grinning idiot

[bunny bondage]

ok, here's the back story. He and i were playing around in His bedroom and i playfully flung myself at His lap and begged him to let me suck His cock. flinging me back, He was suddenly serious and said "no! no cock for you, little girl." i was so thrilled that while i knew i was supposed to be getting "in role" i just couldn't help but sit there and grin like an idiot.

so anyway, He was quick to "wipe that smile off my face" but i was wondering if this happens to anyone else. i just feel like such a dork when this happens and well, if i knew some of you were dorks too, i'd feel better.

 

[zanna]

i do know...in a bit of a different tale...if that still counts.

When my PMDD hits, He tends to give me space (which i need) and leave me alone. i started feeling better today, and did not realize how much i had missed the physical D/s interaction until He suddenly grabbed my hair and pulled me really hard against Him, then slapped me about 4 times. i felt everything in my body relax like i had suddenly come home. It was good, it was natural. It was wonderful. i started to laugh from pure happiness, feeling reconnected with Him. i think He understood my reaction. He smiled evilly at me, spun me around and wrenched my arms hard and up behind my back until it hurt. i won't repeat what He said in my ear lol.

i was aroused no doubt and my body responded immediately in its usual way, but i was laughing and smiling like an idiot at the same time.

zanna

 

[bunny bondage]

aww, that's very sweet, zanna! but what is PMDD?

 

[Quint]

And I wanna know what he said!

This has happened before, although thankfully I've only been caught a few times--but the thing is, sometimes I just start laughing hysterically because I'm so totally gone after an intense mindfuck that all I can do is laugh. It's not disrespectful or irreverent or lighthearted at all; it's just gone. That he doesn't punish me for. He IS quick to come down on any instance where he doesn't think I'm taking him seriously enough.

But I couldn't keep from cracking up at this story. It's too funny. (I'll definitely follow your example and recover quickly if that happens to me, though!)

 

[T.J. Jackson]

And here I was thinking you were going to talk about my AV.



Nice stories.

 

[T.J. Jackson]

BTW, it's an old baby picture of mine, aren't I cute?

 

[Shadowsdream]

BTW, it's an old baby picture of mine, aren't I cute?

Actually I am really enjoying that av...it makes Me laugh everytime I see You..and I hope You never grow up!
Now I am waiting patiently for all the confessions to come from the resident dorks!

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

ok, here's the back story. He and i were playing around in His bedroom and i playfully flung myself at His lap and begged him to let me suck His cock. flinging me back, He was suddenly serious and said "no! no cock for you, little girl." i was so thrilled that while i knew i was supposed to be getting "in role" i just couldn't help but sit there and grin like an idiot.

so anyway, He was quick to "wipe that smile off my face" but i was wondering if this happens to anyone else. i just feel like such a dork when this happens and well, if i knew some of you were dorks too, i'd feel better.

I've actually discussed this very thing with someone the other day...specifically mentioning you, in fact. Your 'grinning idiot' attitude comes through in your posts, you know? Alot of people seem too serious or pent up, and your enthusiasm is refreshing. I sometimes go though the same thing, from the Dom side of it. Sometimes, I just stop and think "Oh jeez, this is so damned neat!" and start laughing.

 

[T.J. Jackson]

Actually I am really enjoying that av...it makes Me laugh everytime I see You..and I hope You never grow up!
Now I am waiting patiently for all the confessions to come from the resident dorks!

I'll never grow up.

What makes you think I am not a resident dork?

I'm glad it makes you laugh. I think it is cute too. btw, it's not really me, I had to be honest.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

An ex of mine, the person who introduced me to BDSM, used to tease me and call me the Dork Queen (a take-off on the Borg Queen from Star Trek *sigh*). I would, of course, come back at him with..."resistance is futile" LMAO!!

~anelize

 

[Quint]

Re: Re: grinning idiot

I've actually discussed this very thing with someone the other day...specifically mentioning you, in fact. Your 'grinning idiot' attitude comes through in your posts, you know? Alot of people seem too serious or pent up, and your enthusiasm is refreshing. I sometimes go though the same thing, from the Dom side of it. Sometimes, I just stop and think "Oh jeez, this is so damned neat!" and start laughing.

