Good Riddance?

[TaCherie]

I hadn't been here long, but if anyone noticed...I've been gone the last couple months. I hadn't really wanted to have fun with anyone for a while.

Long story short....hubby left.

We fought and fought and fought ever since we got married, and then he took his stuff and left.

I was sad for a long time. Devastated, broken, whatever.

And then....I wasn't. We didn't have kids. Didn't own a house (or much of anything). And we didn't really love each other.

Is it bad that I just want to go out and do all the things I realized I regretted the last 2 years, and that I'm more relieved than anything?

*help*

 

[hairball18]

I hadn't been here long, but if anyone noticed...I've been gone the last couple months. I hadn't really wanted to have fun with anyone for a while.

Long story short....hubby left.

We fought and fought and fought ever since we got married, and then he took his stuff and left.

I was sad for a long time. Devastated, broken, whatever.

And then....I wasn't. We didn't have kids. Didn't own a house (or much of anything). And we didn't really love each other.

Is it bad that I just want to go out and do all the things I realized I regretted the last 2 years, and that I'm more relieved than anything?

*help*

the only thing bad about this is too bad for him when you find someone who deserves you

 

[Scheherazade73]

I'm sure it's been hard for you, so I say this gently and with sisterly love, one woman to another: This is probably the best thing that will ever happen to you.

This poem helped me after a heartbreak. I hope it helps you. Remember who you are, as a woman, as a person worthy of love and validation and kindness from others and yourself. Best of luck.


Sit. Feast On Your Life.

The time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other’s welcome,
and say, sit here. Eat.

You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.

Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.

Sit. Feast on your life.

Derek Walcott

 

[TaCherie]

I'm sure it's been hard for you, so I say this gently and with sisterly love, one woman to another: This is probably the best thing that will ever happen to you.

This poem helped me after a heartbreak. I hope it helps you. Remember who you are, as a woman, as a person worthy of love and validation and kindness from others and yourself. Best of luck.


Sit. Feast On Your Life.

The time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other’s welcome,
and say, sit here. Eat.

You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.

Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.

Sit. Feast on your life.

Derek Walcott

OMG. This is SO sweet! Thank you, so much.

 

[DirkPitt06]

Not that we've talked before, or that I'm any kind of authority on this, but it sounds to me like you know what you want right now. And that's what's important, again, right now. Maybe you ought to pursue it and live in the moment.

 

[BeachMomma]

The fact that you're relieved means you're moving on. That's a good thing. It probably also means that you've realized for some time that your marriage wasn't what it should be. Many people grieve over the loss of a marriage before it's actually over, so by the time it is over, the need for grief has passed.

Wanting to go out and do the things you regret not doing? That's pretty normal. A lot of divorcees go through that stage. There's nothing wrong with it at all, in my personal opinion.

Having said that, if there's any chance at all that you may get back together, just realize that it could become a stumbling block. Sometimes distance does make the heart grow fonder.

 

[Scheherazade73]

OMG. This is SO sweet! Thank you, so much.

Welcome!

 

[TaCherie]

The fact that you're relieved means you're moving on. That's a good thing. It probably also means that you've realized for some time that your marriage wasn't what it should be. Many people grieve over the loss of a marriage before it's actually over, so by the time it is over, the need for grief has passed.

Wanting to go out and do the things you regret not doing? That's pretty normal. A lot of divorcees go through that stage. There's nothing wrong with it at all, in my personal opinion.

Having said that, if there's any chance at all that you may get back together, just realize that it could become a stumbling block. Sometimes distance does make the heart grow fonder.

Thank you...you ladies definitely know what I need to hear

 

[BeachMomma]

Thank you...you ladies definitely know what I need to hear

I can't speak for the others, but I've been there. You only have to please you. As long as your conscience is clear, that's all you really have to worry about. Live, enjoy yourself, do what you know is right, and don't worry about what anybody else thinks. Life is too damn short for that.

 

[flirtygirly]

I agree with BeachMomma...if you're feeling relieved, that is a good sign.

You went thru your period of grieving or recovery or whatever, and now it sounds like you're ready to move on. So...go out have some fun, be sexy, be daring, explore, leave no regrets behind!

 

[TaCherie]

I can't speak for the others, but I've been there. You only have to please you. As long as your conscience is clear, that's all you really have to worry about. Live, enjoy yourself, do what you know is right, and don't worry about what anybody else thinks. Life is too damn short for that.

FUCK. YES.

 

[TaCherie]

I agree with BeachMomma...if you're feeling relieved, that is a good sign.

