Good Behavior When Encountering a Member of the Board in Real Life.

[Samuari]

I will be attending a couple of seminars and conventions this spring and summer, at which it is very possible that various members of this board may be in attendance also. Since my face is known here, as are a lot of others, how should we react if we recognize a fellow board member? I’m not talking about an arranged lunch, or other tryst, but something totally serendipitous.

What if we are not certain of the id? Is there a way to approach the person and politely ask if they are who we think that they are, while giving minimal exposure to both parties? I would hate pass up getting to know most of you because I did not know what to say,. Even worse, would to make an improper approach and expose them to unwanted questions from their friends, collogues, or family.

What is the proper way of dealing with this potentially awkward situation?

 

[Gilly Bean]

I would say that first off all, it would be rather improper to call to attention just where you think you may know the other from. Simply because some of the other people with said person might not know what sick pervs we all are.

I guess I would suggest asking politly if you know the other, and if the other asks from where, just state as blandly as possible, that you thought you recognized them from a message board you visit.


Then, if they say no, wht not, leave it at that, apoligize for taking up thier time, yada yada yada.


If they say yes, then just take it from there.

 

[Merelan]

I too have wondered at this. Being in retail it is quite likely I have seen some of you. I have talked to a couple members, ones I am likely to see, and asked what we should do?
Not that they know my face, or I there's. But, well.

What if you see someone you know from here? or figure it out?

The other day a lady came through my line I swear was Nobody Soecial's Wife and her new baby. I am still not convinced it wasn't. Do to several things she said and called the baby and all that. Was odd and I almost, but didn't, say anything.

By the way, I don't live anywhere near them, but the lady said she was visiting relatives. Maybe I should go ask her.

I don't know what to tell you Sam. if it's me, you will know when I climb in your lap.

 

[Cath!]

What is the proper way of dealing with this potentially awkward situation?

Well, if I were to meet you I would probably pounce on you and give a huge lipsmacking kiss and maybe even a grope or two...then I would stand back and say...Hi, nice to meet you, now where the hell is the dog?

 

[SimplySouthern]

If there are places you are likely to visit that other Lit members are visiting, perhaps a thread on the BB advertising that you will be there and asking for PMs from those interested in a possible hello.

That way, those interested in saying Hi have the option and those who would rather not are afforded the same option.

In the case of a chance meeting, I would say to introduce yourself and say, "Don't I know you from somewhere?" I certainly wouldn't throw out this website name or anything "pornish". I know the group that I work for would be shocked and appalled. (as would my mother)

 

[Puddles The Wonder Poodle]

Re: Re: Good Behavior When Encountering a Member of the Board in Real Life.

Well, if I were to meet you I would probably pounce on you and give a huge lipsmacking kiss and maybe even a grope or two...then I would stand back and say...Hi, nice to meet you, now where the hell is the dog?

Right here, dear. Can't let Sammy get to far off his leash, ya know. and Merelan, I thought that we had a date? How come everyones swarming all over Sammy, anyway? He's just a man, I'm a real bitch.

 

[lovetoread]

I wouldnt use the whole name of this site,but I wouldnt mind being asked if I posted to a board on the Lit site.

I think we all know what Lit is and no one else would know it unless they came here too.

There are a lot of people I would love to see on the street and say hello to.

 

[Samuari]

Re: Re: Re: Good Behavior When Encountering a Member of the Board in Real Life.

Right here, dear. Can't let Sammy get to far off his leash, ya know. and Merelan, I thought that we had a date? How come everyones swarming all over Sammy, anyway? He's just a man, I'm a real bitch.

Damn it, Pudds! I've warned you to keep your cold, wet nose out of my threads. Do it one more time, and you're back out on the porch. No 'putter for a week! Grounded!

 

[Starfish]

I agree with SimplySouthern. I would make a post about the particular event before hand. Maybe you could even set up a meeting time and that would make it more likely suitable for all parties involoved.

If I were Puddles though, and were going to a convention, I'd clearly just do a suprise leg humping attack, and hope they get the idea and recongnize me quickly. That way if they don't, they can just be like... "Oh, what a cute little doggie!" and shrug it off to scent misinterpretation.

 

[Samuari]

I wouldnt use the whole name of this site,but I wouldnt mind being asked if I posted to a board on the Lit site.

I think we all know what Lit is and no one else would know it unless they came here too.

There are a lot of people I would love to see on the street and say hello to.

Yup, me too. I wonder though if asking if some one had been to Lit would be cyrptic enough to do the trick, and yet still be unmistakeable? But it is a step in the right direction.

SS, I was thinking about an unplaned encounter. I might like to do something like that,though, depending on the circumstances. In fact I did once. When going to a city where I knew a member lived, I let her know when I would be there and she invited me to lunch. It was good, and I made an old friend into a "real" one.

Gilly, thanks.

 

[Guest]

Southern and Starfishhhhy nailed it. Among other things. Be smart and plan ahead. But that being said, I'd love to run into Cathi somewhere......

 

[Weird Harold]

I think we may have a mutual friend...

Do you know Laurel or Manu?