You lucky Doms. T does the same thing--he'll just start this insane, triumphant laughter that absolutely shatters my mind, and that only makes him laugh harder. He gets rather pleased with himself on occasion...can't for the life of me figure out why...

And I'm with you on the enthusiasm thing. Why the hell do I keep sharing overly-personal info? It was fun and I'm all bouncy thinking about it and wanna do it again!

 

[Astro]

Re: Re: grinning idiot

Sometimes, I just stop and think "Oh jeez, this is so damned neat!" and start laughing.

So this happens to others when we are meant to be 'in-role'

Tried hard not to let my sudden, what, light-heart, spoil anything, difficult sometimes.

 

[zanna]

bunny bondage but what is PMDD?

Is it okay to post something here that may be off topic or maybe it would be better to tell you in a pm or something? Maybe just post a link? What is the best way? Not too familiar with the "rules" of the Board yet.

Quint This has happened before, although thankfully I've only been caught a few times--but the thing is, sometimes I just start laughing hysterically because I'm so totally gone after an intense mindfuck that all I can do is laugh. It's not disrespectful or irreverent or lighthearted at all; it's just gone.

This happens to me quite frequently with certain situations but on a repeated basis....such as for years i had a problem with oral sex on me. i could enjoy it but not really get into it...and an orgasm was out of the question. Recently that all changed...now there is an orgasm every time and it is so intense, all i can do is lie there and laugh hard afterwards. It is a mental after release "release" i guess. Glad to know i am not alone in this. It is not that i do not take Him seriously or that i am not focused in that moment on Him. It just is. i mean no disrespect either.

Much in our relationship *is* lighthearted. i am a bit of tease...well no not a bit...i am a tease. But He has let it be known that He likes me that way and our verbal (and sometimes) physical sparring. i do not consider that disrespectful since He enjoys it and approves of it. If He did not, it would be very hard, but i would not do it. He does not demand that i always and instantly be serious. i have learned though when He gets that certain look on His face that He is not playing and i better be snapping to it immediately. i have learned the difference through trial and error (or perhaps more aptly, lol my butt has)

i hope all that made sense.

zanna, a dork

 

[Quint]

zanna, you obviously ARE new here if you fear a little bit of off-topic fluffiness! It's only recently that the majorities of posts are on-topic and not TOO concentrated on flirty silliness. In other words, any time someone asks a tangential question in a post, feel free to answer it however would be comfortable for you. I personally was also wondering the same question that bunny asked, so if you wouldn't mind giving us the abridged answer in this thread that would be terrific.

(and since I've done such a poor job of welcoming in the new crowd, hi! Welcome to the board and wot all!)

 

[ChemE_student]

Much in our relationship *is* lighthearted. i am a bit of tease...well no not a bit...i am a tease. But He has let it be known that He likes me that way and our verbal (and sometimes) physical sparring. i do not consider that disrespectful since He enjoys it and approves of it. If He did not, it would be very hard, but i would not do it. He does not demand that i always and instantly be serious. i have learned though when He gets that certain look on His face that He is not playing and i better be snapping to it immediately. i have learned the difference through trial and error (or perhaps more aptly, lol my butt has)

zanna, a dork

I'm so glad to hear this, zanna. It's nice to know there are people out there in D/s relationships who have this kind of interaction, because that's the way I want things to be. I just kind of assumed that it wouldn't be tolerated. I hope I get to experience this some day.

 

[Quint]

ChemE,

I made the mistake early on of assuming that there was a role I had to fit into or else I wouldn't really be a submissive, not accepted into the Scooby Gang, or some equally dire fate. So I tried molding my desires and personality into that "perfect sub" role and I tried getting my dominant T to do the same, totally disregarding what made us work as a couple.

That's all you have to worry about: you as a couple. If someone tells you that means you aren't a "good" submissive or not even a submissive at all, then shrug and say "but I'm me and that works."

It's not all about the formality of the dance. Sometimes you get klutzes like me. I like to think I'm spicing up the dance floor when I trip all over myself and make a scene.

 

[redelicious]

And I wanna know what he said!

This has happened before, although thankfully I've only been caught a few times--but the thing is, sometimes I just start laughing hysterically because I'm so totally gone after an intense mindfuck that all I can do is laugh. It's not disrespectful or irreverent or lighthearted at all; it's just gone. That he doesn't punish me for. He IS quick to come down on any instance where he doesn't think I'm taking him seriously enough.

