Grief

[FurryFury]

The hardest thing I have ever had to deal with was the loss of my Father. I went to some support groups for that, taking my Mother because she needed it too.

I read a number of books about grieving. The best of which was The Courage to Grieve by Judy Tatelbaum.

Eventually I was able to move on but of course I still miss him. He was part of the framework of my life. There were times I didn't think I'd survive him, things were that bad and violent with him. There were times I took care of him like he were a child. Times too when we were best friends and business partners.

I was determined to not get stuck grieving as I had seen my cousin do when her father died. For a decade she never really lived again. So I worked at it hard. Sadly, my mother never has completely recovered.

I was even asked to give a talk about grieving at a local university. That was some time ago.

Loss is something you don't usually get lessons in coping with. You have to look for those lessons yourself, go through it your own way or get mired in it. It's hard. Anyway, all that is to say, if you ever want to talk I'm here.

Fury

 

[graceanne]

The hardest thing I have ever had to deal with was the loss of my Father. I went to some support groups for that, taking my Mother because she needed it too.

I read a number of books about grieving. The best of which was The Courage to Grieve by Judy Tatelbaum.

Eventually I was able to move on but of course I still miss him. He was part of the framework of my life. There were times I didn't think I'd survive him, things were that bad and violent with him. There were times I took care of him like he were a child. Times too when we were best friends and business partners.

I was determined to not get stuck grieving as I had seen my cousin do when her father died. For a decade she never really lived again. So I worked at it hard. Sadly, my mother never has completely recovered.

I was even asked to give a talk about grieving at a local university. That was some time ago.

Loss is something you don't usually get lessons in coping with. You have to look for those lessons yourself, go through it your own way or get mired in it. It's hard. Anyway, all that is to say, if you ever want to talk I'm here.

Fury

I came to look at this thread, and can't believe I didn't see this. *hugs*

The 18th is the anniversary of Ella's death.

 

[FurryFury]

I came to look at this thread, and can't believe I didn't see this. *hugs*

The 18th is the anniversary of Ella's death.

Anniversaries and other holidays are hard. *HUGS*

Fury

 

[graceanne]

Anniversaries and other holidays are hard. *HUGS*

Fury

Thanks. I've been looking over our conversations. (I save all my YIM conversations.)

I miss her.

 

[shy slave]

I am sending you love and hugs Gracie.

I know you would have been a good friend to her, because thats what you are...A good friend.


The 13th is 18years since my best friend died in a hit and run. She was 33 yrs and left 3 children.

Every year I go and put flowers on her grave, usually as close to the actual day as I can. This year other things have been in my mind, but I will go this week.

Sometimes it feels like yesterday, othertimes it feels a long time ago.

I really think grief is the most painful and personal thing anyone can go through.

I know all the damn stages but they still hurt and they are still far too personal


Gracie

 

[graceanne]

I am sending you love and hugs Gracie.

I know you would have been a good friend to her, because thats what you are...A good friend.


The 13th is 18years since my best friend died in a hit and run. She was 33 yrs and left 3 children.

Every year I go and put flowers on her grave, usually as close to the actual day as I can. This year other things have been in my mind, but I will go this week.

Sometimes it feels like yesterday, othertimes it feels a long time ago.

I really think grief is the most painful and personal thing anyone can go through.

I know all the damn stages but they still hurt and they are still far too personal


Gracie

*hugs*

 

[Iron Bear]

He beat her so bad, that a week later she had a series of seizures. Seven months pregnant that murdering son of a bitch broke her wrist, her jaw, and two ribs. The only reason the ribs were broke was because she rolled to keep him from kicking her in the stomach. Then he shaved her head. He told me, in a drunken rage, that she was ugly on the inside, and he wanted to make her ugly on the outside.

Men who do things like that should be executed by being beaten to death. Any relatives or friends of the victim should be allowed to participate, and it should be done in a public place.

 

[graceanne]

Men who do things like that should be executed by being beaten to death. Any relatives or friends of the victim should be allowed to participate, and it should be done in a public place.

Don't get me started on what I'd like to see done to him. With my luck someone'd do it, and I'd get in trouble for it.

 

[Marquis]

Don't get me started on what I'd like to see done to him. With my luck someone'd do it, and I'd get in trouble for it.

Only if you aided or abetted them in some way, or actively encouraged the illicit acts as they ocurred.

 

[FurryFury]

Only if you aided or abetted them in some way, or actively encouraged the illicit acts as they ocurred.

So sayeth the devil legal mon!

It's true, it must be perfectly true!

Honestly you can't get in trouble for running a "death pool" either or putting a skull on your key chain and rubbing it frenquently hoping for the death of your enemy.

*GRINS*

(Not that I've ever done that...okay yes I have and it worked!)

Fury

 

[graceanne]

Only if you aided or abetted them in some way, or actively encouraged the illicit acts as they ocurred.

What I mean is if I said what I wanted done to him on this thread, and next month he shows up dead - and by the same way I said I wanted him dead, who do you think the authorities are gonna look at first?

 

[Marquis]

What I mean is if I said what I wanted done to him on this thread, and next month he shows up dead - and by the same way I said I wanted him dead, who do you think the authorities are gonna look at first?

I'm sure the cops would have no trouble finding people with a motive to kill a guy like that.

 

[graceanne]

I'm sure the cops would have no trouble finding people with a motive to kill a guy like that.

Well their's also her brother's and her dad. *shrug* Her mom's too busy bitching about how hard her lifes been - it's not like she's ever done anything else, and her sister has cancer.