I wouldn't approach someone unless I was reasonably sure who they are and wouldn't freak out at being "caught surrfing a porn site."

FWIW, if you're in Las Vegas and see me, just asking if I'm Weird Harold will work. (Since I'm a recluse, it isn't likely you'll encounter me without some prior arrangement though.)

 

[Rambling Rose]

We need a secret handshake! Decoder rings? Come on you guys...let's put on a show in the barn!

 

[perks]

lol...the secret handshake?....I'm not sure wagglin' someone's dick in public is the right way to go.

ohhhhh...you meant

 

[daughter]

Exercising discretion

Sam--

I wouldn't be offended by someone asking me we knew each other. However depending on the social setting, it would be prudent to be as discreet as you could.

I would ask in the most natural way I knew how if I knew the person. In a social gathering, I would prefer to ask only if I were able to speak one on one with the person and not in close proximity of others. I'd say I'd belong to an online community and something that the person said or her looks made me think that maybe we knew each other. I would reference the most innocous things I could think of such as popular members names or that the site was for avid readers.

I am a member of a closed society. I have quite a bit of practice of doing this kind of thing. It is rarely awkward when I see someone on the 'outside'. I use familiar buzzwords and 99% of the time, I have been greeted warmly by a correct assestment. The 1% of the time, was a case of mistaken identity. No hard feelings.

I am a member of a 12step program. We have jargon unique to our community. A person might not catch on to a reference, but I have never known someone to become offended by me casually asking.

Since you know in advance about a possible meeting, I'd ask members to contact you privately if they'd like to chat while in attendance.

Hope you have a good time.

Peace,

daughter

 

[LukkyKnight]

T-shirts

"I'm not a perv - I *ahem* read my news at Literotica.com"

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

I will be attending a couple of seminars and conventions this spring and summer, at which it is very possible that various members of this board may be in attendance also.

Me too. In fact, I just got back from one. If anyone did a little research they could easily figure out what conference I was at.

But, no one knows my face (well, one or two of you luckly little gals, but that's it), so I don't have to worry about "running into" anyone.

I would think that even if you did run into someone who's seen your photo, it would be unlikely that they would have so committed it to memory that they'd recognize you, particularly given different hair styles, clothes and lighting.

But, if someone did manage to see past all that and actually peg you, then I think the proper etiquette is to immediately anal fuck him with an obligatory reach-around. I have to check with "Miss Manners" on this, but I'm pretty sure that's it.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Re: Re: Good Behavior When Encountering a Member of the Board in Real Life.

But, if someone did manage to see past all that and actually peg you, then I think the proper etiquette is to immediately anal fuck him with an obligatory reach-around. I have to check with "Miss Manners" on this, but I'm pretty sure that's it.

So, now I need to pack a strap-on in my bag so it's available wherever I may roam?

 

[Laurel]

What I Like To Do Is

yell "Hey, don't you submit BDSM sex stories to Literotica!?" across the room.

 

[Cath!]

Re: What I Like To Do Is

yell "Hey, don't you submit BDSM sex stories to Literotica!?" across the room.

hey...I have an idea!! Why not sell a little pin that you could put on your collar that you could buy from here...one that screams out LITEROTICA!! without being too obvious?

I could be your canadian distributor! So people wouldn't have to pay the exchange or worry about mailing!

 

[Wiggles]

Re: What I Like To Do Is

yell "Hey, don't you submit BDSM sex stories to Literotica!?" across the room.

Hey! That was YOU??

 

[Laurel]

It's a deal.

Just so y'all know, I was joking. Of course I'm not going to yell out "Hey, don't you submit BDSM sex stories to Literotica!?" Not everyone writes BDSM stories.

 

[Laurel]

Re: Re: What I Like To Do Is

Hey! That was YOU??

 

[Ask For More]

You could just dicreetly refer to their username. Although if the guy was called 12incher69 or something like that it could cause problems....

 

[cymbidia]

Re: Exercising discretion

yell "Hey, don't you submit BDSM sex stories to Literotica!?" across the room.

What's wrong with writing BDSM sex stories and submitting them to Literotica? Humfph.

I am a member of a closed society. I have quite a bit of practice of doing this kind of thing. It is rarely awkward when I see someone on the 'outside'. I use familiar buzzwords and 99% of the time, I have been greeted warmly by a correct assestment. The 1% of the time, was a case of mistaken identity. No hard feelings.

I, too, am a member of a rather huidden society. Though it's less formal than daughter's, it exists, nonetheless, and carries with it widely understood "rules" about public contact. If i were to see someone from a BDSM play party or gathering out in everyday life, my bank teller, for example, or the man who showed up to give me an estimate on the repairs to my roof, i'd only smile politely and work a few very subtle words and phrases into our conversation. If they wanted to talk about it, they could. If not, i'd always respect thier wishes and the subject would remain closed between us.

Nothing good can come from forcing people to acknowledge connections with you that they'd rather not admit, for *whatever* their reasons.

Sam? Post here where you'll be. Ask if you can have lunch or dinner or a drink with whoever lives there.

Are you coming to the San Francisco area?
I'd love to see you.