But I couldn't keep from cracking up at this story. It's too funny. (I'll definitely follow your example and recover quickly if that happens to me, though!)

Boy, this happens to me too, especially after an intense orgasm. Oddly, it also happens when I am experiencing intense pain. I think it's a product of sheer energy release.

 

[bunny bondage]

yeah, when i get hurt seriously (like lots of blood or broken bones) then i get giddy and can't stop laughing.

as for my light-hearted enthusiasm, i'd just like to say thanks for noticing!

 

[zanna]

bunny bondage aww, that's very sweet, zanna! but what is PMDD?

Quint I personally was also wondering the same question that bunny asked, so if you wouldn't mind giving us the abridged answer in this thread that would be terrific.

Sorry i did not answer this sooner -- was not intentionally being rude...my oldest had a minor surgery and i have been taking care of her. my apologies.

the abridged version...PMDD is a severe form of PMS. PMDD stands for Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder and is caused by rapid serotonin level changes. Most people roll their eyes at this point and say oh so what you are saying is you have PMS. No. It is worse than PMS. 12 days out of every month, i become someone i do not know, can not control and i barely function at all. i lose interest in everything and everyone. It is scary and miserable. i have had PMS most of my adult life. This is totally different. lol i wish i had PMS...that would be a cake walk now!

From the web:
PMDD stands for Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder. It is the acronym for the more severe form of PMS (Premenstrual Syndrome). Like PMS, PMDD occurs the week before the onset of menstruation and disappears a few days after. PMDD is characterized by severe monthly mood swings and physical symptoms that interfere with everyday life, especially a woman’s relationships with her family and friends. PMDD symptoms go far beyond what are considered manageable or normal premenstrual symptoms.

PMDD is a combination of symptoms that may include irritability, depressed mood, anxiety, sleep disturbance, difficulty concentrating, angry outbursts, breast tenderness and bloating. The diagnostic criteria emphasize symptoms of depressed mood, anxiety, mood swings or irritability. The condition affects up to one in 20 American women who have regular menstrual periods.

The physical symptom list is identical for PMS and PMDD; while the emotional symptoms are similar, they are significantly more serious with PMDD. In PMDD, the criteria focus on the mood rather than the physical symptoms. With PMS, sadness or mild depression is not uncommon. With PMDD, however, significant depression and hopelessness may occur; in extreme cases, women may feel like killing themselves or others. Attributing suicidal or homicidal feelings to “it’s just PMS” is inappropriate; these feelings must be taken as seriously as they are in anyone else and should be promptly brought to the attention of mental health professionals. The rest of the article is here: http://www.drdonnica.com/display.asp?article=1086

now returning you to your regularly scheduled thread...

zanna

 

[psiberzerker]

As I've said so many times before, feedback is extremely neccisary for the Dominant/sadist. A "grinning idiot" doesn't piss me off nearly so much as a numbfuck. Sure, I'll use the "Whipe that grin off your face" excuse any chance I get, but it's an in character ploy. It encourages the behaviour by rewarding with the pain, or chasizement the bottom wants.
It's all part of the show, folks. We're role players here, some are better than others. A sub laughs at me in a scene, and s/he'll get what s/he deserves.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

sounds a little like what happeend with me and my bf...
He started laughing when I was lubbing his bum....
I didnt find it so funny.
I should have stuffed 3 fingers in there to shut him up.
I so didnt appreciate his giggling.
He said I had little fingers and so light that it tickled

 

[Mystery Lover]

I can realate to "smiling like an idiot" I hadn't seen my Master in three months...when i saw him I had the stupidist grin on my face...I didn't know how to react because this was the first time I had seen him since we started a D/s relationship......He asked me what I was smiling for and I told him I was just happy to see him.....that got a big kiss........I know it's kind of silly........

 

[Pixie Mischief]

awwwww isnt that cute!

I can realate to "smiling like an idiot" I hadn't seen my Master in three months...when i saw him I had the stupidist grin on my face...I didn't know how to react because this was the first time I had seen him since we started a D/s relationship......He asked me what I was smiling for and I told him I was just happy to see him.....that got a big kiss........I know it's kind of silly........