Good for you for saying "no thanks" to that. You wouldn't have been able to serve a person with that sort of limited understanding in the full way you want to, so good riddance. Anyway, all of these other types of people who say they are into bdsm but aren't really also narrow the group of potential partners even more. So it can take a very long time to find someone right for you. A girlfriend of mine thinks she's found the right master for her, and I am tentatively hopeful she is right. How long did it take her? Oh, about five years. I don't think it's always that bad (she was unusual and needed someone very special) but it can be.

 

[Kierae]

Always go with your gut instinct! Your gut was giving you red flags for a reason. I understand that as a sub you feel you shouldn't refuse giving a Dom whatever he wants - but that is a gift you are giving that shouldn't be done so freely. Trust is earned - it works both directions.

Honestly it is much easier to have a one night stand with a random guy/girl than it is to find someone you trust enough to submit to.