Good Morning

[Beck31]

The question of the day is do you consider cyber sex cheating?

 

[justbeingme1]

The question of the day is do you consider cyber sex cheating?

I do not

 

[tnafan24]

No way

Everyone has some secrets...it may even make the sex in the relationship better.

 

[Beck31]

Well I guess it is just talk and as long as it does not spill over into RL then I could see both sides of the issue. The Mrs says she does not mind b/c it is just talk and does not take things
like this all that seriously. Still sometimes I do feel bad b/c I have gotten really carried away in a few cases.

 

[sparc101]

I do not, though some might.

I do not do it, but only because I find it somewhat a waste of time. I prefer just chatting.

 

[Youremine]

I do not, I can see where some would think so. I think it's important to have a boundary set with your SO that way there are no issues

 

[Youremine]

This is very true in my experience!

 

[Beck31]

Thanks for the responces.

 

[Kitschshaman]

I personally do not, though I recognize that many do. Just chatting about general things and true conversations about things a person cannot share anywhere else truly is not. Sex chat is not as long as it's ... well, basically interactive porn, that no serious feelings are involved. When the line is crossed where the conversations involve true feelings and sex, well .. beyond that point there be dragons.

 

[mijayoo]

I have contemplated this question many times. One thing I have learned on this forum is that guys are more likely to be up front about being married, to me this saves a lot of headaches and heart aches. I would rather have safe "drama free" cyber sex with a guy than date him only to find out his partner is not to keen on the idea of sharing. I have come to my personal conclusion that cyber sex is more of a sexual release much like reading erotica than it is actually cheating. I am sure there are plenty of people that will disagree with me.

 

[southern_gal]

The question of the day is do you consider cyber sex cheating?

My vote is honestly that I don't know. I started a thread on the subject because it has gotten my interest. On the one hand I want to say no but on the other hand, if one develops an attraction to their cyber partner how can you not think of it as cheating? Things are never easy for me. Maybe that, in truth is why I have lived my life with a rather narrow focus.

 

[Beck31]

Thanks. That is a good way to look at it.

 

[MatthewVett]

I don't, but I can definitely understand the opposite position.

 

[Beck31]

okay.

 

[HotHelen]

by the strictest definition, yes, it's cheating. you ate sharing an emotional and erotic experience with someone who is not your SO.

however, the remote nature of it does provide a bit of grey area, and the opportunity to engage online in a fetish or fantasy that your SO is not into may very well keep one from seeking out this release physically with another person (or two, or three!) which might actually prevent one from the classic definition of cheating.

i guess the bottom line would be if your online activity causes you to change the way you ferl about your SO. if no, then it's harmless fun and a step up from simple masturbation. if yes, then it's probably an indication of a deeper problem between you and your SO.

 

[Eilan]

Justify it however you want, but if you're engaging in an activity (RL or online) that your SO would be hurt by if he or she found out about it, then you're cheating.

It's important for couples to communicate about stuff like this and establish ground rules.

 

[Beck31]

Justify it however you want, but if you're engaging in an activity (RL or online) that your SO would be hurt by if he or she found out about it, then you're cheating.

It's important for couples to communicate about stuff like this and establish ground rules.

Yes. Communication is important. It is a little more complicated. It is ok with her b/c it is just talk. She just does not want me to fall in love. I have wound
up cheating in the past when I was seperated from a girlfriend.

 

[Aurelia_Malys]

I think the problem is deceit, in whatever form it takes. So yes, cybersex can be cheating ... but doesn't have to be.

 

[Beck31]

good morning

I think the problem is deceit, in whatever form it takes. So yes, cybersex can be cheating ... but doesn't have to be.

true enough i guess.

 

[Imaginationgirl]

I think cheating is anything that involves emotional and sexual attachment to a person other then your significant other.

My hubby and I have been together for a long time. Since we started dating young, we have had our fair share of cheating in the past. In all honesty the non sexual, more emotional ones hurt the most. Sex is sex. It's when you get an attachment there's a major problem.

Porn is fine for me. But the minute that porn has a responsive human behind it communicating. Eh.

Just my opinion though.

 

[Beck31]

Hmm. Ty for the honest responce.

 

[Kingsak]

As has been stated, it's not cheating if your SO is into it too.
It should always be long-distance too. No local, that could lead to
RW introductions - and that IS cheating!
My humble opinion.

 

[Aurelia_Malys]

I think cheating is anything that involves emotional and sexual attachment to a person other then your significant other.

My hubby and I have been together for a long time. Since we started dating young, we have had our fair share of cheating in the past. In all honesty the non sexual, more emotional ones hurt the most. Sex is sex. It's when you get an attachment there's a major problem.

Porn is fine for me. But the minute that porn has a responsive human behind it communicating. Eh.

Just my opinion though.

I agree with you. For me the problem is an attachment or emotional connection that "replaces" the time and attachment between you and your significant other. My ex-husband had emotional connections that may have not actually progressed to sex (though i doubt it) but learning of that emotional connection between them was hurtful. My master/husband having sex with someone else does not threaten me or worry me at all. I know he wont deceive me or try to replace me or give time and attention to someone else by taking it from me.

 

[nastyman12a]

I don't think it's cheating at all. To me chatting is just another way to express your fantasy, and to use your imagination. yes you maybe involving another person in it. But then again, you do the same thing if you go to a shrink, you let out your most inner thoughts, sometimes about sex, life or what ever is on your mind. Hell most people just go to a bar, and get so drunk and talk to a random stranger.

Either way, be it chatting about wild sex, or just intimate parts of your life. Your just expressing yourself. Instead of holding it in. And we all need someone to talk to about what's on our minds.

The part of it that usually hurts your partner the most. is when you choose to hide it from them.

Again just my opinion.

 

[Imaginationgirl]

I agree with you. For me the problem is an attachment or emotional connection that "replaces" the time and attachment between you and your significant other. My ex-husband had emotional connections that may have not actually progressed to sex (though i doubt it) but learning of that emotional connection between them was hurtful. My master/husband having sex with someone else does not threaten me or worry me at all. I know he wont deceive me or try to replace me or give time and attention to someone else by taking it from me.

That's my exact feelings worded better. Lol