You went thru your period of grieving or recovery or whatever, and now it sounds like you're ready to move on. So...go out have some fun, be sexy, be daring, explore, leave no regrets behind!

It's been quite a while since I've felt "sexy"...but I have a feeling I can make that happen....maybe tonight!

 

[flirtygirly]

It's been quite a while since I've felt "sexy"...but I have a feeling I can make that happen....maybe tonight!

You can do it! Been in that situation...when I was ready to move on...I didn't know what to do. But once you get going...you will be a sex kitten!!

 

[TaCherie]

You can do it! Been in that situation...when I was ready to move on...I didn't know what to do. But once you get going...you will be a sex kitten!!

I got a big grin...and maybe just a little wet at the thought of being called "sex kitten"

NOW I remember why I wanted to go back here.

 

[EctoJohn]

Nope, better to have no regrets.

 

[eroticman61]

the way I see it

sexy kitten. you get one chance to live life. my motto, no regrets!

long live lust!!!!!!!!

 

[DRS_EROS]

I got a big grin...and maybe just a little wet at the thought of being called "sex kitten"

NOW I remember why I wanted to go back here.

We have all been through what you have been through, some more than once, including myself. You have gotten over the hard part, that part is time, now you can see the relationship, him, and your feelings for what they were, in a new, more realistic light. The pain and hurt and anxiety are gone now, move on, try not to make the same mistake again. But realize that if you do, and you probably will, you will survive and remember because of the pain and heartache you went through, that one person will not control your life, your future, your happiness, your sense of self worth ever again.

 

[need_2_cum]

Keep on .......

I got a big grin...and maybe just a little wet at the thought of being called "sex kitten"

NOW I remember why I wanted to go back here.

Keep on smilin that sexy smile in your AV & keep lookin with those beautiful eyes & you'll find what you are lookin for. Glad you moved on from what was making you unhappy. Enjoy what lies ahead.

Nick

 

[Lone_Wanderer]

I hadn't been here long, but if anyone noticed...I've been gone the last couple months. I hadn't really wanted to have fun with anyone for a while.

Long story short....hubby left.

We fought and fought and fought ever since we got married, and then he took his stuff and left.

I was sad for a long time. Devastated, broken, whatever.

And then....I wasn't. We didn't have kids. Didn't own a house (or much of anything). And we didn't really love each other.

Is it bad that I just want to go out and do all the things I realized I regretted the last 2 years, and that I'm more relieved than anything?

*help*

It's not bad at all. There are lots of people who would just keep feeling helpless and self-conscious.

It's a 'tabula rasa"...the clean slate. Make the most of it!

 

[einsteinium]

Hey Cherie

I know what you're going through. Kind of in a similar situation. If you want to chat anytime, about ANYTHING naughty or nice, let me know.

 

[Prince Albert]

I hadn't been here long, but if anyone noticed...I've been gone the last couple months. I hadn't really wanted to have fun with anyone for a while.

Long story short....hubby left.

We fought and fought and fought ever since we got married, and then he took his stuff and left.

I was sad for a long time. Devastated, broken, whatever.

And then....I wasn't. We didn't have kids. Didn't own a house (or much of anything). And we didn't really love each other.

Is it bad that I just want to go out and do all the things I realized I regretted the last 2 years, and that I'm more relieved than anything?

*help*

No it is not; you regret the marriage, because it feels like you "failed". Now you feel like you have to "restart" your life. If you need t talk more I ma here or on yahoo.

 

[JK Kensington]

TaCherie,

As others have already said, I've been in the same situation only it took my ex-wife and I seven years of marriage to figure it out. No kids, but we did own a house. I had moved 2,000 miles away for a new job, so I pretty much let her have everything and we were both much, much happier. We've each since remarried.

You're gonna land on your feet just fine!

 

[ProfQ1955]

Just remember to forgive yourself first and forgive him and all will be fine. That is how I got over my ex.

 

[blksoldier]

I hadn't been here long, but if anyone noticed...I've been gone the last couple months. I hadn't really wanted to have fun with anyone for a while.

Long story short....hubby left.

We fought and fought and fought ever since we got married, and then he took his stuff and left.

I was sad for a long time. Devastated, broken, whatever.

And then....I wasn't. We didn't have kids. Didn't own a house (or much of anything). And we didn't really love each other.

Is it bad that I just want to go out and do all the things I realized I regretted the last 2 years, and that I'm more relieved than anything?

*help*

Well it seems to me that help arrived when he walked out the door

 

[TaCherie]

Thanks for the support, everyone

It's been a wild few weeks...I haven't had time to get on, but i've got lots of stories to share!!

(Two words: Mardi. Gras.)